Stunning Friend

LegacyUser

Hi Guys,

This may seem like a trivial issue to some but for me it's a huge problem.
I hate myself for feeling this way but here goes..

I am considered to be a good looking girl and am relatively confident. I don't have low self esteem but it isn't sky high either! My best friend on the otherhand is overflowing with confidence and she has every reason to be; she is simply stunning.

On top of that, she is also intelligent, funny, kind, sweet, you name it and she is it! I love her to pieces but beside her I feel like a troll! When we walk into a bar all heads turn. Men actually stop her on the street just to tell her how stunning she is. The other day a guy I work with came over to us and said to her 'You are breath-taking'. This is the level of beauty I'm talking. Sometimes I can't stop staring at her. Plus she's an angel!

Anyway, I've recently started seeing a guy that I really like but I'm scared to introduce them. I'm worried that he'll meet her and fall in love with her. It's impossible not to fall in love with her. I'm hetrosexual and I honestly feel a little bit in love with her cos she's just so sound and amazing.

I know I can't keep them apart but I am sick to my stomach worrying about them meeting. How could he not fall for her? I know she may not be his type but seriously what man doesn't go for a beautiful, strong, kind, funny woman?????

What am i gonna do, this is really getting me down. they both wanna meet and I'm struggling to find excuses for them not to:(

Thanks guys

silly

you cant really keep it off forever so bite the bullet and introduce them.
If he fancies her and "falls in love" with her, then he's not really for you then is he.

_dublinlad_

I was in your boyfriends spot in my last relationship.

My girlfriend of about 4-5 months at the time told me her best friend would be coming for a few drinks with us one night. She had mentioned her name alot, and her being her best friend I was naturally interested to meet her, as I had heard stories about her and general good things.

Like you my GF was aprehensive about us meeting. She told me how stunning she was and that all guys fall in love with her - without exception (she kept ephasising the "without exception part"). She told me of stories of guys fighting over her and coming over to talk to my GF just so they could get to her... etc

Anyway.. I didnt think too much into it and told her to stop being silly and that I was mad about her. She was an absolute stunner herself so I wasnt worried that I would find her friend attractive.

The night of the drinks with the 3 of us came around and I finally met her best friend. I have to admit she was very very attractive and lovely to talk to and I could understand everything my GF had said but it all didnt matter. I was crazy about my girlfriend so I had blinkers on so to speak. Sure I noticed her qualities but I didnt look past my girlfriend to her.

Anyway what I am trying to say is - sure your boyfriend will notice all the great things about your friend (its only natural) and you will more then likely do it when you meet his friends. But if he is crazy about you then he will only notice these things - they will have no effect on him what so ever.

So just do it.

Distorted

A stunning friend is a bonus. If you are single, you might meet more men through her, and generally it reflects well on you. If your new boyfriend is attracted to her, then he's not worth having and its a bullet dodged and saves you loads of time. But not everyone's attracted to the same thing. He should not be interested in her at all if he is into you. I'm wondering why, if the stunning friend is so irresistible to men, she is single?

Mc Kenzie

Dublinlad is right.

I can undestand you must be worried,,,maybe even mention your abit nervous about them meeting but you may as well let it happen.

Im sure hell notice her good traits and all but ,,your the one he is with.

Sometimes there are little traits and personal things that make us particularly attracted to each other.

And in reality there are loads of girls out there who are beautiful,with good personalitys ,,and im sure your bf hasnt fallen in love with all of them.

what im trying to say is your bf is with you ,,because he likes you,,,and your friend is not you ,,is she ....and im sure there is something great about you that your friend doesnt have

now if i could only take my own advice :rolleyes:

BarackPyjama

Most guys aren't going to be bowled over and fall in love with your friend at first sight. Most of us look for substance beyond the aesthetic and, even if your friend is the soundest person on earth, I'm quite sure his decision is made already having met you. Relax. It'll be grand.

EdenHazard

Ummmmm, that's not really how it works. If she's as hot as your saying, he'll prob just think she's fit, but he's not gonna fall in love with her because chances are she won't think the same of him. Your problem would be if she thinks he's hot, and then makes suggestions to him that she thinks he's hot.

Mr Bump

Hmmmm, your girlfriend you say, well one if she is, she will stay away, and two, if he like you he will have no interest in her, if they go together, then dump them both,

depechetoad wrote: »

Hi Guys,

This may seem like a trivial issue to some but for me it's a huge problem.
I hate myself for feeling this way but here goes..

I am considered to be a good looking girl and am relatively confident. I don't have low self esteem but it isn't sky high either! My best friend on the otherhand is overflowing with confidence and she has every reason to be; she is simply stunning.

On top of that, she is also intelligent, funny, kind, sweet, you name it and she is it! I love her to pieces but beside her I feel like a troll! When we walk into a bar all heads turn. Men actually stop her on the street just to tell her how stunning she is. The other day a guy I work with came over to us and said to her 'You are breath-taking'. This is the level of beauty I'm talking. Sometimes I can't stop staring at her. Plus she's an angel!

Anyway, I've recently started seeing a guy that I really like but I'm scared to introduce them. I'm worried that he'll meet her and fall in love with her. It's impossible not to fall in love with her. I'm hetrosexual and I honestly feel a little bit in love with her cos she's just so sound and amazing.

I know I can't keep them apart but I am sick to my stomach worrying about them meeting. How could he not fall for her? I know she may not be his type but seriously what man doesn't go for a beautiful, strong, kind, funny woman?????

What am i gonna do, this is really getting me down. they both wanna meet and I'm struggling to find excuses for them not to:(

Thanks guys