counselling for weight loss

mrkdips

Hi there

I am in trauma. I really have a very bad attitude to food. I cant seem to click it into my head that the rubbish that I eat could destroy my health. I lost a lot of weight a few years ago for my wedding and felt so fab -I had never looked so well and felt so fab ever. Unfortunately 4 years later I have put back the 4 stone I lost and a bit more. I cant seem to control what my thinking with food is.If I have a bad day I must reach for bad food, if some event happens to one of my friends I have to celebrate it with food. I know that I am using my body as a rubbish bin but as I said I can't seem to click now that this is wrong. I go on many diets (or as I prefer to call them "healthy eating".), exercise really well - may lose a stone adn then put it back up again in no time at all. The thing is I used to love excerise and still do when I do it, but am very self conscious at the moment about doing it as I know I have a lot of weight. I know I was there before and succeeded really well. Tell me how to go back there. I really think I need to stop assoicating food with emotions and cut back on the portion side. I have myself convinced now that this is an emotional thing and that there is something deep down that I am holding onto. It really upsets me and I look at all my fab clothes from 4 years ago and hope that I will get back into them some day. I really worry about my health and wondering if counselling has worked for people in a similar situation. I am fairly miserable at the moment except I dont let onto even my lovely husband half the time. I get upset recently so easily at work, at home and I know the underlying issue is weight. can anyone advise me? Counselling? personnel Training? Thanks in advance

all_smilz

am in same boat- lost 5.5 stone- gained 6.5! Just lost 16lbs in healthy eating (mostly) and exercise.
Its a desperate rut and u are not abnormal- i attach all my feelings to food- i am just now trying to make it healthy food, if I have a slip up or whatever you want to call them I TRY to draw a line and get over it. I say affirmations to myself (tho i am not an affirmationy person) I say " i am slim, I am strong, I am healthy, I am my ideal weight, I love to exercise" etc.

I find my big failure is that I am a perfectionist- i want to do everything right but sometimes I end up somewhere I didnt plan to be and I overeat or choose the wrong foods. I kill myself with guilt and then perpetuate the cycle... If i eat one square of chocolate I think I have blown my day and then I binge.
I FIND knowing my issues and my weaknesses really help... I talk about what I am eating to my partner and offload a bit when I stressing....
I ended up going back to an old job where I ate badly all the time and its a cave of emotions and temptations- in anticipation of this I sabotaged myself by eating crisps and two bars of chocolate- It did take the edge off and make me realise I was panicking about the temptation, So i said to myself- ok! that was lovely but I did it for the wrong reasons and NOW i know How I am feeling am I really going to EFF this up for myself....? So I told my Bf and I just did my best to get back on the wagon!

I really wish you the best of luck with your journey.

YOU DESERVE TO BE WELL AND HAPPY!

Outkast_IRE

mrkdips wrote: »

Hi there

I am in trauma. I really have a very bad attitude to food. I cant seem to click it into my head that the rubbish that I eat could destroy my health. I lost a lot of weight a few years ago for my wedding and felt so fab -I had never looked so well and felt so fab ever. Unfortunately 4 years later I have put back the 4 stone I lost and a bit more. I cant seem to control what my thinking with food is.If I have a bad day I must reach for bad food, if some event happens to one of my friends I have to celebrate it with food. I know that I am using my body as a rubbish bin but as I said I can't seem to click now that this is wrong. I go on many diets (or as I prefer to call them "healthy eating".), exercise really well - may lose a stone adn then put it back up again in no time at all. The thing is I used to love excerise and still do when I do it, but am very self conscious at the moment about doing it as I know I have a lot of weight. I know I was there before and succeeded really well. Tell me how to go back there. I really think I need to stop assoicating food with emotions and cut back on the portion side. I have myself convinced now that this is an emotional thing and that there is something deep down that I am holding onto. It really upsets me and I look at all my fab clothes from 4 years ago and hope that I will get back into them some day. I really worry about my health and wondering if counselling has worked for people in a similar situation. I am fairly miserable at the moment except I dont let onto even my lovely husband half the time. I get upset recently so easily at work, at home and I know the underlying issue is weight. can anyone advise me? Counselling? personnel Training? Thanks in advance

Would you consider keeping a very honest food diary and trying to be as accurate as possible with the Calorie count, i have somone doing this since Jan this year and this along with moderate exercise they have lost 17 pounds since Janruary and are consistently losing small amount of weight every week.

