At what age does someone being a virgin a dealbreaker for you?

Cybercubed

Today I had a conversation about someone saying they were still a virgin and that they think they'll always be one. And seeing some posts on here how much it bothers them and how its affects the likelyhood of them ever being in a relationship.

That got me wondering, at what age would being a virgin be a deal breaker.

Ok, so you meet this guy/girl. They are perfect for you in every way. They take you out and it was an instant connection, something you've been waiting for your entire life. In the course of the evening they do or say something that makes you think, "This is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with."

But over the course of talking throughout the week you come to find that they're a virgin. You've been inside their home and there's no lampshades made of human skin, they have actual friends, healthy relationship with their mother, etc etc.

My female friends say that it wouldn't matter. Another friend said that after about 26 it'd be a bit weird. What says Boards? And if it would be a deal breaker, why?

ETA: For the sake of this poll "After 20" means older than 21. "After 30" means older than 31 etc. If it's, for example 26 click After 20 and clarify in response. Thank you.

Duggys Housemate

Tree fiddy

Clitlady

Virgin boy? no thanks

MrStuffins

As long as she's not saving herself for Jesus then what's the problem?

danslevent

The only turn off would be the fact that they wouldn't really have a clue on how to truly pleasure you...other than that...STI FREE!!!

MrStuffins

By the way, you've decided you want to spend the rest of your life with them during the first date!

I think it's safe to say you're the scary one in this scenario!

mauzo

No way....I like older men purely because they are more likely to know their way around the bedroom.

Theres no way i could be with him. Id probably break him the first time.

What are we talking here, they want to stay a virgin until marriage? they will give it up after a few months?

ejmaztec

93.

Princess Peach

Don't care.

Not being a virgin does not mean a guy is good in bed. Fact.

im invisible

I think ive seen this film

GLaDOS

I don't think it'd bother me in itself, once they weren't a no sex before marriage type, that would be a dealbreaker.

Ledger

Princess Peach wrote: »

Don't care.

Not being a virgin does not mean a guy is good in bed. Fact.

Jaysus Peach, I already apologised for that! Stop bringing it up! :mad:


EDIT: It wouldn't be a problem for me, some people are just not that great when it comes to the opposite or same sex, whatever way you're inclined.

I have no problem saying I had my own problems in that sense. Some people take longer than others when it comes to getting to that stage with someone.

The King of Moo

It wouldn't bother me, just as any partner's sexual history wouldn't bother me.

I could also pretend that I'm a master lover.

"Yeah, it's supposed to be like that."

"But..."

"They make it seem longer on tv and in films to fill time. Also, if someone's really good, their body will make them come early because the pleasure would be so intense it could actually kill the other person."

"Well, I guess that makes sense..."

"Yeah, it does."

EdenHazard

I'd find it cute.

GLaDOS

The King of Moo wrote: »

It wouldn't bother me, just any partner's sexual history doesn't bother me.

I could also pretend that I'm a master lover.

"Yeah, it's supposed to be like that."

"But..."

"They make it seem longer on tv and in films to fill time. Also, if someone's really good, their body will make them come early because the pleasure would be so intense it could actually kill the other person."

"Well, I guess that makes sense..."

"Yeah, it does."

Also most women find it sexy if the guy falls asleep straight after.

fasttalkerchat

Don't break the deal; break her in!

Johro

Poll confused me...
Need to lie down.

Smidge

ScienceNerd wrote: »

Also most women find it sexy if the guy falls asleep straight after.

Prefer it that way.
Less mindless crappy chit chat

Rabies

Duggys Housemate wrote: »

Tree fiddy

Here, have a sandwich as a prize for that post

The King of Moo

mishkalucy wrote: »

Prefer it that way.
Less mindless crappy chit chat

And his socks can keep both of your feet warm, so no need to take them off at all.

beks101

I'd probably get a good thrill out of being a guy's first tbh, and teaching someone the ropes would prob be incredibly hot if there was really strong chemistry between the two of you.

Princess Peach

beks101 wrote: »

I'd probably get a good thrill out of being a guy's first tbh, and teaching someone the ropes would prob be incredibly hot if there was really strong chemistry between the two of you.

This is also a fantasy of mine

Senna

I think i'd prefer it, just think of the possibilities.....

"No you have to do it, thats the rules of sex"
"most girls really really enjoy this..."
"dont speak with your mouth full"

and of course
"2 inches is normal"
"yes every fella only lasts 3 seconds"

Fromthetrees

What a comprehensive poll, well done you. I went with over 40, think at that age it might be a bit weird to be going and breaking a lovely woman's cherry, not for me anyway.

Woz mayb gona tell a stoopid tail of stupide me n virginiti n somtin bout me been 15 n a blak prosie on mi hols r sumtin crasy r sumtin I donet remembre tho, soz.

im invisible

Princess Peach wrote: »

This is also a fantasy of mine

pm sent...

John Doe1

If a women is a virgin after 30 she starts to boylify

http://www.google.ie/imgres?q=susan+boyle+ugly&um=1&hl=en&sa=N&biw=1024&bih=677&tbm=isch&tbnid=mRabZiIxu2yaLM:&imgrefurl=http://goodlifezen.com/2009/04/20/why-susan-boyle-makes-us-cr/&docid=qumLbuqOzD4GNM&imgurl=http://goodlifezen.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/susan-boyle1.jpg&w=647&h=384&ei=WJzWT5j-J4rJhAe1gPXtAw&zoom=1

beks101

beks101 wrote: »

I'd probably get a good thrill out of being a guy's first tbh, and teaching someone the ropes would prob be incredibly hot if there was really strong chemistry between the two of you.

