Can you fall in love with a personality if a person is ugly

lazygal

People are always saying "Oh, looks don't matter, I'm more interested in personality" like they're being really noble. But could anyone fall in love with a total minger with a good personality? How do you get past the mingingness and find out about the "good personality"? Which do you really go for, looks or personality?

Thalia_26

Which do you really go for, looks or personality?


Personality.

James__10

Ya can't **** over personality :pac:

woodoo

I don't believe so. There must be a physical attraction. They don't have to be beautiful but they must be attractive to you.

Dj Stiggie

Yore da did, didn't he?

djan

Everyone is different but for me looks matter. No mingers

Biggins

lazygal wrote: »

Can you fall in love with a personality if a person is ugly

...Well the wife fell in love with me!

So the answer must be "Yes".

Ellis Dee

I think this German postcard answers your question, lazygal:

http://static2.akpool.de/images/cards/30/301065.jpg

:):)

lastlaugh

lazygal wrote: »

People are always saying "Oh, looks don't matter, I'm more interested in personality" like they're being really noble. But could anyone fall in love with a total minger with a good personality? How do you get past the mingingness and find out about the "good personality"? Which do you really go for, looks or personality?

A person who is themselves a complete minger is far more likely to 'fall in love'with another minger.

RobbingBandit

Questions like this are why wise men invented Alcohol.

mattjack

lazygal wrote: »

People are always saying "Oh, looks don't matter, I'm more interested in personality" like they're being really noble. But could anyone fall in love with a total minger with a good personality? How do you get past the mingingness and find out about the "good personality"? Which do you really go for, looks or personality?

I'm sure you're not that bad looking.

44leto

Yeah people have loved me.

XenaLady

Id say it has to be both, one cant spend the whole life disgusted with the other half appearance or enjoy the intimate part of the relationship. Its the looks we pay attention to first, who even goes to talk to someone who doesnt look attractive?

candy-gal1

imho i always think you need to be attracted equally to both the persons looks and personality to have a relationship with someone.

if the looks overrides the personality then your probably going to be bored/angry/just meh after a while when talking to them.

and vice versa, if you prefer the personality of someone, your not going to be completely satisfied with the person and are going to be looking out for something more.

thats just my opinion though

mattjack

So which of us have you picked ?

token101

If you think they're ugly then you're not in love with them.

Jay D

I don't think so. Plenty of good personalities but there is a block there when it comes to be all affectionate towards someone not physically attractive to you. I couldn't anyway. Looks are definitely important.

sgb

Ugly ones are more dirty

Butterface

Depends where they are on the minger scale.. and then cross that with where they are on the personality scale. You'd want to have some personality to make up for being a number 10 on the minger scale.

efb

Ugly ones are better at sex, I have researched this thoroughly

Paddy Cow

Both are important. Looks do count but if the person is really attractive and knows it and because of that they are incredibly vain and self absorbed, there is only so long you could stand to be around them.

Teyla Emmagan

How attracted I am to someone depends on how I feel about them. There are plenty of guys I've had little initial attraction towards, but once I've gotten to know them I've suddenly realised they were the most delicious kissable thing on two legs. And then there's people who I have no interest in, or who've annoyed me for whatever reason, and even though I realise that from an aesthetic perspective they may be attractive, they would still hold no appeal for me.

Basically I've found that the more I love someone the better looking I find them.

Hormones are odd things.

theg81der

As long as he`s not a fatty, thats something he has control over!

I dated two guys who were extremely good looking supposedly every womans type - tall, dark etc, friends were all jealous which is actually why I dated these guys more than one date, but they were the most boring few weeks ever! Give me glasses, scars mmmmm I`m a freak!

Kevin Duffy

Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes all the way to the bone.

Lone Stone

Depends on the boobs.

stupidusername

I need both equally really. I've had a relationship with someone that I wasn't hugely attracted to physically, and I know it doesn't work, so feck anyone that says it's shallow to go for looks. of course you need both, you need to be able to get on with the person too, be on the same wavelength, have the same humour etc. but no I could never ignore looks

Dudess

lazygal wrote: »

People are always saying "Oh, looks don't matter, I'm more interested in personality" like they're being really noble.

What that tends to mean is: they don't have to be gorgeous. And that a person who's nothing special-looking with a fantastic personality is more attractive than a person who's beautiful with a horrible personality. I'd agree with that.

mikom

lazygal wrote: »

Can you fall in love with a personality if a person is ugly

Yes.
Signed
Stevie Wonder.

cruais

Bit of both never hurt anyone

bleg

Different strokes for different folks.

