At a loss

LegacyUser

Not really sure where to start here but have noone else to talk to so would appreciate some advice or thoughts from people on the outside.

So I was travelling for 6 months a couple of years ago, when I came back I started seeing a guy, this all ended a few weeks ago, no explanation from him he just ended it. Anyway I am so depressed and down at the moment and cant seem to lift my mood no matter what I do, I have 4 friends, 3 of which are engaged and the other one is in a long term relationship. None of them have any interest in socialising apart from maybe a quick bite to eat for an hour during the week.

So I am trying to get over the break-up of my relationship which has hit me hard and knocked my self-confidence right back down to near zero. I just dont know what to do to lift my mood, I go for runs and things but I have noone to take my mind off things and just seem to sit alone or go shopping alone. I considered talking to a counsellor but have been told they just sit there and listen rather then advise you so am not sure that would do any good.

One thing to mention is I am considering going travelling again but am not sure if it is 'running away from things' all I can think is when I was travelling I was the happiest I have ever been in my life and I just seem to be a miserable wreck now, crying all the time and feeling worthless. People tell me I'm beautiful and guys always look at me when I'm out but I just think to myself they must be blind or crazy. I have a great job which is a reason to maybe not leave again as I will have to start all over again when I come back which took a while when I came back last time.

Sorry for the long post just looking for some insight. Thanks

Taltos

your thread may be better here OP

holyhead

Hi OP. Try not to be so hard on yourself. If you catch the eyes of guys then you must indeed be attractive. Its important though that you value yourself first and foremost. You are not worthless and sounds like you have a good job so that in itself, which given the climate, should be a source of pride to you.
Not sure travelliing, much as you enjoy it is the answer. I can appreciate that with your friends tied up in there relationships socialising opportunities are limited. Why not endeavour to make new friends through clubs etc.
Try and build up your self esteem before embarking on a fresh relationship. Best of luck OP

superblu

That's pretty rough alright. I Agree with Holyhead. I wouldn't worry about trying to find a bloke in the short term. Get yourself back on your feet first. You need something to occupy your mind. Is there any sport or pastime that you did when you were younger that you could get back into. This would help both to occupy your mind and widen your social circle. Best of luck anyway.

Wompa1

Be weary about travelling. Make sure you are in the right frame of mind. I was kind of forced into travelling a lot after my last long term relationship and it made things worse. All that time on planes, trains, buses and being stuck in hotels.