A different boy dilemma

shoes34

apologise for a the long post -

Hi, met this really nice guy over the weekend, we also have the same pilates instructor, he goes to her Thursday class and I go Wednesday but as I missed two class have gone to the thursday class the last two weeks.

So we were chatting in teh pub on Sunday night for a few minutes and then i went over to my friends and a few hours later was over talking to other friends and he came over and asked me why I had gone. When we had first being talking he asked me why I don't stick around after class to use the sauna and I said I wasn't a member of the gym and didn't realise I could use them so he said maybe the next class I'd use them with him.

Later on we were chatting again and the end of it was he came home with me. When he was leaving the following morning he said the next time he'd see me we'd be stretching. No numbers exchanged or anything. He did say to me I should come to the Tuesday class as it is harder. he goes twice a week.

I am trying to decide will I seem like a staker if I go to tonight's class or do I just leave it and continue going on Wednesday or will I just go to the class tonight and see what happens. Oh also when he was leaving he knocked over a glass of water and it went all over his socks so asked if he could have a pair of mine, I gave him some and asked him was he not taking his own with him? he didn't I washed them and was going to bring them with me to the pilates and give them back as maybe a ice breaker?

thanks for listening.

I am a friend

shoes34 wrote: »

I washed them and was going to bring them with me to the pilates and give them back as maybe a ice breaker?

Oh no no no no no no.... I would not change my routine for him. He slept over with you and didnt ask for your number. He knows where to find you if he wants to... Sorry op but it looks like it was a ONS for him and he threw in about the tuesday class so as not to be a total a-hole.... Keep doing your own thing and dont bring him back a pair of socks :eek:

shoes34

I am a friend wrote: »

Oh no no no no no no.... I would not change my routine for him.

I wasn't going to change my routine for him, I was only going to go tonight and then back to Wednesdays next week as he doesn't goes Wednesday as he does something else on that night and some Tuesdays I am busy doing stuff too but part of me was interested to see how much more difficult the Tuesday class was - maybe it was a ONS and if it was it was no harm done.

Pomplamousse

I'd agree about sticking to your own routine and not showing up at the Tuesday class.
Don't see a problem with giving him back his socks though, she'd just be returning something that's his so it's not like it screams of stalker

ibarelycare

I think you should go to the Thursday class as you have done the last few weeks. Then it won't look like you're actually going out of your way to see him. Have a chat to him and say you had considered going to the Tuesday class to see how difficult it was, but something else came up that day so you couldn't go. See how things go then, if he encourages you again to go next week then go for it. Don't bother bringing his socks

Distorted

Since he knows you from the Thursday class, I can't see how he would think you were a stalker if you continued going. In fact it might be a good idea to go to see what his attitude is.

As for washing his socks, I'd personally be tempted to throw them in the bin, as in general you sound like you have low self esteem - he's just got no strings sex, stop pussyfooting about him as if he's royalty! I don't think you really need an ice breaker along the lines of providing clothes washing and return services, it will give him the impression you are some kind of doormat.

shoes34

Distorted wrote: »

Since he knows you from the Thursday class, I can't see how he would think you were a stalker if you continued going. In fact it might be a good idea to go to see what his attitude is.

As for washing his socks, I'd personally be tempted to throw them in the bin, as in general you sound like you have low self esteem - he's just got no strings sex, stop pussyfooting about him as if he's royalty! I don't think you really need an ice breaker along the lines of providing clothes washing and return services, it will give him the impression you are some kind of doormat.


i don't have low self esteem - was just asking advice. guess if that"s the view of people I'd like the thread closed. thanks

LegacyUser

He didn't ask for your number which may be a bit strange but you didn't ask for his, maybe he was waiting on you to ask. Its hard to ask him out now while trying to make it appear that its not another shag your after but I would try, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Hmm, I think some of the other posters are overthinking it.

Go to the class (I know it's a bit late now but you could go to next week's). So what if it looks like you're interested. Surely letting him know you're interested is a good thing? If he's not interested, then you can sleep soundly knowing you took a chance, and you don't have to see him again, because you can just go back to your usual Wednesday!

Don't bring him in the socks though. "Forget" about them. If he asks for them specifically then give them back.

Pa Dee

shoes34 wrote: »

apologise for a the long post -

Hi, met this really nice guy over the weekend, we also have the same pilates instructor, he goes to her Thursday class and I go Wednesday but as I missed two class have gone to the thursday class the last two weeks.

So we were chatting in teh pub on Sunday night for a few minutes and then i went over to my friends and a few hours later was over talking to other friends and he came over and asked me why I had gone. When we had first being talking he asked me why I don't stick around after class to use the sauna and I said I wasn't a member of the gym and didn't realise I could use them so he said maybe the next class I'd use them with him.

Later on we were chatting again and the end of it was he came home with me. When he was leaving the following morning he said the next time he'd see me we'd be stretching. No numbers exchanged or anything. He did say to me I should come to the Tuesday class as it is harder. he goes twice a week.

I am trying to decide will I seem like a staker if I go to tonight's class or do I just leave it and continue going on Wednesday or will I just go to the class tonight and see what happens. Oh also when he was leaving he knocked over a glass of water and it went all over his socks so asked if he could have a pair of mine, I gave him some and asked him was he not taking his own with him? he didn't I washed them and was going to bring them with me to the pilates and give them back as maybe a ice breaker?

thanks for listening.

An ice-breaker ? But you have had sex?

Taltos

Closed at OP's request.
OP - if you want this te-opened please contact one of the mods.

Taltos