kissing

LegacyUser

MY boyfriend never really french kisses me. I try to start it by casually licking his lips or something - I dont stick my tongue down his throat if that's what you're thinking.. - but he never responds. When we kiss, we just peck again and again and again and the only time I've ever had that full on passion kiss is when he first kissed me. Is this a ridiculous thing to be fussing over? I know that he is at least kissing me, but just wondering what everyone thought!?

_dublinlad_

kissingways wrote: »

MY boyfriend never really french kisses me. I try to start it by casually licking his lips or something - I dont stick my tongue down his throat if that's what you're thinking.. - but he never responds. When we kiss, we just peck again and again and again and the only time I've ever had that full on passion kiss is when he first kissed me. Is this a ridiculous thing to be fussing over? I know that he is at least kissing me, but just wondering what everyone thought!?

That is fairly weird alright. I wouldnt wait long to ask what the story is if I was you. Have you had sex yet? It would be strange if he didnt do it then...

I had the same problem with a guy once. He said he thought I preferred kissing the way he was doing it, but I don't think it was the truth. I never found out what the real reason was, but it didn't really matter because once I brought it up with him he started kissing normally.

Dravokivich

Some guys just don't know what to do, or when to do it and subtle hints don't tend to register. Have you mentioned it to him?

LegacyUser

I haven't mentioned it to him no. He does get a bit nervous about performing during sex sometimes so I don't want to decrease his confidence by saying it! Would you think it would be alright to just casually bring up what he thinks of french kissing?

Dravokivich

Well, to be frank, the only way to get him to react how you desire, is to discuss it with him.

The kissing thing I wouldnt find to be embarrassing to talk about or have brought up as a subject, as much as the sex you've just mentioned. Seeing that now I think both can be 1 and the same issue and a sense of anxiousness over his sexual performance is affecting other acts of intamacy, such as the kissing. Because essentially it'll more or less lead to sex.

To me, it looks like you need to find a way to calm his nerves when it comes to sex and the result would be more ease with intamacy and the passionate kissing. Some guys get a bit flustered with it when they aren't used to sex because they make a rush of things. It might help him if you keep that in mind and try to slow down the pace if he gets a bit unnerved.

LegacyUser

Yeah, I will try that. At least I'll (hopefully) know the reason behind it and won't be thinking it's because he doesn't like to french kiss me ha