Have you children? If so what age did you have your children?

SteppingStone

Hey Ladies. Just curious to see what age women here have had their children or do you have children yet?. I myself have no children. I am 28 and out of all my friends I am the eldest but the only one who doesn't have children. It's not because I don't want children I just don't feel I'm ready yet. (Are we ever?) The reason I'm bringing this up as lately all my friends are questioning when when am I going to have children and some to even say I'd want to get a move on. Surely i'm not that old right?:D

eviltwin

I have 2. I had my first at 19 and my second at 32. I'm 35 now and the only one of my friends with kids. Believe me you are never ready to have a child Only for the fact my first was a surprise I probably would still be childless.

up for anything

My first at 33, the second at 36, the third at 38 and the fourth at 40.

OP, at 28 you are still only a baby in the baby making stakes these days. Having said that I wish I'd had mine in my early twenties when I had more energy and and less patience.

xzanti

I have 1 Son, had him when I was 27.. in hindsight, I probably could have waited a few more years, even though he's great and I wouldn't be without him for a moment..

I've just turned 29 and I don't plan to have another (if any) child until my mid 30's.

nowayjosie

SteppingStone wrote: »

Hey Ladies. Just curious to see what age women here have had their children or do you have children yet?. I myself have no children. I am 28 and out of all my friends I am the eldest but the only one who doesn't have children. It's not because I don't want children I just don't feel I'm ready yet. (Are we ever?) The reason I'm bringing this up as lately all my friends are questioning when when am I going to have children and some to even say I'd want to get a move on. Surely i'm not that old right?:D

If you don't feel your ready yet then just wait. At 28 your still very young and in my opinion you have plenty time. Enjoy all the freedom and enjoy making all the last minute decisions to go out to a party or whatever, enjoy sleeping when you want for as long as you want, enjoy not coming home if you don't want to, love every minute of all your freedom coz as soon as a baby in on the scene your life changes so much - don't take me wrong its lovely to have children but it completely changes your life. As some one said earlier your never really ready.

Getting there

I'm 26 and have no children but slowly slowly im beginning to want them sooner rather than later. In an ideal world, I would like a baby by the time im 30 but also id like to be married then too. Considering im not even engaged then I may be waiting a while yet!

I do think that the age for first babies is getting older and older than even in the last ten years. I have a very large extended family and many are in 30's now but not one have had a first child before 30. That seems to be the norm the days.

Morag

I was 23 when I had my first and 25 when I had my second.
Yes people say compared to todays averages I was young but when my youngest is 20 I will be only 45 and that suits me just fine.

PlainP

I have two children, had my first when I was 25 second when I was 27. They were both a surprise but I wouldn't change it for the world. I'm 33 now and would love to have a couple more.

Don't think I'm too old yet though, still feel like I'm in my mid 20's .....

seenitall

Am 38, had my child when I was 32. I was completely ready for her, she lights up my life. Yes, there is a lot of sacrifice involved, but when you are ready, all those things like the loss of freedom etc. don't honestly feel like sacrifice. So yeah, my clock started really ticking at around 30. In my twenties it was all about "some day".

I'd love to have more kids, or at least one more, but it looks unlikely as neither friend nor foe wants to get into a relationship with a single mum, and I can't say I blame them!

So my advice to you, OP, is to take your time and choose well when you're choosing your OH/baby-daddy. If he sticks around, you may get to have a few kids, a proper family. If he doesn't, that's all she wrote! (Well, at least speaking for myself, I'm not into being a single mum a second time around.)

Babybuff

18 and just the one.

Dolbert

28 and in no rush, I enjoy my independence too much!

Bubblefett

I'm 24 and without kids- want them in the future but not till I'm in my 30s. Both my sisters had their first kid at 23 and always told me they wished they'd more time to enjoy their 20s carefree.
The OH is 8 years older than me though and has said he'd like to start thinking about kids in the next 3 to 4 years.

jellygems

21 n 22... 30 now and no more kids

Daisy M

I was 24 when I had my first, 27 second and 29 third. They were all planned and I am glad we had them when we did as I had a lot more energy and was less set in my ways than now!!

snowdaze

I was 24 for the first and 29 for the second....

looksee

22, 24, 30 and 40, youngest is now 25. For the older ones I was physically good but emotionally a bit young, for the youngest I was emotionally mature but easily wearied and physically a bit old for babies.

cynder

My first was born when i was 19 and 3 months, my second was born when i was 25 and 2 weeks, my 3rd was born when i was 26 and a half.

*married their dad when i was 28, he is 9 months older than me...

