Bi sexual male

landpower

hi, im a 20 year old bi sexual male and my self and a good friend have fooled around a few times and there was once we tryed anal, but as soon as it was entered it was very sore and i had to get it out, he had it well lubed and i wanted to do it.
any hepl greatly appricated

NoobSaibot5

Well, what do you want help with exactly? Anal sex?

landpower

yes

1ZRed

landpower wrote: »

hi, im a 20 year old bi sexual male and my self and a good friend have fooled around a few times and there was once we tryed anal, but as soon as it was entered it was very sore and i had to get it out, he had it well lubed and i wanted to do it.
any hepl greatly appricated

I think you mean you want anal sex to go smoother. Since you've only done it once your not used to relaxing your sphincter muscles. With time you'll learn how to control them and things will go easier for you.
In the meantime though, have him finger and rim you (If you're comfortable with that. It is VERY pleasurable btw)This will loosen and relax your anus and make things very pleasurable.
Practice makes perfect and soon you'll be able to have easy and pleasurable no pain sex!;)

Obviously use loads and loads of lube to ease things along. You'll soon find out its your best friend:P

NoobSaibot5

Best advice I can give you is to just start off slow, if your receiving go at a pace that feels comfortable for you. Once he's in just continue to go slow for a few minutes until you get used to the sensation, and be sure to use plenty of lube. Even for those who take it quite regularly, rushing in too quickly or not using enough lube can be uncomfortable. You'll get better at it in time, just be sure to let your partner know what pace suits you

Pedant

1ZRed wrote: »

In the meantime though, have him finger and rim you

Stay well away from rimming if know what's good for you. There's a high STI risk involved with rimming, especially Hepatitis A, B and C, which is usually transmitted via feces. Stay with light slow fingering, warm water and lots of lubricant. In a warm bath is probably a nice idea. Remember to "clean out" with an enema beforehand to avoid any undesirable waste products...

L1011

The standard reference guide quoted here is Panti's Guide to Bottoming:

http://www.gaire.com/e/f/view.asp?parent=1355765


I would hazard a guess that about 0.005% of people ever bother with enemas, though. Seems to be an American obsession, not anywhere else. If you use enemas with any frequency it will completely mess up your digestive system. There is douching which won't do that, but that's also not that common.

1ZRed

Pedant wrote: »

Stay well away from rimming if know what's good for you. There's a high STI risk involved with rimming, especially Hepatitis A, B and C, which is usually transmitted via feces. Stay with light slow fingering, warm water and lots of lubricant. In a warm bath is probably a nice idea. Remember to "clean out" with an enema beforehand to avoid any undesirable waste products...

Rimming is not that high risk if you take a shower and wash up well. I'd never rim a stranger, only a guy I'd trust. And even then, I would take a shower before hand no matter what the circumstances. It's a very common sex act and if you make sure everything is clean and take precaution,the risk factor goes down a lot.
It might not even be his thing, and if he's really worried about STDs he could use a dental dam or just ignore the act completely.
No sex act is 100% safe but you can do things to lower the risks.

Btw, using an enema too frequently is very bad for your rectum and colon. If he wants to be really clean, he should go the the bathroom and then douche. Considering this will be his first proper time, he won't have to worry about not being clean enough so he can relax more.
Honestly though, you don't need to douch, just go to the bathroom a few hours before hand and that should do the job;)

LegacyUser

some of the above advice like rimming and fingering first along with you starting on top.
This means you can control it and when you are relaxed you can change position.
Take it slowly and try and relax.
Best of luck