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"Spark"?

  • 12-02-2012 11:21am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi everyone, this has probably been asked many times on this forum before but I'm just looking for people's feedback on whether the idea of a "spark" exists with a guy? I've been dating this guy for about 2 weeks weeks and we get on great, can talk for hours and have a laugh, and enjoy spending time with eachother, but when we kiss I don't feel any spark or big attraction to him, just seems like the done thing on a date. Some people say to me that it doesn't exist and a relationship is about getting to know eachother and having fun etc, I don't necessarily want to stop dating him as I'm seeing what happens. But then what is the difference between him and a friend who's a guy if there's no big attraction?


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  • #2
    LovelyLottie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 185 ✭✭LovelyLottie


    Of course there is such a thing as a spark between two people! Sometimes though it takes longer for the spark to develop and sometimes of course it doesn't appear at all (and that would be my cue to end it...).

    I'd say if you're enjoying his company give it some more time, the attraction and spark might get stronger. If you are laughing and having fun, i'd say the odds are that the attraction will build as you get to know him more. Not all relationships start with 'love at first sight', some relationships are slow burners.

    In my opinion if you're comfortable kissing him then you must be attracted to him in some way, and maybe you just need more time for more of a connection to develop. Best of luck.


  • #3
    dellas1979
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,128 ✭✭✭dellas1979


    Give it a chance!! Doesnt always appear instantly. Ive had sometimes where it was instantaneous, some it developed and then the sparks flew :).
    Just depends on certain personalities I think.


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    TypeyType wrote: »
    but when we kiss I don't feel any spark or big attraction to him

    Personally I love kissing and it has always been a pretty good indicator of whether a spark exists or not. If it were me and I didn't want to snog the face off them having sampled their kissing talents then I wouldn't be holding out much hope tbh. I agree that a spark can grow and some of the greatest romances are slow burners but I do think there has to be chemistry from early on


  • #5
    IrishEyes19
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,861 ✭✭✭IrishEyes19


    I do believe in the Spark. But there is a pretty obvious test to see if you spark with someone you dont know very well at first. If you are seeing each other, in most cases you should want to kiss him and enjoy kissing him
    Sexual attraction is the most obvious indication because its your body's natural response.
    sexual attraction is what seperates friends and more than friends IMO

    Do you have that for him.


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