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Another break up thread!

  • 03-04-2012 9:16am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    long story short- lived with my partner of 7 years, had a child together. out of nowhere (after a short period of not really talkin etc, him avoiding me) he says hes done. spark is gone, we're not living properly as people, just run of the mill routine as partners and parents.

    initially i wanted us to work through it together but he made it clear he wanted alone time and for us to both kind of find ourselves and maybe we'd get back together if this happened. cue lots of confusion/hope on my part but eventually i started just gaining perspective and just looking after myself and living again. ive really become a better person and mother for it tbh.

    the thing is our 'relationship' is still up in the air- we're broken up but we didnt break up on bad terms or anything, we had initially said we wouldnt see other people but i dont even know if this still stands. we've tried the friends thing and every phone call ends up in an argument due to discussions re child/house etc. ive tried to discuss this with him and make him realise that its easier to just be civil and leave the heavy stuff til the dust settles. but he seems to just want rid of me right now, then every few days tries the friendly thing again and then bk to no contact.

    he wanted time to be himself and hes been doing that- going out etc. but he seems to resent that im doing the same. which at first he said he wanted me to do.

    if there was no child and house involved i could do what i know is best- no contact- move on etc. but right now im trying to keep us on good terms for our future with our child- even if it will be seperately. how am i supposed to move on when i literally cant? i tried the 'lets not even talk on fone for a while and have a person to buffer where child is concerned' but the minute he calls i answer. please help, my head is so frazzled. i still hope we will get bk together but its not looking likely and its hard to move on from it with things so complicated.

    i know people go through this all the time but i just feel like its neverending. please help.


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