annoyedandembarassed

LegacyUser

Here's the story;
I broke up with my long term boyfriend about 10 months ago and haven't seen anyone since. I made some new friends and I think they have been up to something behind my back.
I met a guy last week and started chatting to him He seemed nice and I want to make new friends, so we exchanged numbers. We were texting during the week and arranged to meet over the weekend.
I got a bit suspicious that some of the people I know were behind him meeting me, but I went anyway. He seemed nice, if not my type, but I thought I should just meet up anyway. I went to the town where he lives and we spent the day just chatting as friends. I wanted to go home early, but he ended up coming to my town.
We ended up spending the night together but nothing happened. I'm not the type to sleep around and certainly not with someone I don't really know. I know that this might make me seem a bit prudish or reserved, but that's who I am. He made it clear that he wanted a hook up but I was so tired, I just wanted to sleep and it's not something I do anyway.
My friends were texting me and ringing me yesterday, but I didn't answer and just sent messages saying I didn't see the calls (which I didn't). Some other friends the other night were asking me questions about what i was doing at he weekend, and I'd had a few drinks, so i said I was meeting this guy, but it wasn't a date or anything. They started laughing, so I asked if they were involved. They said no, but hinted that some other people might be. At this point, I was considering not going, but I thought I should go anyway, make my excuses and try to leave.
The guy went home today and i sent a text saying safe journey. I haven't heard back, but that's not what I'm worried about. I'm feeling a bit embarassed that this may have been set up behind my back and annoyed that people are feeling the need to meddle in my life.
i work with one of the people who may have been behind it, and I'm not looking forward to tomorrow.
Could anyone give me some feedback as to what to do? Sorry for the long post, but it's not like I can ask any of these friends for advice. thanks.

P. Breathnach

What are you annoyed about? A suspicion that people tried to set you up with a guy that you agree seemed nice? I don't see any harm in that; I would presume, in the absence of any reason why you should think otherwise, that it was well-intentioned.

Continue with life as normal.

Yeah, I'm not sure where the issue is. You're not sure if this was set up or not and even if this was, you agreed that it was nice and you two had a good time.

So.. I'm not sure what there is to be annoyed or embarrassed about.

Ickle Magoo

Hey OP,

Do you think your friends were trying to set you up with a dud because they want to see you hurt and miserable - or do you think they could had a hand in setting you up with a guy who was kinda to your tastes & a nice fella because they love you and want to see you happy?

I think once you work it which it was you'll know what to do.

All the best. :cool:

AckwelFoley

I think you are overthinking this completely.

Roll with it, make your own decisions on the guy. If they set you up with him its likely their intentions were well meaned.

You are certainly not a prude because you dont sleep with someone on a first date.

TommyKnocker

I think that the OP, who states that she has come out of a long term relationship, possibly feels that she is not ready to start dating again and doesn't really want her friends trying to set her up with guys behind her back. There is nothing wrong with this, no matter how well intentioned the friends motives are.

My advice would be to let your friends know straight out that while you understand that they may have your best interests at heart, you are not looking to start a relationship yet and that you don't want them to fix you up with any more guys/dates. They are your friends after all, so they should understand and comply with your wishes.