Lost and alone in cairns, Australia

madmac187

Hey all, I moved to Cairns about 8 months ago directly from Ireland to work Sponsored. I met a girl within 3 weeks and fell in love with her. We were together for nearly 7 months and have split. I'm 24 and know no one. She is gorgeous but betrayed me in such a way I can't explain. She's 27 and is beautiful, I didn't even know what she saw in me because she was well out of league.

Since we finished, I don't know what to do. I don't know anyone here at all. Things are getting tough for me to be honest. I am beginning to feel very depressed, not about her but because I'm on my own with no friends. Months ago I even offered to buy a friends ticket over but he couldn't because he was going to America.

I don't know if I can cope like this to be honest. I haven't really met any Irish and I'm just getting sick of being on my own and severely thinking of going home now everyday.

If there is anyone on this in cairns please say hello.

fluffybiscuits

madmac187 wrote: »

Hey all, I moved to Cairns about 8 months ago directly from Ireland to work Sponsored. I met a girl within 3 weeks and fell in love with her. We were together for nearly 7 months and have split. I'm 24 and know no one. She is gorgeous but betrayed me in such a way I can't explain. She's 27 and is beautiful, I didn't even know what she saw in me because she was well out of league.

Since we finished, I don't know what to do. I don't know anyone here at all. Things are getting tough for me to be honest. I am beginning to feel very depressed, not about her but because I'm on my own with no friends. Months ago I even offered to buy a friends ticket over but he couldn't because he was going to America.

I don't know if I can cope like this to be honest. I haven't really met any Irish and I'm just getting sick of being on my own and severely thinking of going home now everyday.

If there is anyone on this in cairns please say hello.

Hi mate


Sorry to hear about your predicament. I would try a few things.

Have you tried sites like gumtree (there is an Aussie equivalant) where you can just post up a message looking to make friends.

There is also couch surfers.

Try some voluntary work, you get to connect with different people across all stratas of society and meet other helpers.

Take up some hobbies or night classes.

Follow the local football or sports team (Ask about supporters groups etc. great way, I especially advocate this)

What about workmates also?

Hope these suggestions are of some use to you! Good luck

LegacyUser

I was in Cairns a few years ago like many Irish people.

As a start I'd just look out for nights or events in the woolshed.
on the day off go in there early and get chatting with the staff or other people about.

Look for GAA club etc

Gotta get out and meet people it doesnt happen sitting around,
Friends dont just turn up on the door

nlk

Sorry to hear you are low OP but it will pass.

I think you shouldn't focus on trying to meet other Irish people- I mean definitely meet other Irish people but there are lots of other ex pats over there and also don't forget about the Australians!

Just don't limit yourself is all I'm saying. Also, trying to meet Irish people you might find you are running into a lot of transient people- it's been ages since I was there but when I was places like the Woolshed were full of backpackers and whilst you might meet some nice people, if you are hanging around you should try places like sports clubs where you can meet people based in Cairns full time.

Try and remember that you are feeling a lot worse because of the breakup so your friend situation is probably not as bad as you think, just compounded by heartache.

Volunteering, clubs, sports groups, classes are all good places to meet new people. Don't limit yourself to one hobby either as you will increase your chances and may end up with a wide variety of friends.

Don't panic though- you will meet people, you just need to try some new things.

Best of luck.

LegacyUser

Hey,

I lived in Australia for 2 years myself and at times, found it very lonely. It can be very hard to meet people and build up a network because there are so many transient people in Oz. Especially in place like Cairns which is very much the type of place people send a week or so there before continuing on to one of the main cities.

But the fact it is a small town might mean there is a close knit Irish community? Where are you living? Could you try move into house that has a few people living in it? If you got into a house with people similar to you (new to the area, looking to meet people), it provide social opportunities for you.

Try going to the Irish pubs during the day and getting talking to the bar staff (senior staff members who have been living there a while if possible - not a backpacker who is there for one month only). Tell them you've relocated there and are looking to get involved in activities. They might be able to point you in the direction of a local GAA or football team.

Also, as someone else mentioned - the internet. It might sound a bit cringe posting an ad on the internet but speaking from experience, that was what I found worked best for me. Well I didnt actually post an ad myself, I responded to one and became part of a group of girls who were all in my position - had moved to Oz from various parts of the world.

You could also try the Australia boards page. I checked it all the time when I was living there and people would regularly post there about looking to meet up with people or to arrange nights out.

Best of luck with it all. Australia is a great place so try to make the best of it.

fluffybiscuits

Icanrelate wrote: »

Hey,

I lived in Australia for 2 years myself and at times, found it very lonely. It can be very hard to meet people and build up a network because there are so many transient people in Oz. Especially in place like Cairns which is very much the type of place people send a week or so there before continuing on to one of the main cities.

But the fact it is a small town might mean there is a close knit Irish community? Where are you living? Could you try move into house that has a few people living in it? If you got into a house with people similar to you (new to the area, looking to meet people), it provide social opportunities for you.

Try going to the Irish pubs during the day and getting talking to the bar staff (senior staff members who have been living there a while if possible - not a backpacker who is there for one month only). Tell them you've relocated there and are looking to get involved in activities. They might be able to point you in the direction of a local GAA or football team.

Also, as someone else mentioned - the internet. It might sound a bit cringe posting an ad on the internet but speaking from experience, that was what I found worked best for me. Well I didnt actually post an ad myself, I responded to one and became part of a group of girls who were all in my position - had moved to Oz from various parts of the world.

You could also try the Australia boards page. I checked it all the time when I was living there and people would regularly post there about looking to meet up with people or to arrange nights out.

Best of luck with it all. Australia is a great place so try to make the best of it.

I suggested, its a great way. Friends wise I have met a lot through work, college etc but the internet also. Met a few through some websites, including a cool New Zealand bird who I hang out with from time to time. @ OP what are your interests? What about moving to another part of Oz?