meeting partners online?

molly09

Hi

I am just wondering did you meet your partner online?

If so, what website?

M

OakeyDokey

No, I didn't meet my partner online but I know a couple who have and they are together over our years and moving in with eachother now. Another couple I know have been together a few months and the person they met are controlling and rude!

You have to be careful when you do internet date but I wouldn't dismiss it altogether as I have seen positive outcomes from it.

Is there a point you're trying to make OP?

chirogirl

I've dabbled in the past with internet dating, but i never met a partner online, but know friends both male and female that did.

Princess Peach

I met my amazing man right here on Boards! Genuinely could not be happier, we have such a great relationship.

molly09

OakeyDokey wrote: »

Is there a point you're trying to make OP?

HI OakeyDokey

I am am trying online dating at the minute, Any guy I have met just seem to want sex. the amount of married guys on it .I just cant believe:eek:

I suppose I am wondering is it worth keeping trying

I am in my 30's and all my friends are married or nearly married so its even difficultt to have friends to go out with at the weekend.

I suppose really I am looking for a bit of hope that online is the way to go

M

JustPeachy

Hi, I met my husband on MaybeFriends, almost 5 years ago now, though as it turned out we already kind of knew each other before we met online. I think that you can almost tell the guys who aren't there for the right reasons - they want to meet you quickly before "getting to know you". I did meet some other very nice guys online, as well as some strange ones! If you add in the ones just looking for sex and ones already married, it's probably not that different to your average guy on a night out in a pub!

Snoopy1

Boards

beltzar

maybefriends.com 9 years ago.

He was the 4th person I met.....
It took guts tbh but obviously worth it in the end. getting married later in the year.
Go for it!:)

psycho-hope

I met my bf on plentyoffish.com, we're together 2 years next month.
Yep there is loads of nutters and people just after the one thing, but there are lots of genuine people as well, I found if they weren't happy to meet for a coffee early on a sat/sunday afternoon and came up with some dodgy excuse then they were either a. married or living with someone or b. they were only after sex.

Princess Peach

psycho-hope wrote: »

I met my bf on plentyoffish.com, we're together 2 years next month.
Yep there is loads of nutters and people just after the one thing, but there are lots of genuine people as well, I found if they weren't happy to meet for a coffee early on a sat/sunday afternoon and came up with some dodgy excuse then they were either a. married or living with someone or b. they were only after sex.

Sure the same can be said of meeting guys in the pub you know! Nutters everywhere you try to meet partners. Just gotta sift through them to get to the good ones

molly09

thanks guys for all the replies, I guess I will stick with it, was just loosing hope!!!

Chinafoot

Got talking on boards this time 7 years ago. Went to one of the beers of a private forum we were both in a couple of months later and went from there.

We'll be together 7 years in June, living together for 5.

I guess it's different from online-dating in that our intention wasn't to meet someone.

LovelyLottie

I've a male friend who met his now-wife on Anotherfriend.

I've done loads of online dating but no long-term success to date! Boo hoo!

Quowra

I met my partner 4 years ago on makefriends online. We are engaged now, so it does work for some.

I find if you go on the free websites you meet mainly people looking for sex. I think it is worth paying (even a small fee). I found paying sites much better. Although every site has it's pervs and weirdo's.

I think you can tell within the first 5 of so minutes what it is that the guy is looking for. Although be careful because some guys tell you what you want to hear.

Good luck

I have met girlfriends on the internet before, be it on a dating site or right here on boards. These things just sorta happen. If you're interested, there's a pretty excellent thread on dating sites over on the Gentlemen's Club here, where people post how they get on.

mcmacness

Ya I met my ex online, we went out for nearly two years. The website was Zoosk, his profile appealed to me because he was smarter and more genuine than some of the others and better looking, because there are some creepy looking guys!

smartkid

Am thinking about signing up for online dating, What are the recommended sites?

sarahbro

I met my OH on OkCupid.com
We're together nearly 2.5 years, living together nearly 2 and i'm the happiest I've ever been
It was worth it, we spent 2 weeks talking every day before we met up and I just knew this was it

JustPeachy

smartkid wrote: »

Am thinking about signing up for online dating, What are the recommended sites?

Well, I obviously rate MaybeFriends (see previous comment!). And I always tried to email/IM a guy for a couple of weeks before meeting him. That did seem to work, cos although I did meet some strange ones, I didn't meet any marrieds/unavailables (well as far as I could tell anyways!)

donegalgal12

I met my boyfriend off 7.5 years on maybefriends.com. He was the second person I met from the site. As with meeting guys in pubs/nightclubs you will come across the weirdo's but use your common sense and you will be able to weed the bad ones out (ask loads of questions). My advice would be to have fun on it and if you are meeting up with somebody from the site tell a friend where and when just encase you need to be rescued.

Links234

yep, met my girlfriend right here on boards

PammyD

I met my bf on plenty of fish, we're together over a year now and going strong, couldnt be happier...

