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Playing mind games

  • 17-02-2012 5:06pm
    #1
    victoriaa
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 195 ✭✭


    I started fooling around with a guy friend of mine and I ended up wanting more. He sleeps around a lot and he knows I'm not the girl who has one night stands.. still. He kept leading me on and on.. until the point we made out and then abruptly backed off saying he can't do this (happended like 3 different times). After all this he was always the one asking me out again, wanting to talk etc. Eventually we've got into a huge fight because I felt like a f*cking experiment and he tells me that actually he was just testing the waters, he doesn't feel attracted to me and when we kissed he didn't feel anything, which means that the two of us will not work. I responded I need some time off away from him and again, he says he doesn't want me to leave him alone and that he really likes me. Now I am completely lost, I don't know how to deal with this.. We have common friends and I will see him around.. but I really don't have a clue how to act. I don't know how to start seeing him just as a friend?


Comments

  • #2
    Janet1986
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 179 ✭✭Janet1986


    He will only end up wrecking your head and breaking your heart because you could end up falling for him.

    I would say to get out now!

    Tell him don't contact you again and block his number.


  • #3
    ihsb
    Closed Accounts Posts: 678 ✭✭✭ihsb


    I would advise that you do not class him as a friend anymore. I don't mean that you stop seeing him out but only see him in group situations, be friendly but NEVER be alone with him. If he texts flirty texts tell him you are not interested in him in that way and then work on fixing yourself.

    You regard sex as being more than just a one-night stand and that is admirable. Keep it like that. Do not waste your time and energy on someone that is using you as a game of some sort.

    A man like this is not worth being a friend or a lover of.


  • #4
    victoriaa
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 195 ✭✭victoriaa


    Reading your advice actually made it all clear. So, thank you. I'm absolutely confident in what I have to do now. Plus, got a date tonight with another guy and hopefully I will start getting him out of my head. Thank you once again. Guess the answer was there all along.. but.. I am incredibly oblivious and naive.


  • #5
    Lorna123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,116 ✭✭✭Lorna123


    victoriaa wrote: »
    After all this he was always the one asking me out again, wanting to talk etc. Eventually we've got into a huge fight because I felt like a f*cking experiment and he tells me that actually he was just testing the waters, he doesn't feel attracted to me and when we kissed he didn't feel anything, which means that the two of us will not work. I responded I need some time off away from him and again, he says he doesn't want me to leave him alone and that he really likes me. Now I am completely lost, I don't know how to deal with this.. We have common friends and I will see him around.. but I really don't have a clue how to act. I don't know how to start seeing him just as a friend?


    The writing is on the wall here, this man has admitted he is not attracted to you but he would like to use you when he feels like it. The cheek of him to tell you that he was not attracted to you after the deed was done. I would not want this man as a friend, never mind anything else. You are worth far more than that.


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