She is a female and the usual rule of thumb is 1500 cal per day maximum allowed.
But most days if careful and picking healthy options calorie count comes in around 1100-1300 calories per day.

This is a good option as its
1.Cheap
2.Teaches good eating habits as you learn what amount of calories are in everything.
3.Teaches discilpline as you will feel disappointed in yourself if you exceed your limit.

This option only works if you can be honest and put everything you eat down with a honest calorie estimate.

mrkdips

Thanks for the replies. So I am not cracking up so /!!! In a relatively good place today now and am planning to start tomorrow and as you said All Smilz - if I slip up I will just move on and start the very next minute being good again. As you said if I ate one piece of choco I go off the band wagon completely as I feel that I have blow it. All Smilz - reading your post - it could be me writing that!!!
I am used to keeping food diaries -am good for a while and then slip off. As someone said recently "When you are good, you are very very good and when you are bad you are shocking" - that sums me up nicely.
I have a wedding in sept and I dont want to be the person avoiding photos and avoiding meeting people who I have not met since my own wedding. I have time to at least lose 2 - 2.5 stone in that time - any thing else is a bonus.
I WILL be determined now and will get results.
thanks for the support - tomorrow is a new day:)

GalwayDonegal

I know how you feel. as I read your post it had myself written all over it. I badly need help. Dont know where to loolk for the help. Tried counselling tried every weight loss class going but can't stop eating. You not alone. Quote=mrkdips;78025671]Hi there

I am in trauma. I really have a very bad attitude to food. I cant seem to click it into my head that the rubbish that I eat could destroy my health. I lost a lot of weight a few years ago for my wedding and felt so fab -I had never looked so well and felt so fab ever. Unfortunately 4 years later I have put back the 4 stone I lost and a bit more. I cant seem to control what my thinking with food is.If I have a bad day I must reach for bad food, if some event happens to one of my friends I have to celebrate it with food. I know that I am using my body as a rubbish bin but as I said I can't seem to click now that this is wrong. I go on many diets (or as I prefer to call them "healthy eating".), exercise really well - may lose a stone adn then put it back up again in no time at all. The thing is I used to love excerise and still do when I do it, but am very self conscious at the moment about doing it as I know I have a lot of weight. I know I was there before and succeeded really well. Tell me how to go back there. I really think I need to stop assoicating food with emotions and cut back on the portion side. I have myself convinced now that this is an emotional thing and that there is something deep down that I am holding onto. It really upsets me and I look at all my fab clothes from 4 years ago and hope that I will get back into them some day. I really worry about my health and wondering if counselling has worked for people in a similar situation. I am fairly miserable at the moment except I dont let onto even my lovely husband half the time. I get upset recently so easily at work, at home and I know the underlying issue is weight. can anyone advise me? Counselling? personnel Training? Thanks in advance[/Quote]

Grannie Annie

Hi all, Im new to this but have been lurking around the weightwatchers thread for a while looking for inspiration. Every night I plan on starting the following morning with healthy eating and exercise. I sometime do ok untill around dinner time (usually after 5pm) and then I start and to be honest I would be embarrassed to say how much I eat! I can't seem to motivate myself to make a reasonable effort. Sometimes I eat so much I feel stuffed but still keep eating then I feel discusted with myself. If i make one small mistake I just use it as an excuse to throw in the towel. I really don't no how to get myself out of this rut. I eat big time when I am on my own or have found myself hiding food from others! I hate myself at the moment, hate going out anywhere and seem to spend my time in track bottoms and baggy sweaters. I want this weight to be gone NOW and can't seem to keep going. Some days I think Im loosing my mind or am depressed. I was wondering has anyone been hypnotised and if so did it help?

