lesbian advice

LegacyUser

Hi all. I'm 21, have been out about a year and a half, and I've met a girl I really like and who is interested in me too. I've had sex with women a few times before, but I guess you could only call them "drunken recurring hook-ups". With this girl it's different. She genuinely likes me and it seems like it could turn into a relationship, which I've never had with anyone before.

My problem is that I'm just not feeling confident enough to sleep with her yet. She's absolutely beautiful and while I'm not bad myself, I'm just not feeling confident in my body shape at the moment. I'm not overweight, but this girl is athletic and I guess I fear that once we get between the sheets she won't be impressed with my lack of GAA toned muslces! We're going on a date tomorrow night (there have been a few over the last 3 weeks) and I just really want to take it to the next step, but at the same time I'm overwhelmed by nerves. I can't talk to anybody about it because my friends would probably tell me to cop on! If this was some random girl I went home with after a night at the George, I wouldn't have a problem. But I like this girl so much and I just fear she won't find me attractive after we get down to business.

Do any of you other girls feel as nervous about sleeping with potential girlfriends for the first time?

dreamer_ire

Just be honest with her in terms of your nerves, it can be very attractive for someone to be really honest with you. In terms of your body image thoughts, look at it this way, she knows what you look like and she's still seeing you. It's you she likes, body and all.

Enjoy whatever happens, firsts of everything are fabulous in a relationship

wonderfulname

I second being honest with her, I'd find that cute TBH.

Don't feel you have to do anything or that there's any time frame for relationships, there isn't, just go with the flow, enjoy each others company and see what happens.