Did anyone's sexual orientation change?

Freiheit

In my case it was during adolescence where I was attracted to other boys for about 2 years and then it passed.

Am I the only one for whom this happened?.

I don't know but I have heard that in gender segregated environments same sex attraction is actually more common than society at large and I went to an all boys school.

Thoughts?.:)

Babybuff

mine has always been pretty fluid.

1ZRed

Yes. When I was young I was attracted to girls and I definitely considered myself straight. But I had the slightest curiosity in guys but I thought nothing of it.
As I became a teenager my sexuality began to evolve and the part of me that liked guys only grew. At one point I was 50/50 bisexual but now I'm starting to become more attracted to guys.
I'd still consider myself bisexual but I think the older I'm getting the more attracted I'll become to guys, and girls will just be a curiosity. Someday I'll probably consider myself gay and I'm fine with that because I'm not going to fight my sexuality any more.
Quite the funny 180 in my 17 short years!:D

number10a

I'm very fluid. I don't think I'll ever "change" to settle on one of the labels. I say I'm gay because when you say you're bi there's a whole load of judgements going along with it, like you're greedy or in denial etc., but I'm not really happy with either label anyway. I could go months without looking at a girl, but then there are odd days when all I want is a nice pair of boobies and all that comes with it! Human sexuality is still a huge mystery, even when we contemplate our own.

OneArt

I never had any attraction to other guys until I was fourteen. For a good part of my teens I was mostly attracted to guys. That pretty much waned and now I'm 22, I have nearly zero interest in men.

While I'm mostly into women at the moment, there is the odd guy that will turn my head. Then again I've never really settled when it comes to romantic attraction. I couldn't see myself settling with a guy but you never know.

shoegirl

I have 3 friends who went straight, who previously identified for a period of time as lesbian and are now with guys. They all do identify as bi though, but it wasn't so originally for at leas 2 of them. I'm happy for all 3

fobster

number10a wrote: »

I'm very fluid. I don't think I'll ever "change" to settle on one of the labels. I say I'm gay because when you say you're bi there's a whole load of judgements going along with it, like you're greedy or in denial etc., but I'm not really happy with either label anyway. I could go months without looking at a girl, but then there are odd days when all I want is a nice pair of boobies and all that comes with it! Human sexuality is still a huge mystery, even when we contemplate our own.

+1, I hear ya!

LegacyUser

Definately changed for me,when i hit twelve my first crush was on a girl.I felt absolutely devastated and burst into tears almost every day because i hated myself for having gay feelings.I then went to an all girls secondary school after that and had about 4 more deep crushes right through it and i was starting to feel comfortable with it.

By the time i started college i was actually thinking about coming out,guess what happens?I was asked out by a really nice guy and decided to give being straight one last shot.I don't know if it was his personality or what but after a few weeks i started to fall in love with him and I'm now with him almost 3 years.I really do love him to bits now and tbh he's the only guy i could ever imagine myself having feelings for.

It really melts my brain though,am i mainly attracted to girls and he's the exception,am i attracted to both and unaware of it,or am i just straight now?Now i'm unsure about whether i should tell him the full story or pretend like i never felt that way since i haven't been with a girl.He actually knows me so well that he picked up that i have a gay part of me and so he figures out I'm bi.I wish i knew myself .Some people throughout the years have actually "sensed" gay vibes from me out of the blue if that adds anything...

Thanks to anyone who's taken the trouble of reading all this but i've been dragging it around with me for 8 years .

mrroboto

Interesting thread:) I fancied girls for a time(i'm a guy) but I don't think I ever had a straight phase. I probably liked both for a time but was in total denial about attraction to guys. I'll keep it simple and identify as gay today but I hate commiting to that label for the fear that one girl will walk into my life and I'll fall head over heals for her. Today I have girl crushes which rarely last longer than 5 minutes. Im not 50/50 Bi. 95% gay me thinks. Forget label, easier said than done i know!! Love and attraction is about people not their gender I guess.

For many this would be a hard question to answer. I am currently living in a relationship with two girls. Before they met each other – and since – they were never sexually attracted to other girls before. With each other it is massively different.

For people with stories like that it is a hard question to answer. Did they sexuality change? Or were they always Bisexual but just had not met someone who attracted them yet? Or are they EVEN bisexual given it is such an isolated case.

Sexuality is a lot more fluid than black and white and what many might interpret as a change in their sexuality might – on deeper introspection – simply turn out to be a sexuality that was always there but was until now not expressed.

The old joke – which applied to my girlfriends clearly – is that we are all bi and if you think you are not it is just because you have not met the right person yet.