Advice about a "break"/break up

LegacyUser

Hi guys wasn't sure whether or not to post this up but in the end I just want to discuss it and get peoples opinions please.

In the past few days myself and my girlfriend of 2 and a half years have split up, she is in her first year in college and I am in my second, but since she began college our time together has been restricted to Fridays and Saturdays alone, which has been difficult for the lack of time alone, and also for being unable to have much time for friends or other things. However the bigger problem is that in the past year or so, we have gotten very over protective and jealous as a couple, to the point where it is difficult for us to go out and enjoy ourselves 100% without worrying what the other person will think, ridiculous I know but it's just the way it became and was hard to stop once it began. Over the past maybe 5 months the conversation had come up twice about this, where we really didn't know how to stop, but just kept going. Then finally the other day it came up again, but we resolved that it was time to change, and that getting like that and being so dependent on the other person was dangerous at this age (20).

The initial decision was incredibly tough, and neither of us wanted to break up whatsoever, but we just couldn't handle being unhappy during the week, it was effecting our lives and the relationship, despite the weekends together being great. As we talked about the decision, we both spilled out all our emotions and we didn't know whether what was happening was a break, or a break up. We desperately want there to be a future together, and we have said that we really can see a future together for us, but that at this age it is difficult to live life as we should be without upsetting the other person. We are going to keep in touch texting two or three days a week, and meet up every two or three weeks also.

The timing for me though is far from perfect, as I will be beginning work experience, but she will be in college. My fear is that, despite us both having the intentions to get back together, that come the summer her intentions will have changed and I will be left in the lurch.

I really do love the girl, and she feels the same way, we could literally spend days on end together during the summers and always have a great time, the best days I've ever had have been with her and we have both always treated each other so well over the past few years. We have discussed long term future and said that we both just want one another and I really do see a long term future with her.

I have probably left out details and am not exactly sure what my question is, but what are peoples opinions on this, are we doing the right thing, is getting back together a good idea? We both really want to atm, but I am just afraid that I will get my hopes up, and by the time summer comes around, they may not come true.

Thanks in advance guys

Mini2011

This is a risk, but not trying to be condescending it seems you are being very mature about it. Maybe you are growing apart - who knows.- maybe it'll work out.

There is never a definate answer for this. It's out of your hands. You both are not happy with current situation so rightly so you've changed it. All you can do now is see what happens. These things are never simple.

If its to work, it will.

miss dublin

you say the split was mutual and by the sounds of it yous need that bit of space... i was in a relationship for 5 years but ended it as for reasons like yours...i still love him but ive done so many things that i never thought id do when i was wth him..i know u said ur worried that yous mighten get back come the summer..look at it this way if its ment to be it will be, everything happens for a reason.

LegacyUser

Thanks guys appreciate the opinions. Have to say though I'm not taking it very well at all, as much as I want to be mature and okay about it I really am not taking it well. As I said I am on work experience, and I get really down and lonely, all my friends are in college too and I have nobody to talk to, whenever I had a problem before it was always her I went to but I have nobody now and feel myself getting really down when I can't talk to anyone. I have tried to talk about it to two of my (male) friends but I can never fully release what I'm feeling.