is she into me or not?

LegacyUser

Hi. Long time poster going unreg. 29 year old male

2 weeks ago on the bank holiday saturday i met a girl (25) out. We initially had great banter and hit it off. We exchanged numbers and kissed at the end of the night.

Over the following week we were texting away and i asked her to meet me for a drink at the weekend which she accepted. So last Saturday night i met her. Night went well. she wasn't really flirty alot during the date i noticed, but we got on pretty well. Going back to the car we held hands after i initiated it. so i drop her back to her flat she thanks me for a nice evening and invited me in for tea. so i went in and after watching a bit of tv for a while i made my move. things got hot and heavy and we ended up in bed together. The sex was great but she fell asleep after it and there was no real sort of after sex intimacy or pillow talk that night or next morning.

just as i was leaving next day we did kiss goodbye and were texting each other a bit monday evening. i text her last night but havent heard anything since which fair enough she is probably busy but i get the impression that the girl either wants me to do all the chasing or is just not that into me to begin with. i do like her but dont want to be chasing her if she doesnt want to be chased. she is sort of sending alot of mixed signals.

bit of background about her is that she was involved in a long term relationship up to a year and a half ago for four years and they were living together so maybe whole experience might have put her off anything too serious.

What does other people think? Should i bail or should i chase some more? i really do like her but i feel im fighting a bit of a losing battle. i dont want to come on too strong in case i scare her off.

Beruthiel

Why don't you just call her up and ask her out on another date.
If she's interested, she'll say yes.
Simples.

mood

Just ask her out again and you will have your answer.

LegacyUser

thanks for the replies. im tempted to do that and i think your right i will ring her this time. i had suggested meeting up again but due to a communion in the family i cant this weekend but told her i would like to meet her the weekend after if possible.

She didn't say no but its so long away i suppose its hard to give a definite answer as to her plans and possibly even my own. i cant imagine a woman takes the decision to sleep with someone on the first date lightly so maybe there is some spark there but at the same time perhaps she only wants to have a bit of fun. I don't take the decision too lightly either and i really like her and would love to see her again. i suppose i have to brace myself for a fall though which is fair enough.

Whiteflag12

Agree, ask her out again, hope she says yes, but if not at least you know where you stand