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  • 01-04-2012 5:37pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Told my girlfriend of 4 months this time last week that i loved her for the first time. She didnt say it back and feels that it was to soon! Since then we havent really talked cause she wants space to think bout things. She txt me friday night to say happy birthday and she mentioned she doesnt know yet what to do.

    Its been a week now and i dunno what to do. I feel a week is plenty of time to think things over. Should i text her or continue to give her space which i dunno how long that will be. Is it a bit selfish of her as she aint the only one involved???


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  • #2
    Dolly Daydreams
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 245 ✭✭Dolly Daydreams


    confused man wrote: »
    Told my girlfriend of 4 months this time last week that i loved her for the first time. She didnt say it back and feels that it was to soon! Since then we havent really talked cause she wants space to think bout things. She txt me friday night to say happy birthday and she mentioned she doesnt know yet what to do.

    Its been a week now and i dunno what to do. I feel a week is plenty of time to think things over. Should i text her or continue to give her space which i dunno how long that will be. Is it a bit selfish of her as she aint the only one involved???

    It's hard to tell when the 'I love you' phrase should be used, for some it's 2 weeks for some it's 9 months. The fact that she barely acknowleged your birthday is a bit of a stinger, are you in a long distance relationship perhaps? I think if you're not getting communication in a whole week, that does, for me, speak volumes.. But it depends on how much you'd communicate normally


  • #3
    ihsb
    Closed Accounts Posts: 678 ✭✭✭ihsb


    I was the one to say it first in my relationship and I was waiting a while to get it back. It sucked but it was worth it! I was nearly going to end it with frustration because I felt like he had the upper hand in the relationship but it all worked out in the end.

    My advice would be to stick with the relationship as long as you are comfortable with no "I love you" said back to you. It might shock you when it clicks with her too. But it would do neither of you any good if you stay and it eats away at you.

    What would bother me more is the lack of doing anything for your birthday. That seriously sucks. After four months, I would want the three words and at least something a little bit special for my birthday! You have to talk to her. And don't force yourself to be ok with a situation you are not happy in.


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