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Erectile dysfunction

  • 26-01-2012 5:39pm
    #1
    daisychain18
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8 ✭


    Im looking for advice regarding erectile dysfunction. Ive been dating my boyfriend for several months now and am crazy about him.
    He suffers with erectile dysfunction. We've been trying to have sex for 3 months now but its never happened. He has no trouble getting an erection on his own but can never get and keep one while we're together. He says he tends to over think things and worries/over thinks everything when we're trying, the minute he does this he loses his erection. We've talked about it, he even went for counselling/hypnosis but it hasn't worked.
    I've done everything I can but nothing seems to work. He keeps telling me its not my fault. But its very frustrating and I'm losing my confidence too. I never tell him the effect its having on me as I don't want him to feel and more pressurized. Its taking the passion out of the relationship and I don't know what to. I would be so grateful for any advice!


Comments

  • #2
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    I would start with taking penetrative sex off the menu - both of you make a pact that for the foreseeable while there will be no penetrative sex and just concentrate on having fun and messing about together...take the focus off him and his erection.

    There must be an enormous amount of pressure on him to perform now - not just his own frustrations but also sensing yours and that is only going to make the situation ten times worse. Try different things to take the pressure off, keep it really dark, masturbate not even touching while telling naughty stories to each other - get him comfortable orgasming in your company, then with you more involved and then progress to intercourse.

    All the best.


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