Is it me?

LegacyUser

Just a quick question, feeling like rubbish at the minute. I'll keep it brief, so i was seeing a guy a few months ago, friends with benefits scenario, he said he wasn't looking for anything serious, neither was i at the time, so, it suited me.

Fast forward a month and he's dating someone , i'll be honest and say i'm a bit hurt, not that he's seeing someone as such, well maybe a little, but that he didn't want 'anything serious' with me it would seem, but did with someone else. This seems to be a recurring theme in my love life, guys just want me for sex, but for whatever reason i don't seem to be girlfriend material, it doesn't matter a jot if i make them wait for sex or not, the end result is always the same...

Any guys/girls shed some light on this, what makes one woman girlfriend material and another not?

Miss Fluff

You just haven't met the right guy yet. That may seem a little terse but it is true and when the right guy does come along he'll want to see you in AND out of the bedroom.

Just be patient and try not to get discouraged. I'd also say that for your own sake, if you suspect that you harbour even a teeny tiny bit of a flame for a guy don't compromise yourself by getting into a FWB situation in the hope it will develop into a love affair - it rarely does.

Also, I think it is especially prevelant with the popularity of online dating but it's usually pretty obvious when someone is merely after a shag. A dead give away is usually sexual innuendo or the desire to sext before you've even met :rolleyes:If that's not what you want then don't entertain it/them - then you're making it clear what you are happy with and what your expectations are.

gypsy_rose

Stellar advice as always from Missy Fluff Also, try to find a guy who's your friend and who you would hang out with and be mates with even if you didn't fancy him, those ones are boyfriend material and will feel likewise about you.