Can't stop the lovesick

Haroldinio

Hi! I've been a long long time lurker and love the boards.
I'm not feeling too well and I'm pretty sure it's lovesickness (cringe). There's a real deep horrible sickly feeling in my stomach. I think it's because i like a girl who doesn't feel the same way. I can't eat or drink and completely lost my appetite. Have you any remedies or anything......it's horrible.
Thanks in advance:I

dgt

Hi there! I'm not a common poster in this section but I saw this thread and I'll offer my view

I don't know your age but when I was around 16ish I was in the same situation ie I fancied this girl so much it was nearly unhealthy. Being a little shy at the time, I decided to bite the bullet and got a friend to let her know how I felt. I ended up going out with her for about 4 months

In a slightly different situation, when I was 19, I had a run in with an ex (strangely kind of tied in with the above girl) and I decided to tell her how I felt about her, how I needed some sort of answer and reason as to why we had split up. She cut the nose of me and gave me roundabout excuses, which left me gutted for a few weeks. But I decided not to let that get to me, that it wasn't me at fault, nothing wrong with me etc and went out there to meet new girls on nights out... And I had some of the best nights out with my friends ever during those following months and years

Still friends with both of the above ladies

I guess I've rambled on a small bit

Anyways, main points from my experiences:

• Courage is key. Don't be afraid to let her know how you feel
• Be straight out with it. Don't water it down or sugar coat how you feel
• Always expect the unexpected. If she says she doesn't feel the same, then so be it. Move on. Don't get too hung up over one girl

I hope some of this helps

Haroldinio

Thanks dgt:)
I wanted to tell her how i felt but was advised against it by several good friends of mine. I think they do have a point, it looks clingy and would drive her away. I have lots of girl friends but this girl stands out a mile. I'm 30 and never had a problem talking to girls but for some reason i get really shy around her:( i just go completely blank.
I haven't eaten anything in a couple of days. It's stupid i know but i just feel lost or something......strange feeling

Susie_Q

Keep yourself busy, don't give yourself time to wallow or feel sorry for yourself. What are your hobbies? Do you go jogging/ gym/ social clubs etc? What do you do in the evenings?

Vicxas

Haroldinio wrote: »

Thanks dgt:)
I wanted to tell her how i felt but was advised against it by several good friends of mine. I think they do have a point, it looks clingy and would drive her away. I have lots of girl friends but this girl stands out a mile. I'm 30 and never had a problem talking to girls but for some reason i get really shy around her:( i just go completely blank.
I haven't eaten anything in a couple of days. It's stupid i know but i just feel lost or something......strange feeling

I know that you're shy and stuff, but i suggest you bite the bullet and go for it! She may be feeling the exact same way about you.

And if she doesnt at least you tried and you know rather than sitting having that crushing feeling of what if.

Haroldinio

Yes Vicxas that's exactly the feeling, a crushing one. Anyway, i talked to her earlier and it's clear that nothing is going to come of it, she's just doesn't feel the same. I kind of knew that.
I guess i'll just have to keep distracted for a little while.
Thanks for the help:)

Fiona

Haroldinio wrote: »

Yes Vicxas that's exactly the feeling, a crushing one. Anyway, i talked to her earlier and it's clear that nothing is going to come of it, she's just doesn't feel the same. I kind of knew that.
I guess i'll just have to keep distracted for a little while.
Thanks for the help:)

The best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else

But yeah it sucks when the person you like doesn't feel the same way back, don't worry if it's meant to be then it will happen.

Haroldinio

Fiona wrote: »

The best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else

Ha, yes that's good advice. I'll definitely try that one:D
Away to the pubs and clubs i go.........