Im now almost 32, my eldest is almost 13 (female) our eldest boy is almost 7 and the baby is 5 and a half.

My self and my daughter get mistaken as sisters, she looks older could pass for 15 and i look younger i was still getting asked for id at 28, my daughter hates it when people ask if she is my sister, happens a lot at least once a week.

I am by far the youngest mom in my daughters class at school and even with my sons classes im of the younger crowd im probably in the bottom 2 to 3, well all but one looks older than me.

Smashhits

Had my 1st at 20, he was a surprise and second at 25. I'm 39 now and have 2 teenagers in the house.....hormone central! Don't think I would've had the energy if I'd waited until my 30's though.

cynder

Smashhits wrote: »

Had my 1st at 20, he was a surprise and second at 25. I'm 39 now and have 2 teenagers in the house.....hormone central! Don't think I would've had the energy if I'd waited until my 30's though.

Is it true what they say about life begining at 40?

when im 40 my lady will be 21 and my boys will be 15 and 14, at 44 they will be 25, 19 and 18. I will be able to go travel the world with my husband, take up more hobbies and no sooner will i have that done i will probably be minding the grandkids :eek: Im so looking forward to my 40's

CathyMoran

I had my son when I was 36 I think and my daughter when I was 37 - I regret not having them a lot sooner as I would love to have a lot more but being 38 now I will be lucky if we have one more. I met my husband in my early 20's but ill health then meant that we did not have a high chance of having them, I was for me stupidly waiting until my 30's - if you are with the right person go for it.

cynder

CathyMoran wrote: »

I had my son when I was 36 I think and my daughter when I was 37 - I regret not having them a lot sooner as I would love to have a lot more but being 38 now I will be lucky if we have one more. I met my husband in my early 20's but ill health then meant that we did not have a high chance of having them, I was for me stupidly waiting until my 30's - if you are with the right person go for it.

If we had of waited the chances of us having kids now would be slim to none, as my husband had testicular cancer at age 27, he lost one ball and the other was submitted to rounds of chemo.... dont know if he can have any more kids, we are however very happy with the ones we have got

nicechick!

I still think your very young so your right to wait whenever you ready! I'm 30 no kids just got into a relationship so babies not for another couple of years

iCosmopolis

Just had my first at 35 (she's 14 wks), and hope to have a second soon enough taking into account recovery from c section. I was only in the right mindset for kids in the last couple of years tbh, and was having a ball at 28 a driving factor for me too was that my mam had a fairly early menopause -she had me at 19 and the last of us at 36, but went into it about 43/44.
One of our friends had her first at 41 and second at 45!

CathyMoran

iCosmopolis wrote: »

Just had my first at 35 (she's 14 wks), and hope to have a second soon enough taking into account recovery from c section. I was only in the right mindset for kids in the last couple of years tbh, and was having a ball at 28 a driving factor for me too was that my mam had a fairly early menopause -she had me at 19 and the last of us at 36, but went into it about 43/44.
One of our friends had her first at 41 and second at 45!

My mother had the menopause at 40 so I am worried about that too but I would be more concerned about risks to any children if I had them over that age. I have less than 14 months between my two but would love one more at least.

eamor

First child at 32, second at 35. Im 37 this year and would love another but himself is not keen (he is 48). Most of my friends that have children are my age. My mum is a twin & my dads 2 sisters are twins so maybe if we did decide to try again we'd end up with 2 more!!

Pythia

I'm 26 and in a long term relationship. No kids. Out of the 100 girls in my year in school, 1 has had a baby so far which I think is an interesting statistic.

Don't plan on having kids, think I'm too selfish.

Smashhits

grindelwald wrote: »

Is it true what they say about life begining at 40?

when im 40 my lady will be 21 and my boys will be 15 and 14, at 44 they will be 25, 19 and 18. I will be able to go travel the world with my husband, take up more hobbies and no sooner will i have that done i will probably be minding the grandkids :eek: Im so looking forward to my 40's

I hope so, I've another year left so I'll let you know if it does start. I separated from my husband 2 years ago so I'm just starting to get my life back on track. As for grandkids I could have a few myself fairly soon!!! :eek:

miec

I had my child when I was 26, I doubt I would have any more as I'll be 41 in a few months time and I wouldn't have the energy or the inclination to start all over again.

