Need to learn how to kiss!

music1988

Strange, long, romantic story behind this one!
Basically, might have a chance soon to kiss this girl I've been mad about for years. Things are going well friendship-wise and all at the moment, and it just might take off soon (here's hoping!)
But the only thing is, I know being able to kiss well is important, and to be honest, I've not had enough practice at it to be confident in kissing her well.
(Long story short, I never gave up on her, but she went off with other guys in the past (teenage stuff). but that kinda explains why I wasn't just out with other girls doing whatever)
She's had a lot of boyfriends and a lot of practice, and I just don't want to be a crap kisser basically.
Haven't got a clue how I'd go about learning short of paying someone!
(not gonna go out on the lash and practice on random girls btw, before anyone suggests that!)
any ideas?!

Feel free to call me a loser by the way!

I'm not sure how to describe how to kiss properly to someone, mainly because each person kisses differently. The best thing you can do, OP, is to try and feel how it goes.

snafuk35

Move you face close into hers looking her eyes, kiss her on the lips, close your eyes and then open your mouth and stick your tongue into her mouth.

LegacyUser

I'm sure there are many videos on youtube if you type in 'how to kiss' or something similar

Dravokivich

hmm... dont over think it. Kissing is a lot easier to do than other stuff.

You basically start off by slowly brushing your lips across each others lips (upwards and downwards).

Then after a while open the mouth up a bit (if unsure how much to open it by, just open up slowly till you get to something confortable) and alternate between who places who's lips in between the mouth.

Also if you're going to slide your tounge in, don't start wiggling it around like you are trying to furiously lick the last few bits of ice cream from a bowl. It can be rather distracting.

jubella

If she's had a lot of practice, as you say, then just follow her lead - at least for the first time anyway! If she knows what she's doing then just go along with that
Just be soft and don't try too hard... Good luck!

cliona8969

Dravokivich wrote: »

hmm... dont over think it. Kissing is a lot easier to do than other stuff.

You basically start off by slowly brushing your lips across each others lips (upwards and downwards).

Then after a while open the mouth up a bit (if unsure how much to open it by, just open up slowly till you get to something confortable) and alternate between who places who's lips in between the mouth.

Also if you're going to slide your tounge in, don't start wiggling it around like you are trying to furiously lick the last few bits of ice cream from a bowl. It can be rather distracting.

good advice but im not sure about alternating between who places whos lips in between the mouth...
if you place lips in between the mouth then u cant really use your tongue so its best to place your lips against their lips directly i think

Dravokivich

cliona8969 wrote: »

good advice but im not sure about alternating between who places whos lips in between the mouth...
if you place lips in between the mouth then u cant really use your tongue so its best to place your lips against their lips directly i think

Well, as Boneyarsebogman said himself, there's different prefrences and thats mainly mine.

Nothing wrong with a bit of tongue either though.

ihsb

I find kissing more stressful then sex. And I am female, we are meant to have all this sorted out... as Cosmo tells us anyway.

But throw caution to the wind. Take her lead. First kisses are rarely magical, it takes a while to get into the groove and find something that both of you like.

Kiss lightly and sweetly, and you have to take it from there depending on her reaction.

LegacyUser

Softly press your lips against hers then follow her lead (that is go with what she does).

music1988

thanks for the advice guys, will keep it in mind
think i need to hire hitch! like lessons on how to be cool as well! : (

It's pretty hard to get kissing wrong OP, mainly because there are so many different techniques out there. Just don't overthink it and just go for it. You'll eventually find your own.

Sleepy

Just don't over-think it and don't ram your tongue down her throat or go all "washing machine" and you'll be fine.

starlit

I agree with other posters here. Go with the flow it happen naturally to be honest. Just go for it but try not to put pressure on each other go with what is comfortable. Everyone's kissing technique is different.

I find the best way to kiss is follow the other persons lead or they try to follow yours in a way that is comfortable for both of you. Gently pressing on the lips is nicer than total open mouth and tongue unless you want a passionate kiss. Go slow and at your own pace at first to get use to each other. There is no right or wrong way to kiss all depends on the person and the technique.

Try not to over think it and just go with it!

OP do not overthink it because if you do when it happens you will get into your own head and you will become much more nervous and that will mean she will feel like it is forced or your not into her more than likely both.

Stay relaxed, someone has already said that a first kiss is rarely magical they are right but at the same it is still a moment to get right, the key thing is to stay relaxed be confident even if your not she doesn't know that your not.

Before the kiss make sure you look her in the eyes maintain eye contact and smile, its not rocket obviously dont stare her down and have a murderous grin. Make her want to kiss you, in the build up stay close to her not in a creepy way but you want to have atleast some contact with other parts of your body before you kiss her.. During the kiss dont move around too much and dont cup her face because it is a bit forceful for a first kiss instead hold her waist and pull her close to you. As for tongue use you will be able to work out if she wants to because she will use tongue. Also do not ruin your first by trying to get her naked straight after because that will just kill the moment.

Hope that helps and leads to what you want..

music1988

well, thanks everyone for the help.
unfortunately, looks like I won't be needing it for a while. things not going well : (
thanks everyone anyway