How can I show my "friend with benefits" that I have no feelings for him?

LegacyUser

At the weekend I had sex with a guy I've known for quite a while. The next day we had a short text conversation about having a kind of casual sex relationship.
This is fine with me however, this fella has quite a big ego and I know he is convinced that I'm mad for a relationship with him etc. I've tried to make it clear that I have no romantic feelings for him but I don't think he believes me.
As I don't want to inflate his head anymore by having him believe I'm some kind of love sick puppy, is there any way I can show him how I feel by my actions when we are together?
Also I've never been in such a situation before so what should I do if I see him on a night out? If I'm up for it do I approach him or wait and let him approach me?

Any advice would be great!

muracan

I think you are setting youself up here to be used by a guy who likes to have a string of women at his beck and call.
Don't be foolish and fall for this shallow individual.
Hold out to meet a decent guy who will show you some respect and real attention.
Good luck!

This is wayyyy too much drama for a FWB. Stop worrying about him and what he thinks. The more you get caught up in the messing around and wasting time and attention on it, the more he'll be convinced.
If it's hassle, tell him it's not working out and find another fwb or something. They're supposed to be uncomplicated...

Logical Fallacy

bluewolf wrote: »

This is wayyyy too much drama for a FWB. Stop worrying about him and what he thinks. The more you get caught up in the messing around and wasting time and attention on it, the more he'll be convinced.
If it's hassle, tell him it's not working out and find another fwb or something. They're supposed to be uncomplicated...

+1

It's already complicated and that means it's not a suitable set up for a FWB scenario tbh.

The easiest way to show him you have no romantic feelings for him is to not sleep with him again.

baztard

Friendwithbenefitstrouble wrote: »

At the weekend I had sex with a guy I've known for quite a while. The next day we had a short text conversation about having a kind of casual sex relationship.
This is fine with me however, this fella has quite a big ego and I know he is convinced that I'm mad for a relationship with him etc. I've tried to make it clear that I have no romantic feelings for him but I don't think he believes me.
As I don't want to inflate his head anymore by having him believe I'm some kind of love sick puppy, is there any way I can show him how I feel by my actions when we are together?
Also I've never been in such a situation before so what should I do if I see him on a night out? If I'm up for it do I approach him or wait and let him approach me?

Any advice would be great!

He doesn't believe you now when you say you've no romantic interest in him, but he will start believing you when your future actions start to demostrate so. Ie. You will be behaving like a fwb, and so he'll cop on that you're a fwb and not into a relationship.

If you see him on a night out and feel like talking to him or something, do so. If you feel like just hanging around with your friends and not him, do so. Just dont be rude, and show him the respect that he deserves. If he feels your very on / offish with him, refer him back to your previous conversation about just bieng friends with benefits. Just dont forget that some nights he might not have any interest with you

baztard

muracan wrote: »

I think you are setting youself up here to be used by a guy who likes to have a string of women at his beck and call.
Don't be foolish and fall for this shallow individual.
Hold out to meet a decent guy who will show you some respect and real attention.
Good luck!

Your making a lot of very overly negative presumptions about this lad when you know very little about him.

The OP is interested in a fwb situation. If you're implying that there's something wrong with this or judging it somehow?, then you're forcing your beliefs onto someone else.

AngryBollix

This can only end one way if you maintain this "relationship" in its current way.

It isnt easy but perhaps you should come straight out with it. Beating around the bush isn't going to serve anyones best interest. Sorry to have expressed in such blunt terms.

G-Money

Don't have sex with him or do anything else with him and he will soon get the idea that you don't want anything to happen. If you insist on having a FWB arrangement, have it with someone else.