Dudess

SteppingStone wrote: »

I am 28 and out of all my friends I am the eldest but the only one who doesn't have children. It's not because I don't want children I just don't feel I'm ready yet. (Are we ever?) The reason I'm bringing this up as lately all my friends are questioning when when am I going to have children and some to even say I'd want to get a move on. Surely i'm not that old right?:D

Wow, certainly not. I know people are different but talk of babies was non existent among my peers when I was your age, apart from the two friends who had kids. I think your friends are being rather obnoxious to you - surely it can't be of that much concern to them what way you live your life? Or are they envious that you don't have as high a level of responsibility as they do I wonder, and therefore you should be doing as they do... Saying you'd want to get a move-on is actually nasty IMO. I thought only grandmothers and some of our mothers went on with that stuff these days, not young women.
Are you in a relationship OP? What's his take on having kids?

I'm nearly 34, no kids, no desire for them either - but I haven't been in a serious relationship since 2009 to be fair. Hardly any of my friends have kids still.
I actually really like kids, go weak all together for babies, but whether I have my own - que sera sera. A friend told me I'd make an amazing mum which was lovely, but still... I enjoy my freedom so much... however, who knows?

nowayjosie

grindelwald wrote: »

My first was born when i was 19 and 3 months, my second was born when i was 25 and 2 weeks, my 3rd was born when i was 26 and a half.

*married their dad when i was 28, he is 9 months older than me...

Im now almost 32, my eldest is almost 13 (female) our eldest boy is almost 7 and the baby is 5 and a half.

My self and my daughter get mistaken as sisters, she looks older could pass for 15 and i look younger i was still getting asked for id at 28, my daughter hates it when people ask if she is my sister, happens a lot at least once a week.

I am by far the youngest mom in my daughters class at school and even with my sons classes im of the younger crowd im probably in the bottom 2 to 3, well all but one looks older than me.

I'm just curious here - Is looking very young and being regarded as the youngest mom very important to you?

cynder

nowayjosie wrote: »

grindelwald wrote: »

My first was born when i was 19 and 3 months, my second was born when i was 25 and 2 weeks, my 3rd was born when i was 26 and a half.

*married their dad when i was 28, he is 9 months older than me...

Im now almost 32, my eldest is almost 13 (female) our eldest boy is almost 7 and the baby is 5 and a half.

My self and my daughter get mistaken as sisters, she looks older could pass for 15 and i look younger i was still getting asked for id at 28, my daughter hates it when people ask if she is my sister, happens a lot at least once a week.

I am by far the youngest mom in my daughters class at school and even with my sons classes im of the younger crowd im probably in the bottom 2 to 3, well all but one looks older than me.

I'm just curious here - Is looking very young and being regarded as the youngest mom very important to you?

Oh yes that's the sole reason I got pregnant at 19 so I could be youngest mom in my child's class......


FFs.....

It didn't even hit me till my kids started school, and if you read between the lines you will see my point, most of the moms were older than 26 when they had their kids, I was one of the few to have kids young....

:rolleyes:

rainbow kirby

27 and no kids here. Parenthood sounds scary to me. :eek:

hondasam

I was 17yrs when I had my first baby, second when I was 20 and third when I was 21. I would probably do it the same again.

cynder

hondasam wrote: »

I was 17yrs when I had my first baby, second when I was 20 and third when I was 21. I would probably do it the same again.

How do you fit them all on your Honda Sam?


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hondasam

grindelwald wrote: »

How do you fit them all on your Honda Sam?


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Very witty

nowayjosie

grindelwald wrote: »

Oh yes that's the sole reason I got pregnant at 19 so I could be youngest mom in my child's class......


FFs.....

It didn't even hit me till my kids started school, and if you read between the lines you will see my point, most of the moms were older than 26 when they had their kids, I was one of the few to have kids young....

:rolleyes:

Grindelwald I didn't think that for a moment at all - sorry if you thought that's what I meant - it's just when I read your post I did try to understand what you meant but it just came across to me that it was very important for you to be taken to be younger than you are - only because you kept saying it!! Your 13 yr old looks 15yrs old and people think you are sisters and your the youngest mom between her class's moms etc.... all i can say its well for you if you look 15yrs old - lets in on the secret?

cynder

nowayjosie wrote: »

grindelwald wrote: »

Oh yes that's the sole reason I got pregnant at 19 so I could be youngest mom in my child's class......


FFs.....

It didn't even hit me till my kids started school, and if you read between the lines you will see my point, most of the moms were older than 26 when they had their kids, I was one of the few to have kids young....

:rolleyes:

Grindelwald I didn't think that for a moment at all - sorry if you thought that's what I meant - it's just when I read your post I did try to understand what you meant but it just came across to me that it was very important for you to be taken to be younger than you are - only because you kept saying it!! Your 13 yr old looks 15yrs old and people think you are sisters and your the youngest mom between her class's moms etc.... all i can say its well for you if you look 15yrs old - lets in on the secret?

