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Not satisfied with my life

  • 23-03-2012 7:46am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Will try to keep this short and sweet. I'm 26. Basically I am very self critical and don't know if this is justified or if i'm being too hard on myself. I've lived out of home from an early age, did a college course, Higher Cert course. I am back in college nearly finished 3rd year now doing a degree course after taken a four year gap. I have a decent job that pays well, that I got through a family member, but I hate it. I basically beat myself up because I don't know what I want to do with my life, for getting myself in to debt (which I have right down now). I criticise myself for letting myself get stuck in a job I don't like for so long. If I put on weight i'm hard on myself over that. Don't get my wrong I know I sound like a big ball of negativity but i'm really not. Most of the time i'm upbeat and try and look at the good in things, just these little doubts do be swirling in my head during the day. I guess when I was younger at this stage I would have thought I would have my career well under way by now, have done some travelling etc, bit naive maybe???? I have the most loving bf but even now and then I have doubts about our relationship, though we're going away soon and i'm soooooooo excited about spending the weekend together just the two of us, so surely that should say it all??? Not sure what i'm looking for really, just to vent maybe.


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  • #2
    itisallaboutme
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7 ✭itisallaboutme


    " I guess when I was younger at this stage I would have thought I would have my career well under way by now, have done some travelling etc"
    I am a few years younger then you and facing the same issues I know that by your age I will not achieve the goals I grew up wanting/expecting of myself. Things take a turn in life that changes everything, and while I like you am mostly upbeat and see the best in everything, there are moments when things just suck because things haven't gone the way you thought it was supposed to. I have tried to change this by realising I still have a lot of time to do the things I want, you are 26, which is still quite young in the grand scale of things, esp when the average age of death in Ireland is somewhere between 78 and 81 (I think). I know a couple who started travelling when their youngest went to college. And I think that because they are older they appreciate things that I never would or notice. Basically what I am saying is there is so much time to do the things you want in life.
    "Basically I am very self critical and don't know if this is justified or if i'm being too hard on myself...for getting myself in to debt (which I have right down now). I criticise myself for letting myself get stuck in a job I don't like for so long. If I put on weight i'm hard on myself over that"
    I don't think is such a bad thing, don't stress too much about things you can't change, but at the same time you need to be a little hard on your self or how else would you motivate yourself to change the things you can. Look into another job, although I understand the need for it to be a well paying one, and that these are hard to find atm and since you are in debt (like me) it is a big issue. As for getting critical for weight gain, body image is really important for self esteem, I put on about three stone over the last five years, and I never used to care about my weight and now it's a lot harder to shift.


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