Meelich

Mrkdips, I feel for you and you are not alone on this one and like the other posters I could have written your post. I'm four stone heavier than when I got married and have gone up and down - was finally diagnosed with type 2 diabetes last November and referred to my local diabetic clinic which I saw in December. I've lost a stone since - ok not much in four months however it's averaging about a pound a week which if I keep at it will be over three stone by this christmas which would be fab. I have tried every diet going only to put the weight back on and even saw a personal trainer for a good bit last year and that had minimal impact because I wasn't there in my head.

One thing the dietician said to me which really struck a chord was not to keep a food diary because for someone like me with an emotional attachment to food having a bad day or bad lunch/snack/dinner would lead to me feeling so guilty it would derail me further. She said the important thing is to make healthy choices most of the time, no-one can be perfect 100% of the time. That actually has really worked for me and the lack of guilt to do with food is great.

I find that I eat if I am tired, sad or happy. I find a little bit of exercise gives me a bit more energy and I'm also less hungry. So what I have been trying my best to focus on is making sure that I get enough rest and that I manage my emotions.

Focus on the long term goal.

I haven't tried hypnotism - have wondered about it myself however I reckon this is about chipping away - it's eating the elephant one bite at a time!

Best of luck to everyone. Onwards and upwards!

mrkdips

So I am not going crazy so!!.
thank you all for your kind posts and thoughts. it is very difficult at the moment. i do find myself crying so easily at the moment and am very emotional. have started B6 which has lifted my mood a bit so will try these out for a while. today is DAY ONE and I feel good. Very tired though but that is because I have stopped eating at 7 and am feeling peekish now. I hope that I can do this now. I feel so stupid thinking badly when there are so many more issues in the world. I really should count myself lucky. Will let you know my progress. best of luck to everyone in their endeavours. we are in it together and will help each other

Johnny_BravoIII

Losing weight is a relatively temporary process typically executed through a short-term diet & excercise programme. Although a commendable achievement it really is the easy part!
It only requires short-term focus.

Keeping the weight off is the hard part as you cannot concentrate forever.
Keeping weight off requires permanent lifestyle change.
New lifestyle habits must become automatic daily. Hard-wired into who you are as a person.

You will not resolve this issue through thinking until something clicks in your head.
You will resolve this issue through consuming the correct amount of calories today, tomorrow and on a daily basis for the rest of your life.

Finally excercise is critical to keep you balanced emotionally but it will not compensate for excesive eating.

Meelich

Mrkdip, keep at it - chip away - and don't go hungry because that makes it even worse. Keep a store of healthy snacks - fruit, oatcakes, etc - that you can nibble on and fill up with water. Rigidly sticking to points etc just makes me miserable - but thinking three square healthy meals and two or three healthy snacks does work better. The odd blow out is not the end of the world - you're talking about a lifestyle change here and you are trying to change habits you've had for a long time.

Give yourself a break - go easy!

mrkdips

thanks Meelich and johnny!

you are so right. I feel in a much better place at the moment - getting BETTER with the food too - I think my mood has lifted cause I am leaving work earlier and not staying late, not feeling as stressed as I normally would and know that I can make the changes I need to. Like you Meelich I hate points counting etc and it did make me miserable. I have started back last Sat with a weight lose programme which is very much about the excerise and the good healthy food. No gimmicks like sachets, bars, shakes etc and is completely natural and balanced. Also signed up to walk/run in the relay in the cork city marathon in 5 weeks time so If that wont get be kicked started nothing will!! - started my run this evening (in the rain even -which must be a break-through!! ) and it wasnt bad at all.
I have come to the conclusion that it is good to talk (or at least write..!) as your thoughts and comments have helped me realise that I am not alone, not going crazy but that it is only me that can change the way I feel.

Thanks:) and take care everyone