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Brother's Drinking

  • 02-01-2012 4:21am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Another Christmas has come and gone and left us with more bad memories of my brothers drinking.

    We are always on tenderhooks wondering what he will end up doing to himself or others.

    He has been to rehab but went back on the drink soon after.

    Noticed in the last 12 months that he is becoming very unpredictable after drink. He can be very aggressive and very worryingly self harming.

    My parents are nearing retirement age but the last couple of years has aged them quicker IMO due to my brothers actions.

    I want them to kick him out the house as I think we are only enabling him by allowing him carry on as he does.

    My mother is afraid that if we kick him out he will end up in the river or on the street but he is getting worse not better.

    Suggestions?


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  • #2
    Rhys Essien
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,029 ✭✭✭Rhys Essien


    Thats a tough one.You will have to have a serious chat with him that his drinking is badly affecting your parents lives and that they dont need this $hite at this stage of the game.

    Is his drinking purely down to boredom.?Can he be encouraged to take up a few hobbies.Either way he needs to sort things out now.

    I knew of a guy in the last few years who was in his early forties who literally drank himself to death.Dont know was there any attempt to get him into a clinic.Its sad the way alcohol can be so distructive.


  • #3
    username123
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    AngryandSad wrote: »
    My mother is afraid that if we kick him out he will end up in the river or on the street but he is getting worse not better.

    Your parents are enabling his behaviour, he doesnt have to worry about consequences because he always has a home to go back to no matter how much havoc ensues when he drinks.

    Id suggest both yourself and your parents go to Alanon and learn how to stop enabling him, how to positively contribute to the situation rather than just negative things like fighting over the drinking or giving out over the fall out from the most recent session etc...

    If he has already been to rehab then its clear he knows there is a problem, so at least theres that to work with. I think that yourself and your parents educating yourselves and getting support from Alanon is the best thing you can do now.


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