Would you work where your OH works and vice versa?

Lando Griffin

The OH is thinking of giving up her work and taking up a position at my place of work, sitting in the same office as me. Now, in the current economic climate it would make perfect fiscal sence for her and me to work in the same place the advantages being : only 1 car needed saving a whopping (including tax and insurance and petrol 3500 euros) per calander year.
But I dont knopw if it is the right decision for me ( not being selfish or anything ) just wont seem right.
We would be waking up together, eating brekfast getting in the car off to work, into office sitting around passing by her. No doubt she would be having lunch with me and getting home together before all the evening stuff. I couldn't bare it. I have worked in places where a husband and wife team worked together and they hung around together in a little twosome group. It was painful to watch. The pair of them were the managers so nobody felt safe telling either of them anything. Then he would be trying to be hard nosed and she would come in a blurt out about some condition he had or was watching some soppy program getting emotional. It was an awful experience really.
Then like everyone at work thinks she is very intellegant but once you get to know her youd be thinking oh ooh whats going on here, like one day when driving I said lets sing the Alphabat song to which she replied “oh, I dont know the words to that”. She also rewrote history by claiming that Marco Polo was in fact Chineese and argued this point.
I have worked up a relationship with everyone in my workplace, and have personal jokes with everyone, surly if herself came on board this would stop. There is also a dolly bird at work who I get on great with, we go for lunch together alone every Friday to have a chat, and we always have a giggle or joke to share, nothing serious, but there have been whispers. I couldn't think the hassel it would cause herself if she found out about this friendship.
So Ahers, what do you think.
Could you work as a husband and wife team in the same office every day for the rest of your natural lives, or would it be a relationship utopia, where you are with the person you love and cherish 24 hours a day?

themandan6611

too tired, can not read all of that

galwayrush

No ****ing way, my better half works in teaching / crowd control in a school that would be best described as a zoo. I'd only do it if i could shoot some of the ****s.

cloptrop

You will never get to bone the dolly bird if you let the other half work with you . You may regret this .

kfallon

And how are you gonna bang the cleaner in the jax now without her finding out!

Seems a bad idea to me tbh

Janedoe10

Lando Griffin wrote: »

The OH is thinking of giving up her work and taking up a position at my place of work, sitting in the same office as me. Now, in the current economic climate it would make perfect fiscal sence for her and me to work in the same place the advantages being : only 1 car needed saving a whopping (including tax and insurance and petrol 3500 euros) per calander year.
But I dont knopw if it is the right decision for me ( not being selfish or anything ) just wont seem right.
We would be waking up together, eating brekfast getting in the car off to work, into office sitting around passing by her. No doubt she would be having lunch with me and getting home together before all the evening stuff. I couldn't bare it. I have worked in places where a husband and wife team worked together and they hung around together in a little twosome group. It was painful to watch. The pair of them were the managers so nobody felt safe telling either of them anything. Then he would be trying to be hard nosed and she would come in a blurt out about some condition he had or was watching some soppy program getting emotional. It was an awful experience really.
Then like everyone at work thinks she is very intellegant but once you get to know her youd be thinking oh ooh whats going on here, like one day when driving I said lets sing the Alphabat song to which she replied “oh, I dont know the words to that”. She also rewrote history by claiming that Marco Polo was in fact Chineese and argued this point.
I have worked up a relationship with everyone in my workplace, and have personal jokes with everyone, surly if herself came on board this would stop. There is also a dolly bird at work who I get on great with, we go for lunch together alone every Friday to have a chat, and we always have a giggle or joke to share, nothing serious, but there have been whispers. I couldn't think the hassel it would cause herself if she found out about this friendship.
So Ahers, what do you think.
Could you work as a husband and wife team in the same office every day for the rest of your natural lives, or would it be a relationship utopia, where you are with the person you love and cherish 24 hours a day?

I would have to say no . If there was a choice . Isn't it best to have varied lives so that u come home and talk about your day each has an objective opinion . U wonder too about switching off too would a working couple only be bringing work life home with them .
I see working couples at work if there is tension between them everyone else picks up on it .

Teyla Emmagan

I wouldn't do it in a million years to be honest OP. I can't imagine anything worse that someone pulling me up on my lies and inflated stories all day for a start. Never mind the sheer mundanity of having to look at each other 24/7. One of the benefits of going to work for most of us is to get away from our significant others.

I have worked in a few places that also had several couples working there, and it's never good. Not necessarily for the couple themselves, but just for all the people who are being made really uncomfortable because they can't b(tch about your other half in front of you.

If I were you I would do everything in your power to convince your OH to drop the idea. Before you have to drop each other because you can't stand the sight of each other any more.

Tell us more about the dolly bird though, she sounds interesting.

El Horseboxo

I couldn't be around anyone from the moment I wake up until I sleep day in day out. No matter how good she is at sucking my cock she'll eventually annoy the fook outta me.

_petulia_

I don't think I'd like to work where my OH works. I like my own space sometimes.

cloptrop

Tell her to pretend to be disabled and get a free bus pass, this will make the savings on the extra car redundant, then tell her to get her own job and travel there by bus.
Dont let her work with you .

themadchef

Each to their own OP but..............

as someone who did it and is now no longer married :pac:

i wouldint be the first one to be telling you to give it a crack.


Difficult at times not to bring home to work and work to home, drama wise if you catch my drfit. If you do you are fúcked.

It's nice to have a safe place space, and tbh, there is no fúcking a safe place space if your OH works with you.

The rose tined glasses come off eventually and there is not price on a good marriage, or indeed any type of marriage at all.

Too much of a good thing, is well, too much imo of course.

Nope. Wouldn't be for me.

Also, as much as it sounds like a great idea economically now, it won't be so great if they start handing out redundancies. All your eggs and all that.

Pippy1976

It can be done but I wouldn't do it... Sure, what would yee talk about at home?

No No No

The Big Red Button

Don't shit where you eat, etc! :pac:

It definitely wouldn't be for me. You've the problem of having no "escape" from work, and also the problem of having waaaay too much time together (but it's not even nice, alone, "quality" time.)

I'm sure that there are some couples that would be strong enough to survive it, but I certainly can't imagine that it would be good for any relationship!

nibtrix

My husband and I met at work (when we were 18/19) but only worked there for a short time. Many years later we worked in the same company for a few months while we were traveling around the world. I have to say I found it great craic for a while (being introduced to each other at a meeting by our respective department heads was a highlight) but I could never do it longterm. Apart from the risk of mass redundancies/the company closing down it would be very wearing to be with someone 24 hours a day - work, travel and home. I think people need a separation between home and work lives.

I have worked with couples before and found them incredibly boring, they only ever talked to each other or about each other.

x_Ellie_x

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

If I were you I would do everything in your power to convince your OH to drop the idea. Before you have to drop each other because you can't stand the sight of each other any more.

I'm completely agree. I actually tried this once a couple of years ago and it completely ruined the relationship I was in. When you both work together in the same place, you end up having no privacy. Everyone in the job ends up knowing your personal business. Especially if the two of you have a fight.

Rob (the bloke I was seeing) and I had been seeing each other for a year before we started working together and the relationship was going great but after we started working together it went downhill fast, it was fine working together for the first month or so, but then it became unbearable. We ended up completely despising each other by the 6th month.

If you both love each other, THEN DON'T WORK TOGETHER!!!