I was a single mam who didnt get out much so online dating was my only option. I will say though those sites were a major eye opener.. Just be careful, ALWAYS go with ur gut instinct, chat the guy for a while before planning to meet and if they are unhappy with that its their loss. Also if ur meeting someone stay on or near to ur own territory that way if u have to make ur excuses to leave ur not too far from home.. Very best of luck with it..

ihsb

+1 for pof.com met my OH on that and we are very happy

skeptik

I met my BF on a site called lonely.com, funny coz I was on loads of other sites and only signed up to this one because Pigsback.com were offering piggypoints at the time to sign up! We are together nearly 4 years and are expecting our first child. We chatted and texted for 3 months before we met. I also have a friend who met her BF on the same site (I told her about it ) and they are together 3 years too

Poppyseed32

Meet my husband ten years ago on maybefriends.com

MrsGoose

Met my hubbie on MAYBEFRIENDS too 8 years ago this month. We're married 5 years in April

Babybuff

looks suspiciously at all the newbie regs promoting maybe friends

marcus2000

Babybuff wrote: »

looks suspiciously at all the newbie regs promoting maybe friends

looks suspiciously at Babybuff who is eyeing up the married newbies...

whats that new dating site that promotes affairs

Babybuff

I could go for an affair right now, any married women want to contact me via pm?
*whips & chains optional extras

(that was a joke, please don't pm me )

magico

I actually just joined boards to get advice about the 0nline dating thing. I've been on plenty of fish all week, been chatting to a few guys but nobody stood out. Until this one guy mailed me, he seemed a bit of craic and honest. BUT he does seem to keep making references to sex. He wants to meet for a walk in a park on saturday.....am i stupid if I say yes?

The online dating thing is very judgmental I feel. You're judging on their photo, cos ya can't help it, and the minute they ask for yours you think they're dodgy! I dunno what to do, would love to meet someone but can't seem to trust anyone on the web.

John Mason

met my soon to be husband on boards:)

stupidusername

I pm'd a boardsie that I fancied (purely from his posts,has no pictures up), we ended up meeting up, and now we're a couple

Pippy1976

Wow, well done you. What a courageous thing to do... so glad it worked out for you. Super cool, missy

marcus2000

magico wrote: »

...You're judging on their photo, cos ya can't help it, and the minute they ask for yours you think they're dodgy! I dunno what to do, would love to meet someone but can't seem to trust anyone on the web.

whats the rush to meet.........chat online...move on to texting...perhaps then a phone call and then meet up?? You'll be in a better place to "judge" someone once you've gotten to know them!!

On an aside,..maybe meet them in a cafe rather than a park :cool:

The Big Red Button

I also met my man through Boards! (And he's awesome! )

In a way, this place is better than the dating sites for meeting people, because you kinda get a better idea of peoples' real personalities through what they post. Not that I was ever intentionally looking for a boyfriend here ... it just sorta happened that way.

MrsGoose

Babybuff wrote: »

looks suspiciously at all the newbie regs promoting maybe friends

:D to reassure you I'm not a plant just don't have time for online forums due to husband (did I mention I met him online Maybefriends.com actually) 2 kids, 2 dogs, and work......:D

Midnight Sundance

I'm after reading through this thread and I'm just curious to know how people actually met through Boards?? (congrats to all of Ye , ) I guess I'm just curious!!

stupidusername

Midnight Sundance wrote: »

I'm after reading through this thread and I'm just curious to know how people actually met through Boards?? (congrats to all of Ye , ) I guess I'm just curious!!

I've explained mine really,or do you want more details?

Pippy1976

Went on a date at the weekend with a guy I'd met online. We had chatted for ages before finally arranging to meet up.

It went really well. Neither of us were that nervous cos we felt like we knew eachother. He's lovely too... Woohoo!

Defo recommend chatting online for a while first... You really do get to know the person.

tiny_penguin

Met my OH on plentyoffish a year ago. We chatted for about a month before meeting in person. He's great :-) Met a few people I didnt click with in person before but not weirdos as such.

Kiera

stupidusername wrote: »

I've explained mine really,or do you want more details?

Ah go on so.....

stupidusername

Kiera wrote: »

Ah go on so.....

oh, just seeing this now. what do ya want to know? he mentioned something about closing his account, and I said feck it, I pm'd him telling him i'd a bit of a crush on him (based on his posts) and so please don't close it! just kept chatting since then. I asked him out, though he didn't realise it was as a date, we met for pool and drinks, and walked me home, and kissed me the rest is history.... :pac:

Kiera

stupidusername wrote: »

oh, just seeing this now. what do ya want to know? he mentioned something about closing his account, and I said feck it, I pm'd him telling him i'd a bit of a crush on him (based on his posts) and so please don't close it! just kept chatting since then. I asked him out, though he didn't realise it was as a date, we met for pool and drinks, and walked me home, and kissed me the rest is history.... :pac:

Did he keep his account in the end? Fair play to you for asking him out

stupidusername

Kiera wrote: »

Did he keep his account in the end? Fair play to you for asking him out

yep he's still here. turns out he was only joking about that.

