Lesbian or Not

Yike

Sorry people must get so bored of this question, but I dunno if I'm gay.

For the past five years i have been questioning my sexuality. So odd because i'm 22. I have never even kissed a girl but have been attracted to girls.I find it hard to experiment with girls because I do not want to label myself. i don't want to get involved in the lgbt in college.

Could i be gay or just really curious???

baztard

Yes you could be gay. Go and experiment and have fun... Labels don't define you, you define yourself.

Yike

True I might wait till the summer to put myself out there.lol:)
I wonder if there's a place to meet closeted gay people

Nyan Cat

An awful lot of gay and bi folks hate labels. I dont really like them either. I'd say there must be straight folks that hate them too.

Sure you could be gay or bi or curious and it doesn't matter what age you are as it's not unusual to realise you might be gay at any age really. Even in your 40s for example.

No one but you can tell you if you are gay - and you don't have to have had relations with the same sex to know if you're gay (though some do need to do that)

You can experiment but it's up to you. You might find in time that you don't need to. You can go on event run by running amach for example. They organise all sorts of activities. And not everyone is out and some are curious and questioning.

Yike

Thanks I might have a look into the amach.
I just find alot of LGBT groups such as UCD are very stereotypical gay, this is only looking from an outside perspective, i am completely ignorant when it comes to lgbt groups.

Nyan Cat

Yike wrote: »

Thanks I might have a look into the amach.
I just find alot of LGBT groups such as UCD are very stereotypical gay, this is only looking from an outside perspective, i am completely ignorant when it comes to lgbt groups.

Some of them can be intimidating but groups like running amach are less like an AA meeting for LGBTs

Yike

haha Less AA i think i will give it ago then

lctake2

Well I'm bi and go to UCD lgbt events all the time. Yes the stereotypically gay people are the most noticeable but there are all kinds there, even some straight. I don't find that sexuality is made a huge issue of (if that makes any sense at all!). I think going to lgbt society meet-ups can be a good way to hear other peoples experiences and feelings and see if you can relate to them. Straight people do go to these things so it's not like you'd be 'coming out' by going.
Don't worry about labels, I think that as a girl you can experiment with girls and pass it off as just experimentation, not as easy for men to do the same thing.

Yike

Thanks that sounds reassuring, i might go to a te morning on of these days.:rolleyes:

Doug89

Hey Yike,

I'm going to send you a PM!

Dwn Wth Vwls

If you find yourself constantly questioning your sexuality, and going back and forth between labels, and generally feeling unsure and confused... well, you might just be bisexual. If you have attraction to one sex and not to the other, it tends to be more clear cut. If you like both, it can be a lot more confusing.

Yike

i will keep that in mind i always forget about the bi people, i guess not everything is black and white.lol

mimi22

I feel the same as you. Always thought I was straight... Verrry straight. But now I'm noticing that the thought of being with another woman is more exciting to me than being with a man. Not sure if this is boredom though or whether I just prefer women. I don't fancy any women I see on a day by day basis. Still find men attractive, but when I think sexually, the thought if being with a woman is very exciting...

Fancy That

mimi22 wrote: »

I feel the same as you. Always thought I was straight... Verrry straight. But now I'm noticing that the thought of being with another woman is more exciting to me than being with a man. Not sure if this is boredom though or whether I just prefer women. I don't fancy any women I see on a day by day basis. Still find men attractive, but when I think sexually, the thought if being with a woman is very exciting...

I was like this before ended up snogging a friend. That sorted out where i stood. Exciting indeed!!!

ElloEllo

Hi there everyone, I'm the new Auditor of UCD LGBT! I can assure you that we are not a society of stereotypes but if some of our members are stereotypically gay I wouldn't hold that against them. The society also has a number of straight members the correct term being 'Allies'. These members are made feel as welcomed as anyone else and are big part of how we operate. As for Bi people I agree not much has being done in the past for this part of the society however I have pledged to raise a bit more awareness on the issue. If you are questioning your sexuality drop me a line at ucdlgbt@gmail.com and if you just want to talk or even meet up during the year I would only be glad to help you out. Its a difficult subject but we are here to offer a space on campus for people who are LGBT or questioning their sexuality or indeed just like the events and people who attend those events. As I said if you're interested have a look at the website, on facebook, twitter and you'll see that we mix between the stereotype and non stereotype events. Its not all fairies and butch lesbians!!!

Ambersky

But a big Yay! for faeries and butch lesbians, at the forefront of visibility and often the brunt of jokes, but still standing up and being who they are.
That's what the rainbow flag is about Diversity not distancing ourselves from one another. Come along whatever way you are its just fine.

Emermanza

Your gay I'd say

Yike

thanks Emermanza:)

apache

lol

Rantandrave

I never really thought I was gay till I left secondary school, I used to have crushes on girls nothing more, I never kissed a girl or anything but was always curious to see if the sex was better than hetero sex, I start chatting to an out lesbian as mates and within a few weeks I developed feelings for her, she's the first girl I kissed when I was 21 and were 3yrs together now..

You will never know till u try babe!!

Yike

lets just say best summer ever if you know what i mean, 100% gay;)

Doug89

Ha! Kudos Yike