Just about to be homeless. Need to keep job.

stevejr

Due to the recession and other issues i had to move into my partner's family home 3 years ago. We had 1 child at the time and have had another baby in the meantime.

Things were good in our relationship, we had our ups and downs like every couple...2 very young kids and all the usual hassles that brings but life was fine.

Unfortunately our relationship has now reached the point where the bad times outweigh the good times. We have 2 kids. I don't want their mother and father's constant fighting to affect them. They'll be getting to the age soon when they'll start to be unhappy because mammy and daddy are.

I'm not a troll. I've been on Boards nearly 4 years.

My dilemma is that I have to leave. In fact I've been told to. But I've nowhere to go. I need to keep my job to pay maintenance. Is there any sort of tempory accommodation available in Dublin south. I've no family to speak of and the inlaws are a no go. I've a low paying job so a hotel and B&B is not an option. Any advice much appreciated.

ABajaninCork

Would it be possible to make an arrangement with your partner that you stay until you find somewhere? Is there a spare room you can kip in until you're sorted??

Surely, she would understand that in order to maintain your family, then you need to keep your job. In order to keep your job, you need somewhere to sleep!

That said - what efforts are you making to secure alternative accommodation? Will you be able to apply for council housing as presumably you'll need somewhere for your kids to stay when they visit?

HTH, and good luck

stevejr

ABajaninCork wrote: »

Would it be possible to make an arrangement with your partner that you stay until you find somewhere? Is there a spare room you can kip in until you're sorted??

Surely, she would understand that in order to maintain your family, then you need to keep your job. In order to keep your job, you need somewhere to sleep!

That said - what efforts are you making to secure alternative accommodation? Will you be able to apply for council housing as presumably you'll need somewhere for your kids to stay when they visit?

HTH, and good luck

Thanks AB for the reply.

Ideally I would stay here but I just don't think that's possible. I have 2 days max without sacrificing my pride. I won't/can't beg to be allowed to stay. That's why I need options.

Don't get me wrong. My partner's a good person but the situation we now find ourselves in means that living together is not an option.

Thanks AB.

The Big Red Button

stevejr wrote: »

Due to the recession and other issues i had to move into my partner's family home 3 years ago. We had 1 child at the time and have had another baby in the meantime.

Things were good in our relationship, we had our ups and downs like every couple...2 very young kids and all the usual hassles that brings but life was fine.

Unfortunately our relationship has now reached the point where the bad times outweigh the good times. We have 2 kids. I don't want their mother and father's constant fighting to affect them. They'll be getting to the age soon when they'll start to be unhappy because mammy and daddy are.

I'm not a troll. I've been on Boards nearly 4 years.

My dilemma is that I have to leave. In fact I've been told to. But I've nowhere to go. I need to keep my job to pay maintenance. Is there any sort of tempory accommodation available in Dublin south. I've no family to speak of and the inlaws are a no go. I've a low paying job so a hotel and B&B is not an option. Any advice much appreciated.

Sorry to hear about your problems.

Why do you mention in the thread title that you "need to keep job" - have you reason to think that your job is in jeopardy?

The obvious solution is to find yourself a short-term house share, for the moment. I realise you mightn't have the cash upfront for a month's deposit, but if you negotiate with the landlord, they may be willing to agree to have you pay rent weekly, with a week's deposit upfront (assuming you have references etc.)

A house share should be affordable, even with a minimum wage job, or on the dole. When maintenance is being decided, as far as I know, your means will be taken into consideration.

stevejr wrote: »

Ideally I would stay here but I just don't think that's possible. I have 2 days max without sacrificing my pride. I won't/can't beg to be allowed to stay. That's why I need options.

The thing is, though, that your pride isn't the priority here. You need to do what's best for yourself and for your children. If that means staying an extra couple of weeks, well in the overall grand scheme of things, will it really make all that much difference? At least then you'd have time to sort out decent accommodation, rather than rushing into anything.

Surely you could crash on a friend's couch for a few days/weeks, if it comes to it? There's bound to be someone?

LegacyUser

OP your saying no to a hotel or B&B but have you looked at hostels? Most do long term deals that are affordable. They aren't just for smelly backpackers, I've had several friends over the years have similar accommodation issues like yourself and they've stayed several months in hostels while they sorted themselves out. Alot now do free wi-fi and breakfast.

I would be saying screw pride to you. You say you and partner can't live together anymore but I can't believe she would be so heartless as to throw the father of her kids out on the street with no were to go. Is she aware you've no options?

Sleepy

Pride is a luxury for those that can afford it. You can't right now.

Backpacker's Hostels might be an option for the very short term, I lived in one out in Dun Laoghaoire for a week or two when I first moved up to Dublin for work. They don't tend to be too expensive.

It sounds like some counselling wouldn't go astray here, from the sounds of things your marriage is failing due to the financial pressure of the economy we find ourselves in (and perhaps your living arrangements? Living with one partner's parents rarely ends well in my experience) rather than any infidelity or lack of affection for one another?

edellc

agree with above

a house share is your best option, try daft.ie, under sharing, forth option along the top in a blue box

again if you dont have the money up front for a deposit then have a word with the LL and make sure to have a work reference too

your Oh will surely understand finding somewhere takes a couple of weeks and would she rather her babys daddy be homeless any sane person wouldnt wish this, so sit down with her and have a grown up conversation about it and decide a realistic time frame

also maintenance is assessed on means so you wont end up broke or homeless due to paying this but do try go to the family law courts about it rather than agreeing it yourselves, as it saves messyness in the future

sorry for the hard time you and your OH are going through, I do hope you both get want you want out of this and are both happier people at the end

peace and love op x