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Am I just not getting the hint??

  • 29-05-2012 11:26am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Just after having a great weekend but I'm so fed up I'm not able to do any work

    Basically I was with a lad I've been with before. I'd written off the possibility that anything was going to develop the last time because I thought I'd given a few hints that I liked him but didn't seem to receive much by way of return. Now I'm probably far too subtle in my approach because the thought of putting myself out there is terrifying. He moved cities after the first time we were together so obviously that put an obstacle in the way but these things aren't exactly insurmountable?

    You might wonder why I'm getting so caught up with someone I've only been with twice but the thing is we are in the same social circle and we have known each other for a few years so it's not just a random stranger.

    Some of my friends are fairly blunt saying that if it was going to happen it would have happened and get on with it, these are friends though that in general are far more experienced at the dating scene than I am. He isn't either, and has admitted it in converstations, jokingly but nevertheless still admitted it.

    I suppose the main reason I'm so fed up is that I had been dating this other guy the last few weeks, I wasn't sure about him but decided to give it a shot anyways and now after the weekend I absolutely know there is no point to it, given the spark that there is with the guy I was with, I know it will never be the same with the guy I'm dating.

    I just wonder I suppose am I better to leave things be? I text, he generally texts back, we exchange a few emails. I'm usually the one to go unanswered at the end of the conversation though. Am I being too afraid about this and should I just ask him out or have I been given enough signals at this stage to hint that he's really just not interested? I don't want to embarass myself with him, we will inevitably end up in the same places again at some point.


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  • #2
    daisybelle2008
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,403 ✭✭✭daisybelle2008


    OP every situation is different. There is no right or wrong in these cases, just what feels right or wrong for you. I strongly believe in going with your gut.
    In your case you say you are 'terrified' of putting yourself out there and afraid of embarassing yourself. You say you aren't getting much return interest from him and you are initiating contact that dries up on his end..
    You seem a bit too invested and unsure of yourself, so I am inclined to agree with your friends and say forget it, it would have happened and don't be holding yourself back from other situations getting hung up on this guy.
    On the other hand if you put yourself out there and he says no, you will have your answer, but I think you already have your answer (we always do) tbh :-(.


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