Should I text her?

LegacyUser

Hi,

Just looking for a bit of advice.

Firstly just want to say I'm 22 and I am very inexperienced when it come to girls in general. I've only had one relationship which lasted just over a year and ended 2 months ago. More so her idea than mine.

Anyway, I was out Tuesday night and this girl came over and chatted me up. Me being quite shy, was delighted with this because I had noticed her earlier but I wouldn't have the courage to go over. Anyway she seems really interested, the night goes well, walk her home and I get her number. Happy out with myself.

I text her after coming home from the gym the next day (Wednesday), about 8 or 9. I didn't get a text back until midday Thursday where she apologised for the delay (and mentioned her surprise at me texting her) which was grand. I text her back about an hour later and I haven't received a text back since!

She seemed so interested on the night and she was delighted when I asked for her number so that's why I'm a bit puzzled!

So basically, I'm not sure what I'm looking for with her but I wouldn't mind meeting up with her again. Should I text her back and any advice on what to say if you think I should?

Also sorry for the long post for such a small matter!

Mrs Garth Brooks

Wait a few days and ring her to ask her out next weekend. I was going to suggest ringing her on tuesday to give her notice but being valentine's day, it might be too much. So ring her on wednesday and ask her, then at least you have your answer. There's nothing worse as texting and being kept waiting for a reply. You'll go mental waiting.

LovelyLottie

If you really like her, send her a text or call her and ask her out. See what she says. You have nothing to lose.

I would say though that if she hasn't replied to your last text, that would probably indicate to me that she's not very interested. Sorry

phoenix833

LovelyLottie wrote: »

If you really like her, send her a text or call her and ask her out. See what she says. You have nothing to lose.

I would say though that if she hasn't replied to your last text, that would probably indicate to me that she's not very interested. Sorry

While I agree with the first part of your post I definitely don't agree with the second. People can have all sorts of reasons for a delay of response. No credit, busy with college/work...heck some people can just plain forget to reply.

I don't want to get into the whole "It only takes a minute to reply" thing because believe me I've been there often enough myself. So OP just go for it.

IMO, being male, if I was in your shoes I'd think she was interested. But there is only one way to find out....Call her.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advise lads.

She wouldn't be living around the area I am. She'd be roughly an hour or so away so it'd be more of a weekend than a night out if I was to ask her.

I don't think I could call her really. I'd just be too nervous about it, that's just the way I am unfortunately! Something I must improve on.

LovelyLottie, I agree with you too that it'd indicate she wasn't interested. I just don't get it, she made the first move, seemed to enjoy herself and was delighted I asked for her number. I'm not sure how much I like her or if I'm even over my ex but I had a good night with this girl so I'd definitely like to meet up and see where it goes.

I might send her a text tomorrow so and just get straight to the point and ask her if she'd like to meet up some time. If I don't get a text back then that answers my question really.

Would it be a bit much expecting her to come to me for a night, I assume most girls wouldn't be too sure about staying over after the first date?

LovelyLottie

That's fair enough, you don't have to agree with me She may well be interested in the OP and i hope she is. But from my personal experience, if a guy i like contacts me, i make sure i contact him back and would try to keep the lines of communication open. Best of luck, OP

Legaleagle123

LovelyLottie wrote: »

That's fair enough, you don't have to agree with me She may well be interested in the OP and i hope she is. But from my personal experience, if a guy i like contacts me, i make sure i contact him back and would try to keep the lines of communication open. Best of luck, OP

I would have to agree with lovely Lottie, it would appear that she's not all that interested since she is taking very long to reply in ye first place and then not replying at all. Did you ask a question in your last message, I mean did it require a reply or was it just chit chat?
I know when a guy texts me and I really like him, I can't wait to text back but not everyone is as in to texting as others.
If you really like her it's worth giving her a call because then you will know for sure.

LegacyUser

Well lads, just an update and conclusion to this thread I'd be thinking.

Text her today saying I had a good time the other night and If she'd be interested in meeting up. Got a response quickly enough this time where she said she wasn't sure how we'd be able to meet up as she wouldn't be around the area that much which was something I had an idea of beforehand.

I took this to mean she wasn't really interested so I just told her to let me know if she's ever around and interested in meeting up and that I'd do the same if I was around her area.

Thought the conversation would end there really but we texted for another while with a few flirty messages here and there.

So I'd have to say I'm happy enough really, probably due to getting a response really. I think we'll probably keep in touch (just my opinion from the texts) and wouldn't be too surprised to meet up again. At the moment I couldn't see a relationship but I don't think I really want one at the moment either anyway!

Overall, Happy out but still confused!

Thanks for the advise!

nowyouresix

Just call her, forget texting.

Paddy Bateman

Was she tipsy on the night? Was there a lot if drink on her I mean

LegacyUser

nowyouresix, I know that's what I should have done but I'd be nervous/shy!

Paddy Bateman, Tipsy yes, drunk no. We were together for about 2 to 3 hours. In that time she had 1 drink and that was early on too so she was grand really.

enceladus1

dunno how yu moved on so fast after yur ex if it was yur first relationship dunno how people can do that im still gutted and miserable after 5 months apart i cant look at any other guys lucky yu it dint affect yu this much !!

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