5 regrets of the dying

gsxr1

I seen this in the Guardian website and really got me thinking.

No mention of going out on the lash more or riding as many people as ones micky can take.

I found it quite a nice small read.
more reading on the link.
http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regrets-of-the-dying

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

"This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it."

2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying."

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again."

What's your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?

Captain_Generic

Would have thought dying would be no. 1

gsxr1

Captain_Generic wrote: »

Would have thought dying would be no. 1

Depends what one is dying with . If your 95 and riddled with some horrible condition. You may well welcome it.

Captain_Generic

gsxr1 wrote: »

Depends what one is dying with . If your 95 and riddled with some horrible condition. You may well welcome it.

Even young and riddled with some horrible condition

Like gingers

gsxr1

Captain_Generic wrote: »

Even young and riddled with some horrible condition

Like gingers

I posted this before. But it needs done again. God dam I love redheads

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/group.php?groupid=136

TheBody

I can identify with a lot of those things and I'm in my thirties!! I'm sure others do too.

PK2008

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bIX6oOJIUWo

wolf moon

Jeeez... Not on Friday night.....

Underdraft

Boneitis is a terrible condition. I hope I'm never That Guy.

44leto

I am still not convinced I am going to die.

Where To

I think I would only have one;

I wish I was less of an a**ehole to those that didn't deserve it and more of an a**ehole to those that did.:)

gsxr1

gsxr1 wrote: »

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2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard...............

Can't see myself ever saying that :pac:

Yahew

Thats a great list, OP. Unfortunately its Friday night on AH, so it won't get the replies it deserves.

Fromthetrees

Yeah, I think there's a lot of truth in those 5 things.
I think/hope that people are a little different now so that at least some of those regrets won't be there in say 30/40/50/60 years time.

V Eight

44leto wrote: »

I am still not convinced I am going to die.

me too - my experience so far is that other people have done the dying. Lets hope it stays that way.

Yahew

V Eight wrote: »

me too - my experience so far is that other people have done the dying. Lets hope it stays that way.

Dont be too confident, there's people dying these days that never died before.

DEFTLEFTHAND

Humphrey Bogart's reputed last words were I regret ever switching from scotch to martinis.

daigo75

gsxr1 wrote: »

2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship.

Bingo! Another confirmation that it was a good idea to leave the job to raise my little daughter! Produce, consume, die, I heard it way too often. Time to reorganise priorities.

gsxr1

daigo75 wrote: »

Bingo! Another confirmation that it was a good idea to leave the job to raise my little daughter! Produce, consume, die, I heard it way too often. Time to reorganise priorities.

you could get a job within a state owned company. Once your in, all you have to do is be alive to get paid.

volvoman480

gsxr1 wrote: »

you could get a job within a state owned company. Once your in, all you have to do is be alive to get paid.

I believe even that's not a requirement these days....... Or is it that most of them just look dead????

InkSlinger67

Author needs to stop listening to Elbow

The Scientician

More fist fights

Less booze

Write/create/do more

gcgirl

InkSlinger67 wrote: »

Author needs to stop listening to Elbow

Now now

Regret of an Irish person
**** is the immersion still on

daigo75

gsxr1 wrote: »

you could get a job within a state owned company. Once your in, all you have to do is be alive to get paid.

I've been a public servant long ago. I lasted 6 months, then I had to escape that place or I would have lost my sanity. They even wanted to sue me because I resigned, they wanted me to stay at all costs!

InkSlinger67

gcgirl wrote: »

Now now

Regret of an Irish person
**** is the immersion still on

I should've said Leonard Cohen tbh. LC would definitely remind you if the immersion is on.....Elbow will take your mind off the immersion for a few minutes before bringing you right down to earth by asking "why did you even get an immersion in the first place for god's sake?"

Stereomaniac

You should've done what I did, have a full on nervous breakdown while still being an employee on their books. Then I proceeded to go out on sick leave and resign when that ended.

dubtom

daigo75 wrote: »

I've been a public servant long ago. I lasted 6 months, then I had to escape that place or I would have lost my sanity. They even wanted to sue me because I resigned, they wanted me to stay at all costs!