44leto

I suppose it really doesn't matter to me once i am into it. 1 of my Xes was quite stunning, a real knock out and she did my head in, another would be described as plain and she is the one I shouldn't have let get away.

But like it or not we are all effected by looks and beauty.

Tigger

I did but then I left her for a crazy stupid hardbody that liked it a little rough

nicechick!

To be fair we all like what we see! Chemistry/Attraction are important I definitively would have to find someone attractive to start but after usually if I'm really into them they become more attractive etc


Your minger might be attractive to someone else! Minger sounds awful

WoollyRedHat

Ellis Dee wrote: »

I think this German postcard answers your question, lazygal:

http://static2.akpool.de/images/cards/30/301065.jpg

:):)

It's the village bike!

Dudess

nicechick! wrote: »

Minger sounds awful

It really does.

L.Jenkins

nicechick! wrote: »

...Your minger might be attractive to someone else! Minger sounds awful

Dudess wrote: »

It really does.

Aesthetically Challanged would be more fitting so!

strobe

I'm sure it's probably possible. I mean you hear those stories of the guy that had his face eaten off by a crocodile and ends up marrying his nurse and things... Plus there was that chick who used to do all that mescaline that was kidnapped by that really ugly fucker with the castle and ended up falling for him. But that might have just been about the money...

But for me, no, no chance at all.

Having said that I don't think I could be with someone in any serious way just 'cause they are hot either. I've also found over the last few years I wouldn't even be on for just hooking up with someone if I found their personality a turn off (if they were a bitch), regardless of how good looking they were, which wouldn't necessarily have been the case when I was younger.

I think that if you find someone unattractive then you are probably not going to fall in love with them but beauty is in the eye of the holder and all that jazz. The more you like someone, the better looking they'll be to you.

amacachi

Once they're not off-puttingly ugly I could go with any chick with a good personality. Them being blind wouldn't be the worst thing ever either.

Aidric

lazygal wrote: »

People are always saying "Oh, looks don't matter, I'm more interested in personality"

Load of aul bollox quite frankly. Without a physical attraction forget about it.

Jess16

Beauty is in the eye of the beerholder

argosy2006

Ask Colleen Rooney

Overflow

Thalia_26 wrote: »

Personality.

haha no thanks for you t-w'hore !

Giselle

Aidric wrote: »

Load of aul bollox quite frankly. Without a physical attraction forget about it.

Its happened that I've gotten to know someone on a platonic level and as I grew to like and respect him, and found that I'd lots in common with him, I found myself finding myself attracted to him. I wound up with a total crush.

People are a package, you can judge someone on appearance first and find the good looker incredibly dull or annoying, and you can judge the plain looker on his personality and find that the rest starts to look better the more you like them.

Alessandra

I would never refer to another human being as 'ugly' without them having done something completely heinous that would repulse me. 'Ugly' is a word I reserve for inanimate objects. Who am I to judge? If I find someone initially unattractive for whatever reason, I don't think there's much comeback. I think however attraction can grow but there needs to be some initial spark be that a sparkling personality or a good smile.
I've got an eclectic taste in men, some of whom my friends would find unattractive and vice versa.

Andromeda_111

Ugly is a very objective word. What's ugly to one person can be attractive to another. Same goes for attractive. IMO confidence in a person can is an extremely attractive quality so it's not just about aesthetics, it's a number of factors that together gets your juices flowing (power, confidence, drive, charm etc...)

I've been really attracted to some guys that when I've mentioned it to my friends they've looked at me that I'm some sort of freak. Maybe I am

Capt'n Midnight

Ugly = poor

Very rich people don't seem to have problems finding very attractive partners.

XenaLady

In my experience, people who dont really have looks at all are so mad desperate thats its ridiculous.
But thats just me saying. And my deep voice of experience.

44leto

Domo230 wrote: »

As an ugly person, based on my experience sadly no

Ahh bet your not that bad.

My mate is bone ugly, baldy, short crooked teeth a crooked face he always was over weight he has absolutely nothing redeeming about his features.

The guy is a stud I have never seen him fail to pull, I have even heard women say to him get away you ugly bastard, then him replying ahh don't be like that and eventually leaving with her. I have no idea how he does it. His now wife is a beaut and a great catch and he still clicks everytime he is out. It really is about balls and confidence.

woodoo

XenaLady wrote: »

In my experience, people who dont really have looks at all are so mad desperate thats its ridiculous.
But thats just me saying. And my deep voice of experience.

Your being very tough on yourself there

XenaLady

woodoo wrote: »

Your being very tough on yourself there

Very true. I gave up instead of making a public joke of meself