Is he using me

shoes34

I guess deep down I know the answer but just to get some advice. My ex brought a house across the road from mine last September and moved in just before Christmas. For the last number of months he has been texting me sometimes I reply other times I don't reply could get 2 or 3 messages a night and I wouldn't reply to them but then as I said I do reply some times.

He texted me Christmas Eve and Christmas day to tell me have a lovely Christmas and all the nice textes you'd get from someone who liked you. Then we slept together on two seperate nights over Christmas.

Then last night he textes me again and I replied. Now some of my friends say I should just go over and ask him what is the story but I think deep down that he is probably just using me and I should knock it on the head, its not like either of us are children, both in 30s.

I am a friend

Do you want him back? thought he messed with your head before?

Sleepy

No OP, you can't be used when it's something you do of your own free will. If he's "using you", you're "using him" just as much when you sleep together.

If you want something more, discuss it with him. If you don't, stop sleeping with him, stop texting him and, if need be, change your number.

shoes34

Just wanted to say guess I should have listed to all advice - to him it was just sex I think deep down I thought I could change his mind - got a text yesterday saying we should stop sleeping together and just be friends. I was more cross by the fact that he said it by text and not face to face or over the phone but as I said to him what's done is done and maybe next time he should treat a girl with a bit more respect than he treated me.

This time taking all advice on board and going to put myself first and heading out tomorrow night with the girls for a girlie night and just going to enjoy myself.

Thanks.

shoes34

Thanks Sunflower27 - I have read a lot of your advices and its always great and I really just need to start taking it now and believe in myself that I can do better and do deserve better. the worse bit is of course he had to move in across the road but I will walk with my head held high!:)

I am trying to decide what to wear now, between a sparkly dress I purchased for Christmas as I figure once the spring comes in it will be a bit too much to wear so will be put away till next Christmas or skinny jeans and a top but again that is advice i should look off from the fashion section.

Thanks again.

LegacyUser

shoes34 wrote: »

maybe next time he should treat a girl with a bit more respect than he treated me.

Or you do that for yourself instead, as far as i can see he didnt disrespect you, you decided not to ask the question for fear of the answer, that is not his fault, that is yours, take more responsibilty for your actions and dont blame him.

It is good he has ended it though as clearly you have feelings for him still and you would only hurt more in the long run.

Get your glamed up self out on the town tonight and remind yourself of just how fab you are and you never needed him in the first place!

Then in future, remind yourself you deserve more than what he offered and you wont settle for less.

Ickle Magoo

As your original issue has been resolved and fashion advice is better suited to fashion and appearance, I'll lock this thread.

All the very best, OP. :cool: