Moving on after breakup

SineadMarie

Gonna keep this short as I’ve been on this before re my broken heart ha! My boyfriend broke up with me it’ll be 5 / 6 weeks now and I was doing really well the past while. I went out with my friend on Saturday night and not to sound big headed but got a lot of attention and a few kisses. This week I feel like crap again, missing him all over again I suppose. I’m wondering has the whole meeting someone new set me back to square one or is it the final stage of break up and its meant to feel like this???

Ickle Magoo

5/6 weeks isn't really that much time to get over a relationship break up. If you were really into him and the relationship then it's going to take longer than that to get back to how you were before you met him - and of course kissing and any behaviour that reminds you of him is going to carry greater meaning and remind you that you miss him.

I find the healing process very cyclical, getting less and less painful each time, you may be similar - so just look after yourself and give yourself all the time you need.

All the very best.

SineadMarie

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

5/6 weeks isn't really that much time to get over a relationship break up. If you were really into him and the relationship then it's going to take longer than that to get back to how you were before you met him - and of course kissing and any behaviour that reminds you of him is going to carry greater meaning and remind you that you miss him.

I find the healing process very cyclical, getting less and less painful each time, you may be similar - so just look after yourself and give yourself all the time you need.

All the very best.

Thanks so much for ur kind reply. Yea its like the pain has returned. I kinda forced myself to be with someone just to get it over with,prob not the best idea. After the cowardly way my ex finished with me you think it'd be easier to just move on. Suppose will take another while.

R.D. aka MR.D

When I broke up with my ex nearly 2 years ago I was always lurking on this forum looking at all the threads on getting over some one. The advice was all- it takes time.

I was very unsatisfied with that and thought I would be different because time didn't seem to make a difference but this far along all i can say is:

time is the only things that heals.

It really does!!!!

Also make sure you cut contact!

SineadMarie

Yea it does just need more time i guess. Glad your doing better I've cut all contact expect fb, well he deactivated his account when we broke up so i didnt have to delete him, since then he reactivated it i havent spoken to him on it at all but i'm trying to find the courage to delete him now. Silly i know should be able to just do it!

Miss Fluff

Delete him off Facebook as a matter of priority. I know there is probably a temptation there to have a sneaky peek to see what he is up to but it will only lead to you obsessing over him and will ultimately upset you greatly if you're to see him tagged with his arms wrapped around some other woman. Delete him straight away.

As for feeling better. It's only a few weeks in m'dear and as the others have said, it really is a matter of time and going through the whole process until one day you'll wake up and you won't miss him and realise that it wasn't meant to be after all.

My heart goes out to you, it's an awful old place to be but you'll get through it. Then when you do meet someone really special you'll be glad this guy let you free to meet someone who you're really meant to be with. You're doing well, just be patient with yourself.

IrishEyes19

You just need to let time work its magic. Been in the same situation, you break up, you go out with your friends, and in the moment you feel great (I put this down to alcohol, which is best avoided after breakups) and you might meet someone, but afterwards, it doesnt matter how nice they are, you are reminded of your ex. Its normal.

It takes a lot longer than 5 weeks, OP. We've all been there and its just a daily thing. The no contact thing works a treat, not having any way to contact, forces you to accept its over but avoids any embarassing slip ups should you text. you will think of them, but it fades over time too. I know its easier to give advice than take it. But try and be positive and just work forward rather than backwards. Occupy yourself with anything, except what reminds you of him. Why should you feel down, when he most likely doesnt. Be good to yourself.

skooterblue2

What will help you is cleaning. Move and clean everything anything that is non essential or has small monetary value that reminds you of him ... out. Give it to the charity shop or dump it.

If I am wrong you won't be thinking of him while you are cleaning for a while.