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Grrrr! He won't make up his mind!

  • 25-04-2012 11:07am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I met a fella on a night out about a year and a half ago. We always kissed when we met on a night out. He used to text me the whole time untill we met up sober one day and he wanted sex and I didn't want to go that far. He was grand about it untill I asked him if he only wanted sex. He got all moody and defensive and we stopped texting etc.

    Fast forward a few months and we started kissing on nights out again, but I only got random texts from him every so often.

    Around christmas I slept with him while I was drunk and after that I found out that he only wanted a friend with benefits, which is fine with me.

    Nothing really came out of this and we only continued kissing on nights out. The problem is he now texts me every so often asking me to meet him. If I can't I tell him so, but usually he seems to just cancel after trying to arrange it. It's always him who contacts me.

    I don't get why he does this. If he wants to do it why doesn't he just go for it? If he doesn't why doesn't he just leave it be?
    Freinds with benefits is suppossed to be simple and uncomplicated but he keeps changing his mind and it's really frustrating. I know I could just forget about him, but he's a hottie and I would love for this to get going!

    Any ideas why he might be doing this??


Comments

  • #2
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    confusedaboutaboy22 wrote: »
    but he's a hottie and I would love for this to get going!

    Get going where?
    If it's just friends with benefits, what do you care?
    If you're looking for it to become more than that, forget it. It's never going to happen.
    You're a booty call till something better comes along.
    Are you not worth more than that?


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Beruthiel wrote: »
    Get going where?
    If it's just friends with benefits, what do you care?
    If you're looking for it to become more than that, forget it. It's never going to happen.
    You're a booty call till something better comes along.
    Are you not worth more than that?

    As,in I would like the friends with benefits thing to get going. I don't want a relationship either. He texts me to meet up and then makes an excuse not to it after all. Why would he do this?


  • #4
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    confusedaboutaboy22 wrote: »
    Why would he do this?

    How long is a piece of string?
    Because he couldn't be arsed?
    Because he forgot the footie was on TV that night.
    Because something better came up?

    Seriously, only he can answer that question.
    Why don't you just ask him?


  • #5
    I am a friend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭I am a friend


    confusedaboutaboy22 wrote: »
    As,in I would like the friends with benefits thing to get going. I don't want a relationship either. He texts me to meet up and then makes an excuse not to it after all. Why would he do this?

    Cos he can, cos you let him over and over....

    Chances are he got a better / different offer.. Cant figure out why someone would set themselves up to be used like this????? He doesnt respect you enough to even stand over a date he makes with you so why would you want to sleep with this guy?? Come on... you can do better.


  • #6
    sammye333
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 78 ✭✭sammye333


    I used to go out with a girl like this.Kissing when we were out . Odd texts now and again. She just liked the attention. Some people just like to have things on there own terms and dont like hearing no.

    To be honest op, he is stringing you along. Your not even getting a friends with benefits relationships. He like keeping you dangling, just an emergency standbye. Not trying to be mean to you.:o

    Delete his number.

    sammy


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