Dating Site

LegacyUser

I have a very brief chat with a stranger on a dating site, we then exchange photos. I don't like what I see. I find I say nothing at times, and they come back with "Did you not like my photo?" How do I handle it, without hurting the persons feelings?

Any advice welcome.

lynsalot

Hi OP

Well this is unusual... most people I think would just ignore the person so good for you!!

I suppose just be honest. Well there's two options here. Either be honest and explain you've received their picture and you're not attracted to them. Or dwindle the communication until you're no longer chatting.

You only had a brief encounter so they shouldn't take too much offence to a total stranger explaining they're not attracted to them. it is a dating site so explain that she's not what u were looking for.

I can't say I'd be offended if someone bothered to explain it to me!!

indough

just say they arent your type or something, no need to tell them theyre unattractive

Ickle Magoo

There is a very long running and informative thread on on-line dating in The Gentleman's Club HERE which might be worth a read?

All the best OP. :cool:

LegacyUser

OP here again..

I'm a lady...

Maybe ignoring is the best option? As I've been ignored and I read it as he's not interested, and because the contact is so brief, it's hard to take it personal. I guess, I just don't like upsetting guys, who maybe sensitive.

Ickle Magoo

How to handle it wrote: »

I'm a lady...

If that was in response to my suggestion of reading a thread in tGC...the thread on on-line dating is posted on by both genders.

cuana

How to handle it wrote: »

I have a very brief chat with a stranger on a dating site, we then exchange photos. I don't like what I see. I find I say nothing at times, and they come back with "Did you not like my photo?" How do I handle it, without hurting the persons feelings?

Any advice welcome.

Its important to like what you see I did the same thing until a pointed out that I was being harsh!! and she was right so I met the guy for a coffee STUNNER! much more better looking in person then in his actual photo so maybe just meet him in person oh and also alot easier to let him down if there is no chemistry you could say at least you tried

Lorna123

How to handle it wrote: »

I have a very brief chat with a stranger on a dating site, we then exchange photos. I don't like what I see. I find I say nothing at times, and they come back with "Did you not like my photo?" How do I handle it, without hurting the persons feelings?

Any advice welcome.

You had a very brief chat with a stranger so you don't owe him anything. You could say that you liked his photo but that you got back with an ex and so you are not out there looking anymore, or you could say that you think he looks very nice but that you met someone already and just want to see how that goes before dating anyone else.

WindSock

Tell him he looks like your brother / cousin / dad / son

Honey-ec

cuana wrote: »

Its important to like what you see I did the same thing until a pointed out that I was being harsh!! and she was right so I met the guy for a coffee STUNNER! much more better looking in person then in his actual photo so maybe just meet him in person oh and also alot easier to let him down if there is no chemistry you could say at least you tried

Ah here,you can't meet up with everyone who messages you on a site just in case they *might* be far better looking in real life than in their pics. Who has the time?

OP, you're over-analysing the situation, IMO. If you really, really feel the need to send a reply rather than just ignore them, Windsock's suggestion is probably the best. But the general consensus from the gents on the Online Dating thread is that they'd rather the girl in question just sent no reply at all.

Piliger

How to handle it wrote: »

OP here again..

I'm a lady...

Maybe ignoring is the best option? As I've been ignored and I read it as he's not interested, and because the contact is so brief, it's hard to take it personal. I guess, I just don't like upsetting guys, who maybe sensitive.

Hi OP. As a guy, I think your sentiment is really great. It does hurt sometimes and it's nice to meet a gal who cares.

I suggest you just drop him a short message saying that he looks very nice, but you just don't feel any chemistry and wish him the best of luck on the site.

Best of luck !

LegacyUser

Op here again.

Thanks for all your replies, especially you Piligar