Snoopy1

I met my boyfriend via the online dating thread in the gentlemens club forum

Princess Peach

Me and my boyfriend used to be in a private forum together and chatted a lot on threads and in PM and then texted and then had a date

It is different than meeting on a dating site cause neither of us were looking for a relationship at the time, but it just kinda happened then.

keli

I met my partner online but not on an internet dating site.
We were both into the car and motor scene and joined the same website. We met through social gatherings of site members and meetings. After alot of instant messaging and meeting up with friends we got together. Three years later we're still together.
I'd definitely recommend meeting your partner online, to some people it might sound seedy but to me it's better than meeting someone in a pub after a few drinks when you have your beer goggles on.

Roadtrippin

molly09 wrote: »

HI OakeyDokey

I am am trying online dating at the minute, Any guy I have met just seem to want sex. the amount of married guys on it .I just cant believe:eek:

I suppose I am wondering is it worth keeping trying

I am in my 30's and all my friends are married or nearly married so its even difficultt to have friends to go out with at the weekend.

I suppose really I am looking for a bit of hope that online is the way to go

M

I reckon it isn't as easy as people sometimes make it out to be - to meet that special someone online.

I wouldn't trust a lot of guys online - just think of all the other things they do online. Mostly what they entertain themselves with online start with P and ends with ORN.
Like you said yourself, the amount of married guys on it looking for someone to cheat with... (or even just dirty-talking to random strangers while the wife and kids are downstairs watching TV, for example) ...or even just your friendly neighbourhood perv who you wouldn't say two words to if he passed you on the street.

I wouldn't give up hope and keep trying but unless you make it very clear from the start (before even meeting the guy in person) that you're looking for something real, a relationship, or at least an honest fling, I'd say you will keep meeting a lot of guys just looking for that one thing...

Princess Peach

Roadtrippin wrote: »

I wouldn't trust a lot of guys online - just think of all the other things they do online. Mostly what they entertain themselves with online start with P and ends with ORN.
Like you said yourself, the amount of married guys on it looking for someone to cheat with... (or even just dirty-talking to random strangers while the wife and kids are downstairs watching TV, for example) ...or even just your friendly neighbourhood perv who you wouldn't say two words to if he passed you on the street.

Oh wow. I'm not one to drag threads of topic but what a sweeping generalisation to make on an online forum! Better be wary of all the guys on Boards too, they are probably chatting on threads with porn tabs open in the background :eek: It's a good thing us girls don't use the internet for that ever.

Are you saying you don't trust any man who uses the internet so because mostly they are watching porn?? Because whether a guy is doing online dating or not, chances are he has the internet, so doesn't really matter where you meet him.

And about the married guys, how do you know if you meet a guy on a night out or wherever that he isn't married?

You say there are too many guys on online dating sites looking for only one thing, but what makes them different from the guys you meet in real life?

howsyourtusk

Yeh, as a male who both meets people online and watches porn I find that utterly offensive. You also seem to be extremely dismissive of guys who are looking for sex on the net, surely you should only be dismissive of those who pretend they're looking for more but aren't? So many generalisations it hurts my head!

Roadtrippin

Princess Peach wrote: »

Oh wow. I'm not one to drag threads of topic but what a sweeping generalisation to make on an online forum! Better be wary of all the guys on Boards too, they are probably chatting on threads with porn tabs open in the background :eek: It's a good thing us girls don't use the internet for that ever.

Are you saying you don't trust any man who uses the internet so because mostly they are watching porn?? Because whether a guy is doing online dating or not, chances are he has the internet, so doesn't really matter where you meet him.

And about the married guys, how do you know if you meet a guy on a night out or wherever that he isn't married?

You say there are too many guys on online dating sites looking for only one thing, but what makes them different from the guys you meet in real life?

Some fair points there, alright.

Thought that a bit of mild stereotyping would be allowed in the ladies' lounge but clearly I was wrong.

Of course guys you meet on a night out can be married as well and not always would you find out about it, but what I'm trying to say is that guys (or anyone for that matter) can hide behind the veil of anonymity online which they can't as much in real life.

I am not saying that all guys that are posting, chatting or dating online are scum, I'm saying you have to be more careful and I think a lot will agree on that one with me.

I met a guy online on a chat once and met up with him and things went fine except that he turned out to have a girlfriend!!!
So it's safe to say I'm biased on the issue. I also have a friend that had a terrible experience with online dating. They started going out and he turned out to be a deceitful manipulative liar that was two-timing her.
She had moved in with him by then (after a rocky start that said since he was very hot-cold with her and ignored her every now and then, turned off his phone and lied about it). After they had moved in together she found out by accident about the other girl. It turned out he had told the other girl he couldnt bring her home or introduce her to his mother because she was sick with cancer...
Case in point, I may add. You have to be careful with any guy you meet but online dating attracts more deceit and pretense I reckon...
While I get that a lot of people can be lucky online, a lot can be very unlucky. Worst case scenarios are well know and can put off any convinced online dating enthusiast, to be honest.