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Feeling like I am growing apart from my friends

  • 26-01-2012 3:00pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi everyone, a recent thread about this made me think about my own situation.

    I have 2 friends who would probably be 'closest' to me but recently I have been feeling that we really aren't as close as good friends should be.

    These girls would get on very well with each other and have a lot in common whereas I would be sort of the odd one out in that regard, or at least that's how I feel.

    They have very specific interests and tastes. For instance I would be quite into clothes and make-up (not obsessively but you know like most girls would be) whereas they are the complete opposite when it comes to this.

    They also have the same musical interests etc and ideas of what's entertaining.

    We rarely go out (on nights out) and I feel like I have a zero social life basically. Now I never really loved going out to pubs/clubs but I enjoy it a bit more now and there is one club in particular, where I live, that is very popular with the majority of young people (all kinds of people go there as there is a good mix of music and it's a generally cool place) but they don't like this place so I don't want to be pushing to go there when we go out. They would prefer kind of alternative venues and their friends would be of the same persuasion (I wouldnt have anything in common with them).

    I'm finding it increasingly difficult to talk with them and have things in common with them but at the same time I don't want to lose them as friends.

    I'd love to meet new people as I don't want to be relying on these two girls for the rest of my life.

    I have 2 other good friends (one in particular but she is married with a child so wouldn't hang around with her as often as I would like. I only know her 4 years but already she feels like a much better friend). The other girl, I get on great with but it's like she has a quota on the amount of times we can meet in the week (whenever I suggest something she nearly always "has plans" - I know this is not really the case though. i get the impression that she is only saying no to appear like she is really busy.)

    I just find it very hard to find genuine people who like to hang out, call over to each others houses etc during the week for a chat. I have had all my friends over to my house numerous times yet barely once have they invited me to theirs and I don't feel like I can call without an invitation which I feel you should be able to do with close friends.

    I'm not clingy at all but I just want close friends that I can have a girly chat with or ring up when I'm having a bad day.

    I look at pictures on facebook of other girls with all their friends having a great time etc. and it gets to me (I know it shouldnt but it does!)

    I'm not really sure what i'm getting at here. I guess I just feel let down and I'm not meeting any new friends and I guess I would like some advice.

    Also I'm single so I'm worried if I don't get out more and do more things then I will be left on the shelf!

    I guess there are 2 issues here! Sorry for the rant!!

    Thanks for reading


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