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What's her problem?

  • 14-06-2012 7:00am
    #1
    dodderangler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,204 ✭✭✭


    I'm with the gf near 4 years now have a 2 half year old aswell and everything was going great
    Then lost my job and havin had one since and I am looking everywhere. Since losing the job she is at me for everything.
    Arguments are popping up left right and centre and I admit I tend to shout a lot when in an argument especially when I know I'm right about something also I admit I do have bit of a rage inside during arguments and admit I want to get help(keep in mind I have never laid a finger on her and never will) but I want her to stop givin me a hard time over a job as its so hard to get work. I spend everyday minding the little one as her family never seem to wanna take the baby and moan if I can't do it as I'm now back at home in my and I have chores and a house just isn't gonna happen right now. When we are together she is always on that stupid Facebook and is always looking at her friends page who is same age and has girl same age and lives with her bf in their own house but his mam and dad has helped them out loads and she thinks she's in direct competition with this girl and it's drivin me mad. she also compares me to him and then denies it
    Why is she at me all the time?
    Why won't she stop being childish about her mate?
    Also where can I get help about my rage?

    Sorry it's so long but there is more I just havin put in don't want to bore yas
    Thanks


Comments

  • #2
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 14,904 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    I think her problem is she is a single mother, still living at home with her parents, with an unemployed, argumentative bf.

    Not saying you being unemployed is your fault or avoidable, but it is part of her problem.

    Speak to your GP about your anger. They can direct you the way to go.

    You both sound a bit fed up of each other. Maybe both of you (not just you) need to make more of an effort with each other.

    Do you love her? Do you think if you didn't have the baby that you would still be together?

    If the answers to those is yes, then you will find a way to make it work.


  • #3
    Lorna123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,116 ✭✭✭Lorna123


    dodderangler wrote: »
    I'm with the gf near 4 years now have a 2 half year old aswell and everything was going great
    Then lost my job and havin had one since and I am looking everywhere. Since losing the job she is at me for everything.
    Arguments are popping up left right and centre and I admit I tend to shout a lot when in an argument especially when I know I'm right about something also I admit I do have bit of a rage inside during arguments and admit I want to get help(keep in mind I have never laid a finger on her and never will) but I want her to stop givin me a hard time over a job as its so hard to get work. I spend everyday minding the little one as her family never seem to wanna take the baby and moan if I can't do it as I'm now back at home in my and I have chores and a house just isn't gonna happen right now. When we are together she is always on that stupid Facebook and is always looking at her friends page who is same age and has girl same age and lives with her bf in their own house but his mam and dad has helped them out loads and she thinks she's in direct competition with this girl and it's drivin me mad. she also compares me to him and then denies it
    Why is she at me all the time?
    Why won't she stop being childish about her mate?
    Also where can I get help about my rage?

    Sorry it's so long but there is more I just havin put in don't want to bore yas
    Thanks


    That's really hard OP to be genuinely looking for work and not be able to get it. There are so many people in your position right now. It is also very hard to be in the company of a 2 year old all day long even though it is your own daughter. Then to get grief from your OH as well, I do feel for you.
    Could you have a chat with your OH when in a calm mood and just tell her how you feel. I really hope that things work out for you. You seem to be doing quite well considering how you are fixed. Just hang on in there.


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