get back in contact??

LegacyUser

Basically, for the last week or so iv had the urge to contact my ex boyfriend. We split up last July and cut all contact in January this year. I've been doing great since we stopped contact, moving on bla bla. But recently I received some bad news and since then iv done nothing but think about him and getting back in touch. But there are a few things im afraid of, firstly that he wont answer my call/text and secondly that it will completely set me back in getting over him, we were together 6 years and it took me almost 5months just to get to a relatively "good" place about the breakup! Should I break our no contact deal or try to put him to the back of my mind again???

Payton

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Basically, for the last week or so iv had the urge to contact my ex boyfriend. We split up last July and cut all contact in January this year. I've been doing great since we stopped contact, moving on bla bla. But recently I received some bad news and since then iv done nothing but think about him and getting back in touch. But there are a few things im afraid of, firstly that he wont answer my call/text and secondly that it will completely set me back in getting over him, we were together 6 years and it took me almost 5months just to get to a relatively "good" place about the breakup! Should I break our no contact deal or try to put him to the back of my mind again???

Hi, judging by your post it seems you broke up on bad terms and a lot of hurt took place. You said yourself that your in a better place and it took you 5 months to get there. Leave it be, you both have moved on and with good reason. You need to stay focused on you, if your bad news is troubling you talk to family or friends....he's an ex for a reason, don't let that reason dwell on your mind.
Best of luck.

Stavro Mueller

Because you were with him for such a long time, he probably became the first person you turned to when things went wrong. I'm thinking that's what's behind your desire to turn to him now. Don't do it. It's not going to help the healing process one bit. Indeed, if he ignores you or isn't nice to you, it'll just hurt you more. I hope you have family or friends you can talk to instead.

LegacyUser

We didn't exactly end on bad terms but yes a lot of hurt took place on both sides. I do have other people I can turn to but I just feel that no one understands me quite like him...but at the same time I think I'm going to take this advice and leave well alone. I'm usually very impulsive so the fact that I have taken time to think about this shows that deep down I know it isn't the right thing to do.

Thank you!!

I am a friend

You made the right decision not to... it would not be fair on him either.

Wompa1

Yeah, don't do it for sure!!