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Asking a girl for her number

  • 13-01-2012 09:45AM
    #1
    Xx Hidalgo xX
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1 ✭


    Ok I was wondering if any of you guys could help me out here, I was dumped by my first girlfriend not too long ago and im finally starting to get over her.

    But the thing is I can't really talk to girls very well so I was wondering if any of you had any advice for me so that if I was out in town or anywhere else and saw an attractive girl around my age that i could just walk up to her and ask her for her number or something.

    I've always had a kind of a fear of rejection and being in that awkward situation and i really want to get over it so any help would be much appreciated.


Comments

  • #2
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Walking up to a random stranger and asking for their number isn't the best way to find women - for starters it is based entirely on aesthetics and makes it clear to the woman you have picked them out in some kind of aesthetics lottery...which will immediately put some off, offend others and generally make it more likely you get rejected.

    The best thing to do is get better at talking to girls; stop holding them up as some alien species you can't talk to and who get you quivering in your boots and get a few as friends so you start seeing them as just like you with the same insecurities, worries, hopes and fears that you have.

    Perhaps brush up on your communications skills, join a drama group or toastmasters and boost your public speaking and confidence skills in general - join some groups and events to widen your social circle and increase your chances of getting chatting to someone you click with.

    All the best. :cool:


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,005 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    sunflower27 wrote: »
    Why would you just walk up to an attractive woman and ask for her number?

    She would freak out. It's not the done thing.

    Seriously, don't do that. Just relax a bit - there is no mad rush to have a new partner. Use this time to meet people and develop your social skills.

    I totally agree with the above, I know I wouldn't like a stranger to come up to me in the street and ask for my number. It's definitely not the done thing. Chill out and it will all fall into place.


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