I have no intention of looking or acting like a 15 year old, I've started to get fine lines, to me I look my age, people just don't expect me to have a teen. It happens a lot that's why I mention it, happened today at a dog show, happened yesterday at the equestrian centre. Happened in dunnes on Friday. Even people I have known for years but only see now and then, do a double take.


Sorry I took the huff....

kelle

I was 30 when I had my first, then 32 and 36. I'm now 41 and never want to go through baby or toddler stage again, my children are just at a perfect stage!

cynder

hondasam wrote: »

grindelwald wrote: »

How do you fit them all on your Honda Sam?


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Very witty

http://www.worldsupertravel.info/main/families-with-babies-riding-on-motorcycles-chinaindia-etc


Are you one of these guys???
Love the baby in the bucket

hondasam

grindelwald wrote: »

http://www.worldsupertravel.info/main/families-with-babies-riding-on-motorcycles-chinaindia-etc


Are you one of these guys???
Love the baby in the bucket

Honda is a car and I'm a cool sporty mom.

cynder

hondasam wrote: »

grindelwald wrote: »

http://www.worldsupertravel.info/main/families-with-babies-riding-on-motorcycles-chinaindia-etc


Are you one of these guys???
Love the baby in the bucket

Honda is a car and I'm a cool sporty mom.

:eek: though you were a guy... Didn't see your avatar.


Alsi thought you had a Honda 50.... cant wind you up now, is it better to be called guy than girl .

Must head over to that thread..... Sorry for the misunderstanding over your sex...

hondasam

grindelwald wrote: »

:eek: though you were a guy... Didn't see your avatar.


Alsi thought you had a Honda 50.... cant wind you up now, is it better to be called guy than girl .

Must head over to that thread..... Sorry for the misunderstanding over your sex...

Often get called a guy, does not bother me.

Lola92

I had my daughter a few months before I turned 19. It is not for everyone but I love being a parent. I would love a big family and can't wait to have more but got to get college finished and out of the way first

Jenneke87

Had they made it into the world, I would have been a mum at 20 and 22.

aisher

I was 30 when I had triplets - they are now 11 - can not imagine having babies again - loved it at the time but now I just remember all the work lol

lazygal

I'll be 30 having my first. Had I met my husband sooner I would have had children sooner. I always wanted to be a young mum, is 30 a young mum?! Not sure!

Dudess

aisher wrote: »

I had triplets - they are now 11 - can not imagine having babies again - loved it at the time but now I just remember all the work lol

Wow, full-on! :eek:

I remember a girl in my cousin's class was 18 when she had triplets - eek...

CarMe

I was 23. She's ten months old now and I can't believe I spent 23 years without her. She amazes me and so does the extreme love I have for her!

OP there's no need to worry at all, I was always the youngest at all my hospital appointments etc, there was women right up to 41 that I've met.

nowayjosie

WOW OMG --- EH ok i never said any thing about acting like a 15yr old!!! Maybe people dont expect you to have a teen - because maybe you do act much younger than you are - as you say happened friday at the???- happened yesterday at the ******** - happened today at the ¬¬¬¬¬ - happened happened happened Sorry about the huff huff huff WOW! i think you have just explained it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! all !!!! so is the secret act 15yrs old and you will be taken for a 15yr Old???????

beks101

27 and babies are a different language to me right now. I'm having way too much fun arsing around the world doing as I please and staying accountable to no-one to think about them.

It obviously differs from peer group to peer group though. Just one of my friends has a child, a very un-planned daughter at 23, not all that young in hindsight but a complete bolt out of the blue to my entire circle of friends at the time.

I don't expect the thought to enter my head until 30+ tbh.

ETA: I often wonder if there's a connection between family background and age of childbirth? My parents would have been considered really old in their time, my mother was 34 when she had her first and 39 when she had her last; Dad was a year older than that again. And on reflection, growing up I never thought of my twenties as the time for having kids, it was always 'thirty-something' - twenties was always reserved for travel and career in my child's mind and that's the way it's turned out for me.

I'd be curious to know how many ladies here who had their kids young, came from parents who did the same.

Dudess

lazygal wrote: »

I'll be 30 having my first. Had I met my husband sooner I would have had children sooner. I always wanted to be a young mum, is 30 a young mum?! Not sure!

Don't think it is, but by today's trends it's extremely far from a late mum too.