Present off a mate...

unreggd

Gettin really frustated over this

My mate got me a ticket for a comedy gig comin up this month as a present

I appreciate the gesture, but I REALLY don't like comedian, AT ALL

Also, the venue is over an hours drive away, and she wants to stay up there for the night, as its on in a hotel, which I cant afford as I'm not working. I could barely even afford the petrol, but I'd have to drive us up

It's my best mate, so I dunno whats worse: say nothing, go, and pretend to enjoy the show, or be honest about it so she can bring someone who will be better company


I know, I know, I sound like a prick, but my concern is her enjoying the night, and not telling white lies for fear of hurt feelings

akward one!

Overheal

I've done worse. Went to a Deadmau5 concert in nothing but a terrible pair of dress shoes (only thing I brought with me. Most uncomfortable pair of shoes I've ever worn.) knowing nothing about what I was getting into or if I could afford it (strapped senseless at the time). Very spur of the moment thing, when I started following 2 half naked chicks to 'a rave' after they asked me to take their photo as I was walking near a fountain in Atlanta.

Not only did I enjoy myself but went the 2nd night after taking a chance on a ticket scalper. This was before I had any idea what a Deadmau5 even was. In the same pair of shoes Id add.

All I'm saying is you might think your experience will be bad initially but you have no real way of knowing if you'll actually end up enjoying yourself. I say go. Life is meant to be taken on the chin anyway. I hit the wrong button on the vending machine the other day, and all it meant was that I drank a tangerine-flavord sparking water instead of a rootbeer. It doesn't matter that I wanted a rootbeer what mattered is I still drank the sparkling water, and found it to be different.

Chinafoot

While I'm sure she meant well that's a lot of expense for a show you have no interest in. It's hardly the same as a concert where you have no idea what the act is like. You know you don't like the comedian in question so you're hardly going to get a wonderful surprise by going. I absolutely despise Lee Evans, for example, and would refuse to go and spend money to sit through a show I know I won't enjoy.

If it was me I'd tell her that you really appreciate the gift but that you just can't afford the expense that goes with it. She's your mate so she should understand. Maybe organise a night out it a cinema trip closer to home that won't involve spending a sh1tload on petrol and a hotel.

Katgurl

I think you should be honest with your friend. If you can't afford the hotel and petrol there is no point putting yourself into debt for the sake of avoiding an awkward conversation. Maybe leave out the part about not liking the comedian. And give her as much notice as possible so she can recruit someone else or sell the tickets.

R.D. aka MR.D

I also say tell her. Make it all about how you can't afford the added expense as long as it's genuine (not like those people who say they can't afford something while spending money left right and centre!!).

It's not worth spending money to keep some one else happy. If she is a true friend she'll understand.

LegacyUser

unreggd wrote: »

Gettin really frustated over this

My mate got me a ticket for a comedy gig comin up this month as a present

I appreciate the gesture, but I REALLY don't like comedian, AT ALL

Also, the venue is over an hours drive away, and she wants to stay up there for the night, as its on in a hotel, which I cant afford as I'm not working. I could barely even afford the petrol, but I'd have to drive us up

It's my best mate, so I dunno whats worse: say nothing, go, and pretend to enjoy the show, or be honest about it so she can bring someone who will be better company


I know, I know, I sound like a prick, but my concern is her enjoying the night, and not telling white lies for fear of hurt feelings

akward one!

It seems that she wanted to go to this gig and needed someone to go with her. Buying the ticket for you as a "gift" strikes me as sneaky. You still have to pay for the hotel. (For the record, even if you did want to go, she should pay half the petrol cost for such a trip.)

Tell her you can't afford it. As she's your best friend I assume she already knows this.

LegacyUser

Hmmm. If I wanted a weekend away to see a particular comedian but had no one to go with, I could buy my friend a ticket and she'd feel she had to come with me cos she'd think it was a present for her...

I'd feel no compunction in declining, OP. If she'd asked you first this wouldn't have happened.

Do it nicely though.