An amicable separation

paulsgirl

Hi

Just need some advice on this one. Myself and my husband have split after 3 years of marriage. We have no kids.

We would like to keep the costs down so I'm wondering if it's better to go through a solicitor or a mediator.

We both have our own houses so all we need to do is get the legal separation in place so we can then get in line for divorce.

Can anyone advise on the best approach? Or can we write our own agreement or something like that?

Solicitor said that it will cost the person that's issuing the proceedings, €3k and the other €1k.

johnnyskeleton

Shop around to see if another solicitor will do it for less

Lalaloca

You do not need to go to court to separate. You can do up a separation agreement. Your solicitor will help you with this. The more your husband and you have agreed in advance the cheaper, easier and faster it will be. If you want to fight about the dog/wedding present cutlery/whatever you will pay more

December2012

A mediator might be the best way for you to separate and give you both a chance to mutually agree what you want, with that mediators help.

*sometimes* when there are solicitors involved things by their very nature that are sad become adversarial.

Delancey

Agree as much as possible yourselves ( using a mediator if required ) - once lawyers get involved the costs shoot up.
If an amicable split no reason to get a Solicitor involved until it comes to drafting an agreement.

ResearchWill

Delancey wrote: »

Agree as much as possible yourselves ( using a mediator if required ) - once lawyers get involved the costs shoot up.
If an amicable split no reason to get a Solicitor involved until it comes to drafting an agreement.

As a person who works in the law, you are going to be surprised when I agree with you. If it is amicable, use a good mediator, there is nothing stoping you agreeing everything and getting professional help when ye pretty much have it all sorted, to make sure all the legal stuff, like pension adjustment orders are completed correctly.

paulsgirl

Thanks so much for everyones help.

Yes we are talking and its very clear cut as we were only married 3 years and both have our own savings/house etc with no kids.

So I will search for a mediator and give them a call. Thank you.

Marcusm

Remember however that while it can all be sorted out now, there is nothing final about the financial aspects of an Irish divorce as either party can seek a readjustment at any stage in the future. It's an entitlement from which no opt out is possible.

paulsgirl

Wow, thats interesting. I didn't know that.

daltonmd

paulsgirl wrote: »

Thanks so much for everyones help.

Yes we are talking and its very clear cut as we were only married 3 years and both have our own savings/house etc with no kids.

So I will search for a mediator and give them a call. Thank you.

http://www.mediationinsteadofcourt.ie/services/



Try out these guys. Good luck.

paulsgirl

Cool. You are all so helpful. Thanks again. Will check the link out...looks good.