Personal Ad in Local Newspaper.

LegacyUser

Hi, I am currently a single man living and working in the west of Ireland. Like so many other people I find it very difficult to meet somebody as I live in a rural area. I am currently trying online dating but without too much success.

From time to time I see personal ads in the county newspaper, maybe one a month or
so unlike other newspapers where there can be a 2 page spread.

Do you think many women would reply to an add in the county newspaper along the lines of
>Single man , XX years old, employed. Would like to meet a single non-smoker for a >relationship which would hopefully lead to marriage and children. Please send replys to >myemailaddress@hotmail.com.

or would they just find this way of meeting somebody too weird for want of a better word?Your opinions please.

EGAR

I personally would not reply to an ad or write one.

But I have written one for a friend of mine (in his 40s then and not very literate). He got 27 replies, met with 4 women and clicked with the 4th instantly. They got married two years later and now live in the States for the past 6 years.

So it can work.

username123

Singleinthewest wrote: »

Single man , XX years old, employed. Would like to meet a single non-smoker for a relationship which would hopefully lead to marriage and children. Please send replys to myemailaddress@hotmail.com.

DEFINITELY do this!! Whats to lose? Id definitely reply to one if I was looking for someone.

No offence to your wording but you might think about adding a couple of bits. Mention some interest of yours, something about your looks, maybe a bit less of the 'marriage and children'.

Just as an example (obviously insert your own interests, looks etc..):
Tall single man, XX years old, employed, enjoys theatre and walks on beach. Would like to find single non smoking lady with a view to serious relationship. Replys to myemailaddress@hotmail.com, no time wasters please.

But yeah, regardless of the wording - which is personal to you - the idea itself is brilliant! Do it!

Kevin Duffy

Singleinthewest wrote: »

Hi, I am currently a single man living and working in the west of Ireland. Like so many other people I find it very difficult to meet somebody as I live in a rural area. I am currently trying online dating but without too much success.

From time to time I see personal ads in the county newspaper, maybe one a month or
so unlike other newspapers where there can be a 2 page spread.

Do you think many women would reply to an add in the county newspaper along the lines of
>Single man , XX years old, employed. Would like to meet a single non-smoker for a >relationship which would hopefully lead to marriage and children. Please send replys to >myemailaddress@hotmail.com.

or would they just find this way of meeting somebody too weird for want of a better word?Your opinions please.

There's a knack to getting the best out of 'net dating. Have a look at the threads in The Gentleman's Club and The Ladies Lounge. I'd say if you can make it work for you, it's the better option as you'll be reaching a wider audience.

mikemac1

Singleinthewest wrote: »

>Single man , XX years old, employed. Would like to meet a single non-smoker for a >relationship which would hopefully lead to marriage and children. Please send replys to >myemailaddress@hotmail.com.

That reads like something you read in Ireland's Own.
All you are missing is how many acres you have and about the quota
Just won't do, it's bit traditional and formal

Yes, head over to Gentlemans club forum and they have over eleven thousand posts about online dating

Hours of reading and any question you possibly have will be answered

Also, join Macra
They run events all the time.
http://www.macra.ie/events
You have everything from drama to debate to dinner dancing to GAA blitzs. There is something for you

Big Bag of Chips

Have you joined any clubs? The thing about rural Ireland is there is loads of clubs going on.

Have a look in the same local paper, and see what you could join up for. Drama groups are good, and if you are not interested in being on stage they are always looking for back stage help, building sets, looking after props etc.

Macra is great to. You could join your local GAA club. Even if you've never played you can help out.

The ad isn't a bad idea, but I wouldn't mention marriage and children specifically!

Even if you do place the ad, I would still recommend joining something in the area. It really is the best way of meeting people who live around you, and you make life long friends, and become part of the community..

rbag

I could have written your message - I'm a female in the West.
Tried online dating - went on 30 dates over the past two years, dated one or two guys for a couple of months. It didn't work for me but know of couples who met online and are married and happy.


Why not try the ad? I'm in my 30's and wouldn't consider it old fashioned. In fact I'm thinking of trying it myself. Hey, you've got nothing to lose....

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies and suggestions. To answer the question about my age, I am 40 years old. I have been based back in my own county for the last 2 years with work and I am keen not to up roots again as I have moved around a bit in the past because of work.

Yes there are things I can do to improve my chances like improve my online profile as well as moving to the town that I work in. Maybe take up hill walking.

I am still into two minds about placing the ad. If I was a few years younger I would never consider it. Also I am not sure a lot of people would reply to the ad as they would think that I am a desperate bachelor living on top of a hill which is not the case.

With regards the wording of the ad it probably could be improved but I think if you want children you have to specify an age group for the
person you want to meet or else mention children in the ad otherwise you will get replies from people who don't want children or are too old to have children.
This is already my experience from online dating. Also my experience is that people don't really pay much attention to your hobbies but that would not bother me at all.

I will have to procrastinate a bit more about it

Eve_Dublin

My dad met my wonderful stepmother through a personal ad in a paper almost 20 years ago (after my own mother died). He was 52 at the time and she was in her late 30s and they're very happy together. My sister helped him with the wording but Username123 suggestions sounds good. I think it's worth a shot anyway and there's something kind of sweet about personal ads that I find more romantic than online dating. Good luck with it OP!!

loloray

Singleinthewest wrote:

Hi, I am currently a single man living and working in the west of Ireland.

rbag wrote: »

I could have written your message - I'm a female in the West.
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I'm in my 30's and wouldn't consider it old fashioned. In fact I'm thinking of trying it myself.

OP, may I introduce to you: rbag. You seem perfect for a date with each other.

mood

Why not try internet dating?

Taltos

loloray - please review our charter - as helpful as you feel you may be muppetry is not tolerated on this forum and will result in warnings / infractions and even a ban.

Taltos

rbag

I'm going to try the ad myself, New Year and all that!!