advice on threat

jam08

Could do with some advice, don't really know what to do here.
I got threatened by the partner of a family member yesterday. The threat wasn't direct, it was said on front of an 11yr old relative who relayed the info to me. The threat was to ruin and destroy me.
Just wondering if that would be enough to go to the guards with, and for them to do something about it, because to go to them but to have nothing done would probably cause more problems. I'm just really worried because I don't know what this person is capable of as and that they might try to ruin any future career, because in the profession I'm going in to any sort of false accusations stick. Also is there any sort of person in college I could go to, to kind of warn them about anything this person might do?

Danniboo

OP,

Think more info is needed to give any good/solid advise.

Did this crop up out of the blue?
Do you have grievances with this person?
What's their history with the law etc?
Have you done anything to cause this?

Starokan

personally I would bring it up with the family member in question and the person who said it. You need to find out the truth here, an 11 year old is not the most reliable source, they may have mis-interpreted the comment.

If it is denied/explained and you believe it then happy days, however if there is any doubt whatsoever in your mind after the conversation then go to the guards and ask them to make a report, i would imagine they will speak to the person in question if you wish or if you would rather they didnt im sure they would just take the report and lodge it.


At least that way in the event of an accusation at some stage by this person then you will have recourse to point to their intentions in the past.

jam08

Danniboo wrote: »

OP,

Think more info is needed to give any good/solid advise.

Did this crop up out of the blue?
Do you have grievances with this person?
What's their history with the law etc?
Have you done anything to cause this?

Not exactly out of the blue. Nothing I've done personally, more that I stood up and defended my close family, which in the past has done such things as trying to get my family sacked from jobs, turned from friends, generally making life uncomfortable. The problem is, their partner (related to me) just seems to be in denial about everything they've done and sided with them against every other person in the family.

In regards to the reliability, he was in the car while the threat was made, and rang me in tears, worried about me last night. Chances are the accused is gonna deny it and try to discredit him, even the kids own parent will try and deny it.

Ps, sorry about 'this person' and lack of details, there's only much I can publicly say.

Lanaier

If you have a job where false accusations stick I'd consider recording future interactions with this person and bring up the subject of the threat.

I don't know if that's legal or not but surely the penalty would not be worse than being falsely accused of the kind of accusations that stick.

PK72

Look at this rationally - if you do or have done nothing wrong then there are no allegations to stick. If you are going into a sensitive job a Garda clearance will be required - only convictions show up on this, as far as I know - not baseless allegations.

You paint this person as someone who has great power - I don't believe anyone has this sort of power. They did not make any threat to you directly or in any manner which you can prove - i.e. repeated threats via email or text for example, which may be viewed as harassment. If he makes false allegations which you can prove this is a civil matter of slander or libel.

It's hard to get a sense of the situation at this distance, but I'd stay as far away from this person as possible - he sounds unpredictable and will just cause you stress.

Danniboo

jam08 wrote: »

Not exactly out of the blue. Nothing I've done personally, more that I stood up and defended my close family, which in the past has done such things as trying to get my family sacked from jobs, turned from friends, generally making life uncomfortable. The problem is, their partner (related to me) just seems to be in denial about everything they've done and sided with them against every other person in the family.

In regards to the reliability, he was in the car while the threat was made, and rang me in tears, worried about me last night. Chances are the accused is gonna deny it and try to discredit him, even the kids own parent will try and deny it.

Ps, sorry about 'this person' and lack of details, there's only much I can publicly say.

I don't really understand????? You stood up for someone who tried to make others lose their jobs and making life uncomfortable for people. Their partner is in denial they have done anything wrong. This partner then turns nasty on the person who has defended this person. Makes no sense

Daisy M

I am more concerned about the 11 year old child who is stuck in the middle of this and clearly upset by what was said. If you do take further action what will the repercussions for this child be? You said its parents would not support what was told to you. You are an adult and are able to defend yourself the child cant.

Ok I see you are in st pats talk to your college councellor or a tutor.