Sure why wouldn't they sue, they instilled the ' civil service mentality' in you for six months and you threw it all away, but look on the bright side,it's one less 150K pension we don't have to pay.
I regret being so bitter.

gcgirl

InkSlinger67 wrote: »

gcgirl wrote: »

Now now

Regret of an Irish person
**** is the immersion still on

I should've said Leonard Cohen tbh. LC would definitely remind you if the immersion is on.....Elbow will take your mind off the immersion for a few minutes before bringing you right down to earth by asking "why did you even get an immersion in the first place for god's sake?"

The depression from the west as he was first described to me, got his greatest hits recently and it's not as depressing as I first thought

gurramok

Good post OP, i commend you for stating the obvious that many do not realise. On reading it, I agreed with most of the points. I think you are the new Messiah(:)), even if a few people read your post, you've done some good through healing!

efb

i regret taking up oxygen other someone else could have used more wisely- then I look at Tallafornia and think, maybe I don't waste as much as others...

InkSlinger67

gcgirl wrote: »

The depression from the west as he was first described to me, got his greatest hits recently and it's not as depressing as I first thought

Can you spare a noose perchance?

gcgirl

InkSlinger67 wrote: »

gcgirl wrote: »

The depression from the west as he was first described to me, got his greatest hits recently and it's not as depressing as I first thought

Can you spare a noose perchance?

Listen to Adagio for strings the Samuel barber version not the dj tiesto version and I garentee you'll be reaching for the razor blades

Archeron

I know its a cliche but telling people you care about that you love them. They can be gone in an instant. I did, and lost somebody close, and to know they knew they were loved as they faced final moments means the world to me. I hope and believe it meant the same to them.

bronte

The first one is pretty good advice.

InkSlinger67

gcgirl wrote: »

Listen to Adagio for strings the Samuel barber version not the dj tiesto version and I garentee you'll be reaching for the razor blades

tbh I reach the point of despair while walking through Dublin City at 10pm - no further motivation needed

SafeSurfer

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aJ7Zr4deCcE

gurramok

InkSlinger67 wrote: »

tbh I reach the point of despair while walking through Dublin City at 10pm - no further motivation needed

Whats happens at 10pm? I'm intrigued as the drunks don't come out till 2am!

InkSlinger67

gurramok wrote: »

Whats happens at 10pm? I'm intrigued as the drunks don't come out till 2am!

I got my ticket to heaven.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C1k8B-qw040

longhalloween

gurramok wrote: »

Whats happens at 10pm? I'm intrigued as the drunks don't come out till 2am!

Its when the people who've been drinking all day get the last bus home.

Bipolar Joe

Not caring about the right things.

alphabeat

no 2 is vital - we are all slaves to the taxman , the gov , the bank and the boss

but never let them take your soul

if you are lucky enough to have a job these days - do remember this
never fall for the 'my job is my life' bollox - the day that happens , they fcuking own you .

unless you are lucky to love what you do , treat your job as an necessary evil
like having to take a dump .

do it to pay your way to do the stuff you really like to do , be it painting , drinking , skydiving or watching corrie

particlularly if you are in your twenties - dont take it too ****ing seriously .

InkSlinger67

InkSlinger67 wrote: »

tbh I reach the point of despair while walking through Dublin City at 10pm - no further motivation needed

Christ, it hurts!!

Take care

P-Diddy

effluent

Wished I remembered to turn off the immersion all those times

wonton

alphabeat wrote: »

no 2 is vital - we are all slaves to the taxman , the gov , the bank and the boss

but never let them take your soul

if you are lucky enough to have a job these days - do remember this
never fall for the 'my job is my life' bollox - the day that happens , they fcuking own you .

unless you are lucky to love what you do , treat your job as an necessary evil
like having to take a dump .

do it to pay your way to do the stuff you really like to do , be it painting , drinking , skydiving or watching corrie

particlularly if you are in your twenties - dont take it too ****ing seriously .

Most people that have jobs do take it seriously and deserve to be there working, it's only the people with that attitude that are "lucky enough to have a job".




.......wait actually ......not sure if serious now....


" be it painting , drinking , skydiving or watching corrie "............jaysus some productive evening that was.

Capt'n Midnight

Captain_Generic wrote: »

some horrible condition

Like gingers

That can be cured with hair dye


Then again seeing as how they have no souls they probably don't fear the afterlife like those who believe in Hell

Johro

gcgirl wrote: »

The depression from the west as he was first described to me, got his greatest hits recently and it's not as depressing as I first thought

Good old Laughing Len. He's a genius though.