Do it or not

PTH2009

Ok so me and my girlfriend had a huge falling out. She said shes giving me a second chance but under a few terms and conditions.

1. I cant repeat what i done wrong that made her break up with me (Trying to commit sucide, freaking out etc)
2. I cant kiss her or get to close to her
3. Im too give her space.
She said she has her own problems and she cant deal with mine aswell.

What i am doing
I have given up alcohol, i am going to a conseller to work on my anger, paranoa and depression issues.

I want to stay in this relationship and want to work my hardest to prove myself..

Any advice on what i should do ???.

Miss Fluff

Have you actually sought MEDICAL advice as has been advised countless times? You need to see a medical doctor as a matter of urgency.

The Lovely Muffin

Hi OP.

Your girlfriend has asked you to give her some space, that's what you should do, in my opinion.

If you try and crowd her (i;e. don't give her space) you could end up pushing her further away.

Your girlfriend needs time away from you, to think about everything and also to look at/deal with her own problems.

Fair play to you for giving up alcohol and going to see a counsellor - keep that up. As well as doing it for your girlfriend/relationship, you should do it for yourself also.

Good luck OP.

PTH2009

thats part of me thinks my girlfriend wont text me back. i went in for a kiss today and she got pissed off. hopefully she gives me some time to adapt.

ITS GOING TO BE HARD

Forever Hopeful

PTH2009 wrote: »

Ok so me and my girlfriend had a huge falling out. She said shes giving me a second chance but under a few terms and conditions.

1. I cant repeat what i done wrong that made her break up with me (Trying to commit sucide, freaking out etc)
2. I cant kiss her or get to close to her
3. Im too give her space.
She said she has her own problems and she cant deal with mine aswell.

What i am doing
I have given up alcohol, i am going to a conseller to work on my anger, paranoa and depression issues.

I want to stay in this relationship and want to work my hardest to prove myself..

Any advice on what i should do ???.

What you do is:

1. I cant repeat what i done wrong that made her break up with me (Trying to commit sucide, freaking out etc)
2. I cant kiss her or get to close to her
3. Im too give her space.

And you are not HEARING any of this. I am surprised she is even willing to give you a second chance given your past behaviour. Are you really seeking counselling? You really need to get a grip on yourself, work on yourself as you are not emotionally healthy enough to be in a relationship.You are sabotaging yourself and its a shame you don't see it. Unless you deal with your insecurity and neediness, develop self awareness and become less self centered... no relationship will ever work out, let alone this one.

lace

Hi OP!

First off - fair play for giving up alcohol and trying to work through your problems. It's a really positive step and one a lot of people can't make. I would also suggest developing a good relationship with your GP, going for regular check-ups and chats and looking after yourself in general. Seeing a counsellor and talking things through is definitely the way to go. By the sounds of things, you're doing everything in your power to make things work.

Suicide attempts and extreme episodes can be very distressing for a partner. Your girlfriend is probably a little overwhelmed and needs some space to get her head together. It's probably very difficult for her to know what to do and how best to help you.

Her unwillingness to kiss you and be close to you is probably just from the initial shock of your problems and break-up and she is most likely trying to adjust. I do think refusing to show you affection is a little extreme, but she's probably just looking out for herself and trying to figure out how she feels and deal with her own problems before she can offer you support and help with yours.

I would suggest giving her the space she has asked for. I know this is tough and you just want to prove that you're working hard but, at the moment, she just wants to sort herself out. Try not to crowd her but just gently let her know that you still want the relationship to work and still care about her.

Hopefully she'll get herself together and be ready to get things back on track.

I am a friend

I don't think either of you are emotionally healthy enough to be in any relationship. You need to get help.

Taltos

OP

sorry to be so harsh but please do not post here on this topic again. Our advice to you on your last thread still stands - no-one here is qualified to help you with your issues, at this stage we strongly recommend that you go to your GP and seek professional help.

I am sorry if this appears as overly harsh or uncaring, in fact the opposite is true. I am quite frustrated at not being able to help you and seeing the same excellent advice issued thread over thread and ignored.

Please, please, please go and seek some professional help.

Closing this thread.
Taltos