Will avoiding him make it less awkward or more awkward?

LegacyUser

Hey, I'd like a male opinion on this if possible!

so I was goin out with this guy for a few months, nothing too serious. Kinda just trailed off and ended mutually. Anyways we have one mutual friend, but I also had made friends with a few of his friends during the time we were seeing each other. The first time we saw each other after we ended things it was grand, no awkwardness. The last couple of times it has been getting steadily more awkward. I'm not good in awkward situations and find it hard not to make it worse!

Anyway I said to my mutual friend that I will just avoid seeing him or his friends for a while and it will get normal again. I now haven't seen him in about 3 months probably. She said she thinks we need to see more of each other to get used to the 'friends' notion.

Which makes more sense? There are reasons I won't go into as to why I hang out with these people from time to time... needless to say I don't want to stop because of a nothing relationship. Theres no reason for it to be awkward. I don't know what to do, avoid him or not?

Any advice would be appreciated

Mighty_Mouse

If there is any romantic feelings from either party then the situation won't work. ie. you drift into their social circle through you're mutual friend occasionally.

If both parties are no longer interested in each other, then ye should build a friendship. You will need a private word with the guy in hand to confirm where you stand. And personally I would take it slowly.

PickledLime

Personally i'd find it a lot easier to talk to him. It'll be a whole lot easier once that first encounter is over, then you can just keep moving forward with things.

Overheal

More awkward to not talk. Only just now this weekend managed to break the ice with a girl I went on a couple dates with at work. Between then and now though we were pretty much avoiding everything up to and including eye contact until I finally got fed up and asked her if we were done with that yet, and now we seem to be back to norm, which is definitely much, much less awkward.

LegacyUser

thanks for the replies

Thats what I initially thought ya see, talk to each other and it would be less awkward. but we did that and it then steadily got more awkward and now I don't know how to escape it.

Asking him if he still has feelings for me sounds like a horrible thing to have to do. I don't know... maybe I just need to grin and bear it. Ignore him? Be overly friendly to him? Agh.

Overheal

bamboozled2222 wrote: »

Asking him if he still has feelings for me sounds like a horrible thing to have to do.

So.. don't?