Met a girl last night - dilemma

Partizan

I was out last night with a friend and rather unexpectedly met a nice girl. She is from Finland and works as an au pair here. We got on great, chatted for a couple of hours and at the end of the night she gave me her number. I told her that I would call her. Problem is, I'm heading off on a ski vacation this Friday and wont be back until the 4th March. I don't think I told her that last night. I would like to meet her next week. Normally i'm ok with this but given the time frame here, I'm unsure what to do. I dont want to ring or text her today or tomorrow as I do not want to come across as needy. Any suggestion as to what I do?

Paddy Bateman

Partizan wrote: »

I was out last night with a friend and rather unexpectedly met a nice girl. She is from Finland and works as an au pair here. We got on great, chatted for a couple of hours and at the end of the night she gave me her number. I told her that I would call her. Problem is, I'm heading off on a ski vacation this Friday and wont be back until the 4th March. I don't think I told her that last night. I would like to meet her next week. Normally i'm ok with this but given the time frame here, I'm unsure what to do. I dont want to ring or text her today or tomorrow as I do not want to come across as needy. Any suggestion as to what I do?

Is cancelling the holiday out of the question?

Missy Moo Moo

Paddy Bateman wrote: »

Is cancelling the holiday out of the question?

OP, under no circumstances should you cancel a holiday for someone you have only met once!

Don't worry about appearing too needy, text her today and take it from there. Then, as the conversation progresses, ask her out. Mention you're heading on holidays soon. Simple!

LovelyLottie

Cancelling the holiday?! :eek:

If you like the girl, call her today. Why would a nice guy ringing a girl he met come across as needy? It shows confidence, which women like.

Call her. Ask her out on a date for this week. When you meet up tell her casually that you're going on holidays for a few weeks. If you both like each other you can meet up again when you get back. It's not like you're going away travelling for six months or a year, you're only going away for a few weeks!

Good luck

Katgurl

Paddy bateman is taking the pi$$ I assume.

Just call the girl, meet her this week and tell her about your holiday.

I really can't see what the problem is.

Chinafoot

Partizan wrote: »

I dont want to ring or text her today or tomorrow as I do not want to come across as needy. Any suggestion as to what I do?

Oh OP, come on now. Don't start playing ridiculous games with this. This is how people end up missing out on what could be great relationships. There are no rules that you need to abide by here. You like the girl and you told her you'd call. Actually doing what you told her you'd do isn't going to make you seem needy ffs. It will show her that you are actually interested in seeing her again.

Ring her today (or text her if you don't feel 100% comfortable with phoning) and tell her you really enjoyed talking last night and you'd love to meet up again. Ask if she's available next weekend and take it from there.

Paddy Bateman

Katgurl wrote: »

Paddy bateman is taking the pi$$ I assume.

Just call the girl, meet her this week and tell her about your holiday.

I really can't see what the problem is.

I didn't advise this. Merely questioned if it was under consideration. Love at first sight and all that

Katgurl

Paddy Bateman wrote: »

Katgurl wrote: »

Paddy bateman is taking the pi$$ I assume.

Just call the girl, meet her this week and tell her about your holiday.

I really can't see what the problem is.

I didn't advise this. Merely questioned if it was under consideration. Love at first sight and all that

I see - so you were being sincere?

The OP is worried that texting too soon might seem needy and you wondered was he considering cancelling his holiday.

Not making much sense there.

Partizan

Chinafoot wrote: »

Oh OP, come on now. Don't start playing ridiculous games with this. This is how people end up missing out on what could be great relationships. There are no rules that you need to abide by here. You like the girl and you told her you'd call. Actually doing what you told her you'd do isn't going to make you seem needy ffs. It will show her that you are actually interested in seeing her again.

Ring her today (or text her if you don't feel 100% comfortable with phoning) and tell her you really enjoyed talking last night and you'd love to meet up again. Ask if she's available next weekend and take it from there.

If you read my original post, I will not be around next weekend or the weekend after that.

Paddy Bateman

Katgurl wrote: »

Paddy Bateman wrote: »

Katgurl wrote: »

Paddy bateman is taking the pi$$ I assume.

Just call the girl, meet her this week and tell her about your holiday.

I really can't see what the problem is.

I didn't advise this. Merely questioned if it was under consideration. Love at first sight and all that

I see - so you were being sincere?

The OP is worried that texting too soon might seem needy and you wondered was he considering cancelling his holiday.

Not making much sense there.

I wondered if he was considering this

Partizan

Paddy Bateman wrote: »

I didn't advise this. Merely questioned if it was under consideration. Love at first sight and all that

There's no way I am cancelling my holiday. I already have paid for everything and if I cancel, I lose most of my money.

LovelyLottie

Ask her out sometime this week - a coffee, whatever. It really is as simple as that. If you're not that into her - which to be honest you're starting to sound like you're not - forget it.

Katgurl

Paddy Bateman wrote: »

Katgurl wrote: »

Paddy Bateman wrote: »

Katgurl wrote: »

Paddy bateman is taking the pi$$ I assume.

Just call the girl, meet her this week and tell her about your holiday.

I really can't see what the problem is.

I didn't advise this. Merely questioned if it was under consideration. Love at first sight and all that

I see - so you were being sincere?

The OP is worried that texting too soon might seem needy and you wondered was he considering cancelling his holiday.

Not making much sense there.

I wondered if he was considering this

why would you wonder if he was considering that? What was it in his original post that could possibly have suggested that?

Paddy Bateman

Katgurl wrote: »

Paddy Bateman wrote: »

Katgurl wrote: »

Paddy Bateman wrote: »

Katgurl wrote: »

Paddy bateman is taking the pi$$ I assume.

Just call the girl, meet her this week and tell her about your holiday.

I really can't see what the problem is.

I didn't advise this. Merely questioned if it was under consideration. Love at first sight and all that

I see - so you were being sincere?

The OP is worried that texting too soon might seem needy and you wondered was he considering cancelling his holiday.

Not making much sense there.

I wondered if he was considering this

why would you wonder if he was considering that? What was it in his original post that could possibly have suggested that?

"Problem is, I'm heading off on a ski vacation this Friday and wont be back until the 4th March"

He defines the holiday as the problem. Do you think it is out if the question to wonder if he might delete the problem?

Partizan

LovelyLottie wrote: »

Ask her out sometime this week - a coffee, whatever. It really is as simple as that. If you're not that into her - which to be honest you're starting to sound like you're not - forget it.

I am very much into her and i'll call her later

Taltos

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LovelyLottie

Partizan wrote: »

I am very much into her and i'll call her later

Good man! She'll be delighted Tra la la la la

Chinafoot

Partizan wrote: »

If you read my original post, I will not be around next weekend or the weekend after that.

I missed the word Friday, do forgive me. Replace the word weekend with "Monday/Tuesday/Wednesday/Thursday" and read my post again then.

I stand by the rest of it. Not calling her out of fear of looking "needy" is playing silly games that will get you nowhere.

username123

Definitely just call her!

I dont understand why it would appear needy to call someone after youve said youd call them? Am I missing something?

Partizan

I rang her and meeting her on Wednesday. Thanks for the advice guys.

Ickle Magoo

Nice one Partizan - hope it all goes well for you!

As your issue has been resolved, I'll lock this thread.

All the best. :cool: