access to neice and nephew

swifty42

I hope someone can help.

My sister has four children, two of which are with the same dad. She has been subject to all sorts of harrasment and domestic violence from the Father of these two children for the last seven years. She has moved house seven times and has now with the help of womens aid relocated to an entirely different part of the UK. She has cut off all ties with friends and anyone who is not immediate family so that he will not be able to find her.

However, he has been granted access to the two children despite his violent criminal record and several arrests regarding my sister. Because my sister has moved and not allowed him access she has been tracked down by HMRC and has to go back to court.

She is entirely stressed out and terrified. So much so that she has instructed a solicitor to ask the court to give the children to the father so that he will finally leave her alone or at least if he does come anywhere near her then the police will be a bit more likely to take it seriously. There have been several occasions where the police have been called but they have seen it as a domestiv dispute and so not really been that helpful.

She has no faith, no energy and no hope left and will not try and fight this anymore..... she has decided that she will hand the kids over and will not listen to anyone else. This is not in the childrens best interest to tear them away from their other sisters, cousins, uncles, aunties, school, friends, grandparent... they have never lived iwth their dad ever before... what can I do?? can I apply for access if he does get them , can I write to the court? can I attend the court any suggestions please ???

Daisy M

Get on to socialworkers straight away. Also get your sister to a doctor asap. She sounds depressed and not in her right mind. She has fought and fought to protect her children so something has to be seriously wrong with her judgement to give them up now. See about getting them made wards of court or getting a temporary care order for your self.

swifty42

Thank you.

The children have a meeting with a court appointed gaurdian on Monday so I'll have to wait to see what happens there. The kids are not aware of the difficulties with their dad as she has tried hard to protect them from this.

My sister has some concerns about seeing a doctor.. If she tells them she is depressed she feels that the court will say that she is not coping and therefore not able to look after her children.. she has two other children to consider, one of which has severe learning difficulties and she is her full time carer.

Ickle Magoo

Hey there OP,

You have been given ample excellent advice already in the thread you posted in Legal.

As we cannot give medical advice nor legal advice, you would be best to contact your/her GP to ensure your sister gets assessed for medical treatment and a solicitor so you can establish where you/she stands legally.

All the very best.