Princess Peach wrote: »

This is also a fantasy of mine

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dhg2ic4JMn4

Ficheall

Don't worry, OP - it'll be fine. Just tell your gf that you're a virgin. It's unlikely that she'll mind. And sure if she does, isn't better that you find out now?

nice_very

I'm 36 and male, (and single, girls of AH) to be honest any girl in my "age range" I would expect to have quite a bit of experience, and quite frankly theres nothing worse than someone over 25 with no idea of bed/sex etiquette

Dohnny Jepp

nice_very wrote: »

and quite frankly theres nothing worse than someone over 25 with no idea of bed/sex etiquette

AIDS

nice_very

Dohnny Jepp wrote: »

AIDS

Arse In Desperate State ??? agreed Im not into scat

BeerSteakBirds

The interesting question is

Would this hypothetical person be a Virgin by choice or not ?

If someone hot or even decent looking has just told you that they were waiting 40 years until you arrived like John Wayne then I smell a scam and if you believe it then you might end up being shafted and losing your own inexperience to scam artists. I seem to remember opening some spam years ago which informed me about hot birds from Russia who have no men and are looking for non alcoholic husbands with a job who don't beat them etc. Just send an advance fee for introductions i.e some serious shenanigans going on.

OneArt

Wouldn't give a flying f*ck.

Sex is overrated.

mikemac1

OneArt wrote: »

Sex is overrated.

You're doing it wrong

Gummy Panda

I think 30 year old virgin woman would come across as a prude and be off putting, while in reality she could have been trying to be romantic and wait but pent up frustration has changed her into a sex craved beast who sticks all sorts of objects up herself e.g. dildos, love beads, a leg of a chair, rubber fists, etc

Doc Ruby

syndeyfife wrote: »

Theres no way i could be with him. Id probably break him the first time.

Now this, is a woman.

sam34

poll is confusing - does the male /female bit refer to us the posters or to the hypothetical virgins?

Ms.M

I wouldn't have an issue with sleeping with a virgin in theory but if I was really into him I think I'd be a bit worried about him being faithful in the future.

Even if he was a big romantic and never wanted to sleep with more than one person, I'd still anticipate him eventually straying. If he was dating another virgin and they were virgins for moral reasons I'd have more confidence in the relationship.

My husband was a teeny bit of a slut when he was younger, as was I (just a teeny bit )... We've grown out of it. We got sick of it. I find that reassuring.
We've also got demz skillz. :pac:
(and no STIs!)

Mr.Crinklewood

mikemac1 wrote: »

You're doing it wrong

No they aren't.

Oranage2

14

stovelid

Third trimester.

Dravokivich

Gummy Panda wrote: »

I think 30 year old virgin woman would come across as a prude and be off putting, while in reality she could have been trying to be romantic and wait but pent up frustration has changed her into a sex craved beast who sticks all sorts of objects up herself e.g. dildos, love beads, a leg of a chair, rubber fists, etc

I like where this is going.

Back on track, virgin is a result, you'd need to determine your opinion on it based on cause. I was a virgin up till my mid 20's. Mainly because I never really developed intimacy with women when I was younger and disassociated myself from it. Also, up until recently I always found it quite intimidating based on never experiencing it before. The damn thing can just go around your head in circles. Due to that, I always felt an immense pressure when trying to be with someone because it seemed like there was the expectation that I should either know what I was doing, or not bother. And I find the very idea that "Virgin" being used as a dealbreaker without any consideration to the individual as rather foolish, ignorant and destructive on a personal basis for those who tend to label themselves as virgins.

username_x

I took my ex boyfriends virginity when he was 19, i currently keep it in a jar beside my bed. Waiting to run into him again so i smash said jar over his head.

Shane732

username_x wrote: »

I took my ex boyfriends virginity when he was 19, i currently keep it in a jar beside my bed. Waiting to run into him again so i smash said jar over his head.

I take it that relationship ended well so?

SafeSurfer

When you are discussing the number of previous partners you have had with a new gf/bf do you include hookers?

Cybercubed

sam34 wrote: »

poll is confusing - does the male /female bit refer to us the posters or to the hypothetical virgins?

The poll corresponds to the person who is voting and then the age they would like to have a cut off point.

So "female, 30" would mean a female saying she would not a date a male virgin over the age of 30 under any circumstances.

MagicSean

I don't understand the problem with them being a virgin. It's like asking how many previous owners you wish your car had. Obviously I'm gonna want to be the first to drive that baby.

Captain Chaos

MagicSean wrote: »

I don't understand the problem with them being a virgin. It's like asking how many previous owners you wish your car had. Obviously I'm gonna want to be the first to drive that baby.

Most women don't think of it like that, they think whats wrong with it that I am the first driver.

Davidius

This is one of those "need experience for a job; need job for experience" type scenarios isn't it?

Gummy Panda

Shane732 wrote: »

I take it that relationship ended well so?

I think he took her bum fun virginity and she wants it back

Sky King

Princess Peach wrote: »

Not being a virgin does not mean a guy is good in bed. Fact.

Saying FACT after a sentence does not make it a fact.

True story.