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  • 06-05-2012 10:51pm
    #1
    ILIKEFOOD
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 686 ✭✭✭


    Ok I'll keep it short and sweet.

    I've known this girl for around a year, we used to work with each other. I quite like her but have always found it hard to spend any decent time with her to get to really know her etc.

    Since we no longer work together we've met up for a few drinks but they're always short enough meetings and I wouldn't call them dates.

    She randomly texts me for a spell once every month or so, I think I come across too keen to meet up so I decided the next time that I'd reply but wouldn't bother asking her out. This actually worked and she suggested we meet up.

    So the big day came and true to form she began procrastinating about meeting up - we were going to go the cinema, a first. - She does this all the time (being indecisive about meeting up). At this stage I had decided that she was wasting my time so I didn't really care about meeting her as she has behaved like this before, but she made up her mind, decided to go and I agreed. THEN she tells me she is bringing her friend, a guy who we know mutually.

    This guys was clearly some kind of buffer, I think it is common knowledge that I liked her and she may have known.

    Anyway I'm baffled, we're not close enough to be considered mates, we weren't that close in work so I kind of assumed (wrongly??) that something may come of it...

    Anyway I thought I'd share it for discussion, it's really wrecking my head. It's funny because I don't even know what she's like, from what I've seen she's pretty great but it's a nightmare to arrange anything, the mixed signals are confusing but it's just furthering my curiosity...

    and FINALLY, there is a 6 year age diff, not a big deal depending on you're ages but shes 20, I'm 26....I think we could be well matched in maturity levels but I'm guessing really...


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  • #2
    RandyMann
    Closed Accounts Posts: 920 ✭✭✭RandyMann


    Look mate, don't waste your time with her. If a girl is interested, you won't have that much doubt in your head.
    Just ask yourself the question, would you behave like that if you were truly interested in a girl?
    You certainly would not bring along a mate, yet alone another girl on a date if you were meeting someone you liked. No adult does that.
    Move on and don't ask her out again.


  • #3
    ILIKEFOOD
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 686 ✭✭✭ILIKEFOOD


    I think you're spot on RandyMann. I'm not going to bother with her again. Cheers


  • #4
    mood
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Don't waste you time. You have made an effort to meet up etc. Sounds like nothing will really come of it. There are plenty of women out there who won't mess you around. Her age and the age gap could play a big part.


  • #5
    Distorted
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,064 ✭✭✭Distorted


    I would say she is very shy around men and a little bit scared. She probably needs a lot of time. Not everyone, particularly the very young, are able to jump straight into dating and relationships and need time for their feelings to settle.

    Depends how much you like her. I agree the flakiness over dates is very irritating. She probably just needs to grow up a little.


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